Bridesmaid

Whispered

Hi, just wondering if the bride gets hair and make up trials for the bridesmaids, if so, how many would be the norm?

One BM is telling me that it's very unusual for the bridemaid to have trials and if they do then the bride does not pay for them. Another one is telling me the bride is supposed to look after it.

While I'm on the subject, is the bride to pay for grooming pre wedding for the BM's, you know a manicure, eyebrow shape, fake tan etc.

Thanks.

Bookkeeper09

Hi there,
Ive been Bridesmaid 3 times and have never had a makeup/hair trial!
Have always also paid for my own tan/ manicure etc!

seamus

Whispered wrote: »

Hi, just wondering if the bride gets hair and make up trials for the bridesmaids, if so, how many would be the norm?

One BM is telling me that it's very unusual for the bridemaid to have trials and if they do then the bride does not pay for them. Another one is telling me the bride is supposed to look after it.

Yeah, it would be odd for the bridesmaids to have "trials" unless you're making a day of it as part of the hen or something like that.

While I'm on the subject, is the bride to pay for grooming pre wedding for the BM's, you know a manicure, eyebrow shape, fake tan etc.

The bride basically should pay for everything that the bride is insisting on. If the bride is telling her BM's to be in X place at Y time in order to have their makeup done, then it's only good manners to pay for that. Likewise if the bride (for whatever reason) is insisting on everyone having a spray tan or manicure, she should pay for it.

Whispered

Right so there seems to be no need then. I will see if other posters say the same, maybe you're just a very nice BM bookkeeper

You're right Seamus, I'm not insisting, or even suggesting the BM's have tans or manicures etc. I think they're both gorgeous as they are :pac: I was just wondering if it's manners for me to offer to pay if one of them says they had a hair cut or got a tan, for the wedding, if you know what I mean.

Thanks for your help.

aviendha

oh god no, it's not expected to pay for pre-wedding grooming for BM, nor is it expected that they get trials.

Yes, it is expected that you pay for dresses, makeup and hair on the day, but other things like tan and manicures are purely personal and not necessary (unless you insist that they wear tan/get manicures).

best of luck!:)

tinkerbell

If I were bridesmaid for someone and they told me that I had to get a spray tan (I never ever EVER wear fake tan), then I would be telling them where to go. If they are not happy with me not getting all fake tanned up, they I would say I would rather not be part of the wedding party.

iguana

A good tip would be to join something like City Deals and see if any deal for hair/make up comes up that are valid for a date near your wedding. You might get something like hair/make-up and manicure for cheaper than just the hair.

This is today's deal for example; http://www.citydeal.ie/deals/dublin/beautybaysalon/73638?nlp=&CID=IE_CRM_215_0_0_0&utm_source=Deal_general_newsletter&utm_medium=All_Cities&utm_content=Initial_Version&utm_campaign=Varies

Not what you are looking for but they do have more suitable ones quite regularly.

Cadyboo

If you are very particular about the way their hair is on the day, and you want them to get trials so its perfect, then you pay. If they want a trial themselves, they pay.
You do not need to pay for their grooming. If they want tan, nail etc, for the wedding then they pay. Make up and hair on the day would be part of being your bridesmaid so mostly the bride pays.
IMO it is an honour to be asked to be bridesmaid. However you would still be attending the wedding either way, and would you expect the bride to pay for a guests grooming? Brides already buying dress, shoes, etc.

Beruthiel

Whispered wrote: »

While I'm on the subject, is the bride to pay for grooming pre wedding for the BM's, you know a manicure, eyebrow shape, fake tan etc..

Jeez, what a complete waste of money.
All I'll be asking from my BM is that she showers in the morning and gives her hair a wash.
I'll supply the shampoo.

Whispered

tinkerbell wrote: »

If I were bridesmaid for someone and they told me that I had to get a spray tan (I never ever EVER wear fake tan), then I would be telling them where to go. If they are not happy with me not getting all fake tanned up, they I would say I would rather not be part of the wedding party.

Tinkerbell, what I actually said

I'm not insisting, or even suggesting the BM's have tans or manicures etc. I think they're both gorgeous as they are I was just wondering if it's manners for me to offer to pay if one of them says they had a hair cut or got a tan, for the wedding, if you know what I mean.

But thanks for that completly unrelated post................:pac:

Whispered

Cadyboo wrote: »

If you are very particular about the way their hair is on the day, and you want them to get trials so its perfect, then you pay.

Oh I'm barely bothered about my own hair, never mind the BM's. They both have totally different hair so I was thinking of buying matching hair accessories and having the hair dresser do whatever suits their hair with them.

I just didn't want to sell them short by not offering to pay for their grooming and a few trials if thats what is usually done.

Thanks everyone for your advice. Much appreciated as always.

tinkerbell

Whispered wrote: »

Tinkerbell, what I actually said

But thanks for that completly unrelated post................:pac:

ha ha No I wasn't giving out about what you said!!! I was just saying that if the bride asked me to get a fake tan done then I would be saying no, but yah it was kinda unrelated alright, sorry about that!

Back to your original question though - no you shouldn't have to pay for trials! But you should have to pay for things like the dress, shoes, if you want them to have their hair done and makeup maybe? But trials, definitely not anyway!

emma82

I'm paying for shoes, dresses, hair & make up. Friend is doing tan & nails for me but I'm supplying tan & polishes etc. If I wanted the girls to have tan done in salon then I'd pay for that. I'm in a bother whether they wear tan or not though!!

So in answer to your post- Trials for BM's??? No way!!

bridetobeone

I'm paying for the BM dress's (3) only,im on a budget and they are fully aware of that. If I had the money i'd make sure we were all pampered on the day with tan,nails,make up etc... It's your day after all and it's not about the BM, if they want tan and the whole shibang let them pay for it themselves.

So NO is the answer to your question?

THIS BRIDE IS ONLY GETTING THE DRESS'S!!