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Depressed and fed up

  • 05-09-2010 10:33pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    As the title suggests I am depressed and fed up with life at the moment. Everything is going well bar any hope of developing a relationship which has dragged everything else down for me and makes everything else seem insignificant.

    I'm nearly 19 and have never been in a relationship. I would consider myself a reasonably good looking guy but somewhat overweight - though I have lost alot recently and am continuing to loose weight which is boosting my confidence.

    To elaborate, I have tried but have been rejected everytime. Most recently I was head over heels for a woman for some time but when push came to shove she didn't feel the same way about me which has left me completely gutted.

    I know the responses here are going to be along the lines of: Your young and have your whole life ahead of you, theres no rush. There's someone for everyone.

    While that may be true (though it's hard to see it at the moment) I desperately want someone who feels the same way about me. Someone that loves me back - surely I deserve some happiness too. Don't get me wrong I have had some interest from women but none that I would even begin to consider in that way :S

    I once heard that love and relationships is 95% pain and 5% joy, so far I've experienced 101% pain and no joy. When is it going to be my time, what am I doing wrong? Every single one of my friends are in long term relationships at the moment and I envy what they have so much it's unreal..

    The whole situation has left me feeling very depressed and down. I am generally a very confident guy and have a high self esteem but this has brought everything down. I feel like total shít. It's turned into a laughable matter now, I don't think people even expect me to ever have a relationship or ANY sort of contact with anyone...


Comments

  • #2
    the_monkey
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,556 ✭✭✭the_monkey


    As the old Cliche says , when you stop trying so hard it will happen.

    I used to feel that way, got really into my hobbies - and boom in a happy relationship for the last 5 years (im 32 now..)

    Get stuck into something you love doing, and you'll meet someone.

    Also you are 19 - enjoy your youth ! , it's a great time , you might not feel that way now, but trust me enjoy single life for a few years before settling down.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm twice your age.

    I'm single.

    I've had successes and I've had failures.

    I never put myself under pressure to be in a relationship and wasn't in one til I was 23.

    And it's only now that I know myself that I know the type of partner that I want because I have changed over the years.

    If your friends weren't in LTR's would you be that bothered? At 19 I knew no one going out with anyone long term and very few of my peers had girlfriends.


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