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Totally exasperated at dating

  • 04-09-2010 4:38pm
    #1
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭


    Its not often I meet guys I like but when I don its not good enough - guy at work I really like, think he likes me too but the problem is he's 8 years younger than me - im 27. My friend is horrified and has warned me to 'stay away' from him - yet she goes with anyone as long as he is the same age - thats ok! Another guy I actaully liked that Im met last night is leaving the country soon. I bit thwe bullet and approached him - he was delighted and got me a drink etc. Then I kinda got anxious and said I wanted to find my friend and left him. Not sure why I got anxious to leave.

    Im totally getting fed up of guys coming up to me that I dont like ( although I saw this b4 when a girl who was horrifed when a guy approached her - I thought thats soo not cool of u girl! ) - and other guys assuming that I must have a boyfriend. But when I approach guys I like they are always friendly and interested - but I hate the thoughts of been rejected - yet I dont get rejected. Am I a hopeless case??? Im not desperate for a boyfriend as I know people will say here and I do have other interests but when I keep failing in dating it gets to me. Any advice???? thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    What exactly are you looking for advice on?:confused:


  • #3
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    Kiera wrote: »
    What exactly are you looking for advice on?:confused:

    why i always fail at dating


  • #4
    miec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 ✭✭✭miec


    Its not often I meet guys I like but when I don its not good enough - guy at work I really like, think he likes me too but the problem is he's 8 years younger than me - im 27. My friend is horrified and has warned me to 'stay away' from him

    Why did you listen to your friend? It's your life, see who you want to see.

    In response to the second guy, you disappeared on him - you seem to run away from good situations, you need to look at why you do that, then you will understand why dating goes wrong for you.


  • #5
    S23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 526 ✭✭✭S23


    What miec said is a very good starting point. Make your own decisions on who you date and don't do a legger away from lads you actually strike up a conversation with if you want to get to know him more


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    why did you run away from the guy that bought you a drink, you made the effort to approach him, by the sounds of it it was going well for both of you it made no sense to do this,
    not only did you miss out on what could have been a good chance, you probably hurt the guys feelings as a result


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  • #7
    darad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 109 ✭✭darad


    It sounds like you are too dependent on your friend and her opinions. Lighten up and stop being so hard on yourself. You say why do you always fail at dating but you haven't even got to dating stage yet!


  • #8
    kiwi123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 163 ✭✭kiwi123


    scarymoon1 wrote: »
    why i always fail at dating

    well you've answered your own question in your first post - afraid of rejection - yet you're the one doing the rejecting by running away from the guy who bought you a drink.
    Work on building up your confidence and then if you do get rejected you'll be able to take it on the chin.


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