Opinions Please!

LegacyUser

Hi guys

First time poster long term reader!

Bit of Background I met the most amazing guy a few months back, I had my heart broken a few years back and this guy came along when I was not looking for any sort of relationship, I was enjoying my single life,anyway long story short, i've totally fallen for him and i'm sure he feels the same the thing is the past 2 weeks I feel as though he is a little bit distant when we arent together,when we are together he is perfect!

We had planned to go abroad on holidays together but at the last minute he changed his mind and I can't figure out why, he says that he would rather wait til next year and just go somewhere in Ireland this year, he went from wanting a sun holiday to 3 days in Donegal, this was all around the same time I started feeling he was getting distant, money is not an issue so I know that is not the problem, he says its work and study commitments but it just doesn't add up to me,i'm not sure if its me being paranoid and over thinking things......opinions please???

LegacyUser

It's so hard to trust your own judgement when your trust has been previously abused. Don't read into things too much. You might have the impression that he's being distant, he probably thinks everything is fine! It doesn't sound dodgy that he wanted to go to Donegal instead of going abroad. I'd take him at face value. I think that's the hallmark of a successful relationship, where each person trusts their partner enough to take them at face value, and not try to second guess their motives.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies guys

Money isn't an issue so thats not the problem at all! I understand that I have issues in relation to trust and he is the first guy I have let myself get close to in a long time but I just can't shake this feeling for the past two weeks...only option is to maybe talk to him!

On the other side the other night he was talking about booking next years holidays now so I don't really know what to think, very confused!

seenitall

I am a great believer in the power of intuition. If your gut feeling is that he has become distant of late, then I would be inclined to trust that feeling. Talk to him.

My guess is that you will know where you're at soon enough, one way or the other.

Best wishes.

Miss Fluff

Your gut is normally spot-on with these things. How has he become more distant though? You don't really go into much detail. Has he stopped instigating contact? Are you seeing less of him? Are you the one having to suggest meet-ups etc?

LegacyUser

Talk to him! You'll only drive yourself mad with paranoia if you don't.