looks DO NOT fade

gillian1983

i've been browsing threads on here and every time i come across a thread about somebodies looks/personality, people always say ''well its more important for a girl to have a good personality than good looks'' this is completely untrue. most people are nice so good looks are important.
and if a girl is goodlooking she is goodlooking for life. ok maybe she'll look all old at 80 but shes always going to look good in the years that matter.
i.e. if a girl is hot at 20, shes going to be hot at 30, 40 , 50, 60...
thats a whole lot of years and anyone who thinks otherwise is purely jealous... ''oh looks will fade (cos im an ugly one who is jealous)

sure just look at all those gorgeous women of 50... michelle phfieffer/madonna...

agreed?

phasers

Yes because Madonna and Michelle Pfieffer both naturally look like that :rolleyes:

OldGoat

if a girl is hot at 20, shes going to be hot at 30, 40 , 50, 60...

I wish.

panda100

gillian1983 wrote: »

i've been browsing threads on here and every time i come across a thread about somebodies looks/personality, people always say ''well its more important for a girl to have a good personality than good looks'' this is completely untrue. most people are nice so good looks are important.
and if a girl is goodlooking she is goodlooking for life. ok maybe she'll look all old at 80 but shes always going to look good in the years that matter.

What do you mean in the years that matter? Can you not be just as happy at 80 as you were at 18?

I agree that looks don't fade and I dislike that expression. Beauty is really subjective. Personally I value wisdom and experience in a human being and find that attractive so for me age brings beauty.

Lorrrrraine

Matter of opinion, I suppose.
I don't think the argument is that you should be nice because your looks will fade. I think its that you should be nice because you can't (generally) coast through life on what yo mamma gave you.
I don't know anybody that would want to spend their life with a fine thing that had no personality.
I can't imagine how a utterly one-sided person would progress in their job, unless it was just appearance based.
I don't think people want to be the friend/partner of a person who is nothing but a pretty face.

Delicate_Dlite

Gravity

Harrybelafonte

Way off the mark here I'd say, but a very beautiful woman with a failing personality will always lose out to an intelligent, fun woman with failing good looks.

dudara

Some people age badly, some people actually get better with age.

An attractive hot young girl who doesn't take care of herself, who smokes etc is probably going to look like a crone late in life (without plastic surgery).

On the other hand, maturity suits some women - they actually get hotter.

I read a novel recently where the main character was pondering how it was that intelligent women always seem to age better - keeping more of a spark about them.

Dudess

gillian1983 wrote: »

if a girl is hot at 20, shes going to be hot at 30, 40 , 50, 60...
thats a whole lot of years and anyone who thinks otherwise is purely jealous... ''oh looks will fade (cos im an ugly one who is jealous)

Really? I'm delighted for you that you're able to read everyone's mind... Now I'm gonna return the favour: you're unable to accept the reality that looks can indeed fade with time (although not always).

squeakyduck

Looks will fade. But if you are with the right person they will seem as beautiful to them as they day they met. There is something quite sweet about older couples still holding hands or have their arms around each other.

Nowadays celebs are so worried about loosing their looks that they get surgery, so they must not have been confident about their looks in the first place.

Chuchoter

Something tells me the OP is trying to make up for a great lack of brains and personality....

gillian1983

gillian1983 wrote: »

agreed?

no

Dinkie

Looks do fade with time. A women of 40 will not look as fresh as a girl of 20. She can still be attractive however. And some of my friends look better now then they did 10 years ago. I think some of that is due to confidence, happyness, etc.

OP have you not had some threads locked on another forum(s) on similar topics?

shellyboo

gillian1983 wrote: »

people always say ''well its more important for a girl to have a good personality than good looks'' this is completely untrue. most people are nice so good looks are important.

Are you for real? If it's good looks you're looking for go get yourself a mannequin from a clothes shop. Personally, personality wins out for me every single time. It's bizarre that you think looks matter more than personality.

Yumee

I totally agree with OP.. but I think it's more to do with the fact that if a girl is good looking when she is 20/25 she is likely to be into grooming, make-up etc., thus if she isn't one of these girls that lets herself go as they say when she gets married or whatever then she is likely to keep up her grooming routine and retain her 'looks' to a certain extent. Obviously age but be good looking for that age.. i.e. a good looking 50 year old!

I don't think the OP meant that looks were more important than personality.. she was just making the point that she is leaving personality aside for this thread as people in general are nice.

shellyboo

Yumee wrote: »

I totally agree with OP.. but I think it's more to do with the fact that if a girl is good looking when she is 20/25 she is likely to be into grooming, make-up etc., thus if she isn't one of these girls that lets herself go as they say when she gets married or whatever then she is likely to keep up her grooming routine and retain her 'looks' to a certain extent. Obviously age but be good looking for that age.. i.e. a good looking 50 year old!

I don't think the OP meant that looks were more important than personality.. she was just making the point that she is leaving personality aside for this thread as people in general are nice.

Well she said it was "untrue" that personality is more important than looks. So that doesn't leave any other option than looks being more important.

People in general are nice, sure, but 'nice' isn't going to start any fires, is it? My local shopkeeper's nice, the bus driver is nice, the priest is nice. My boyfriend is amazing, interesting, funny, creative, intelligent, devoted. Much more than nice.

jam_mac_jam

Of course looks will fade, its one of the sad things of life that you never appreciate how well you looked in your teens or twenties, utill you get older. some people look better as they get older but that may be down to confidence and better grooming. However no amount of creams, grooming or anything else can stop the inevitable.

Starburst85

sure just look at all those gorgeous women of 50... michelle phfieffer/madonna...

agreed?[/QUOTE]

I thought Michelle and Madonna had plastic surjury or some kind of work done?! :pac:

Yumee

Well it's subjective isn't it? Im sure there is someone out there who thinks your busdriver or shopkeeper is amazing, funny, creative, intelligent etc and that your boyfriend is a just nice. Thing is, you know your boyfriend very well. You don't know your busdriver that well. Most people have a personality that will appeal to somebody, although it is important so are looks! That's the world we live in.

shellyboo

Yumee wrote: »

Well it's subjective isn't it? Im sure there is someone out there who thinks your busdriver or shopkeeper is amazing, funny, creative, intelligent etc and that your boyfriend is a just nice. Thing is, you know your boyfriend very well. You don't know your busdriver that well. Most people have a personality that will appeal to somebody, although it is important so are looks! That's the world we live in.

... and most people have looks that will appeal to somebody. The OP is advocating shallowness and vanity. That's not cool, and most definitely not attractive. It's all very well to have a preference, but I can guarantee you that anyone who prioritises their looks over their personality (because looks don't fade and anyone who says they do are ugly jealous people) isn't gonna fall into anyone's definition of "nice".

Yumee

The OP just said looks are important, she didn't say that they are more important than personality. I wouldn't agree with her is she had. I'm not going to pick apart the opinion she made as I am commenting on her main point which is: if a person is good looking, they are good looking for life. No they don't look the same at 40 as they did when they were 20 but they are good looking for their age.

I don't belive there is anything vain or shallow in taking pride in your appearance or wanting to look good. Don't we all want to be goodlooking?? Why berate someone for it, doesn't hurt anyone.

Storminateacup

I'll be the first to admit I am so shallow and vain its actually disgusting.
But, that said, a girl could be an absolute stunna and if shes got a horrible personality, she seems UGLY.
Look at Rosanna Davison. Picking on some child for telling her to get over herself as she was no longer Miss World. After she was splashed all across the papers for "cyber bullying", and after she kept making "She looks like a horse and I'm clearly gorgeous" comments - you know what? My skin crawls when I see her. I just can't find her attractive.

Thinking back to some girls in school. Sure there was some seriously hot girls, but once you got to know them, and realised they were horrid -- they weren't all that hot anymore.

I think the prettiest girl in our class had a hairy upper lip, a little overweight, but had beautiful eyes, a beautiful shaped face and she was hilarious and friendly and didn't have the "I'm better than everyone else" attitude.

So yeah, i really dont know what Im saying, but it is possible for a girl to "lose her looks" if she has a sh*t personality, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and if the beholder can't stand the beauty, well shes not beautiful any longer, is she?

carolmon

Hi OP
you seem to have changed your opinion radically from an earlier thread where you commented about a colleague:


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i was hazarding a guess as to what age she was as i only had seen her one day. she could be anything from 40 upwards.. all women that age look the same to me..

MissHoneyBun

shellyboo wrote: »

Are you for real? If it's good looks you're looking for go get yourself a mannequin from a clothes shop

Yeah because anyone who's good looking is basically akin to a focking mannequin. God forbid that they might actually have a personality or a modicum of intelligence too-I mean, who do they think they are?!

Sorry now but I am royally sick of people making bullsh|t assumptions that looks and personality are mutually exclusive traits. And seeing as you're willing to cast aspersions over a whole spectrum of people Shellyboo, I'll do similar and hazard a guess that you must be either very narrow-minded or very insecure to arrive at such erratic conclusions. Or do you have a legitimate reason for negatively discriminating against a whole genre of people?

shellyboo wrote: »

It's bizarre that you think looks matter more than personality

Yeah nutbags and their different opinions.. May I ask what you find so bizarre Shellyboo? Because whereas personality and intelligence are of utmost importance to me, I certainly don't see why something so vital in a relationship as aesthetic attraction should be compromised on or regarded as secondary.

Kimia

gillian1983 wrote: »

i've been browsing threads on here and every time i come across a thread about somebodies looks/personality, people always say ''well its more important for a girl to have a good personality than good looks'' this is completely untrue. most people are nice so good looks are important.
and if a girl is goodlooking she is goodlooking for life. ok maybe she'll look all old at 80 but shes always going to look good in the years that matter.
i.e. if a girl is hot at 20, shes going to be hot at 30, 40 , 50, 60...
thats a whole lot of years and anyone who thinks otherwise is purely jealous... ''oh looks will fade (cos im an ugly one who is jealous)

sure just look at all those gorgeous women of 50... michelle phfieffer/madonna...

agreed?

Tbh I have no idea what you're on about. Are you saying that good looks are more important than personality then? Why are you saying that anyone who has a different opinion is jealous or am I reading that wrong? Great way to start a dialogue... Insult anyone who may disagree with you.

mood

I think you view is very shallow. Personality is definately more important. Every guy I have fallen for was because of their personality not their looks.

Mezcita

gillian1983 wrote: »

madonna...

(Wipes tear) Good one.

mood

Mezcita wrote: »

(Wipes tear) Good one.

I have to agree. She has had so much work done she look like a different person (a very strange person!!!).

OldGoat

This thread is not really suited to this forum. It's a discussion on the aesthetic of appearance rather then the practicalities of achieving a given look. It would be better off in tLL or PI or RI or...actually the thread is such a mess that I'm loath to pass it onto anyone else so I’m just going to close it.