Another ex thread....

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Looking for a little advice plz...

Basically I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago, it was a really bad break up which i wont go into. We still tried to remain friends and up until now my ex hasnt been able to get over me, we have been in touch nearly everyday with him asking to get back or trying to flirt. We did have an incredible bond, we were so in love it was pretty much what destroyed us in the first place, too possessive, jealousy and paranoia which both of us are guilty of.

I met someone new really soon after we broke up, it was more of a rebound but then i fell pregnant and i soon fell in love with my partner. I love him deeply and hes a great father. I know i am definetly with the right person now.

For the last two years I have gotten kinda used to having my ex want or need me, I have tried to give advice and told him in no certain terms would i ever get back with him, I would never cheat on my current partner and my ex has kissed or had one night stands since me but never a full on relationship or even casual one. I know this because he tells me about it every time it happens almost like he wants to get a reaction out of me, when he tells me this sort of stuff, I dont feel jealous or hurt or anything like that, I would encourage him to go on dates etc. The thing is, it seems like he has now met someone and it looks to be getting serious and now I havent heard from him in a week which is very unusual, now I wouldnt ever text him first because I never wanted to give him the wrong impression that I was still interested in him. It seems like he is now beginning to move on.

My problem is this is bothering me and I dont know why. I should be happy for him but I feel myself resenting his new girl. I think the main reason for this is because we live in a small town and so she is now becoming part of our group and Im scared that I will be left out. I think that I would like to try become friends with this girl just so there is no awkwardness and a divide but then she might feel strange towards me because i am his ex. I havent been able to go out in the last 4 weeks or so due to no babysitter but I have heard that the two of them have been out together with our group and i feel like i am drifting away from him and everyone else. Its hard to explain why I feel this way, its basically because my ex never had a relationship before or after me, we were a great couple and alot of our friends are sad it never worked out, everyone thought we were going to be together forever and so to see my ex with a new girl would be very odd for not only me but for all our friends aswel.

I find it sad sometimes that me and my ex never worked out just because we were so in love but alot happened between us that I know he is definelty not the right person for me and I absolutley adore my partner now and the life we have together with our baby so why am I feeling like this or more to the point how do i get past it.

I secretly want my ex to text me and say he still loves me and is not interested in this girl!! why the hell is that!! its not like I would turn round and say yeah me too, lets be together again cos theres no chance of that happening. i feel awful for thinking it, I always thought I wanted him to meet someone but now its happened, i dont like it. No one knows im feeling this way, I think all my friends would think I wouldnt care that he has met someone else and thats the way I want it to stay.

I dont know what Im looking for really, I just want this horrible feeling in my stomach to go away. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post!!

ash23

Your ex has been boosting your ego and now he's not.

You don't want him but you want him to want you.
You want your friends to welcome your new partner into the fold, but not his new partner. You're jealous that she is out with him and your friends and you aren't.

My advice, leave him alone. Don't try to befriend his girlfriend. be nice to her if you meet her but don't be weird about it. It's unlikely you will become anything more than aquaintences.

Leave him to get on with his life. You should have done that 2 years ago.