Getting turned on by a friend..

LegacyUser

I am really close friends with this girl for about a year now since we started college

We text everyday, hang out alot, talk alot, go out with our bigger group on a sat night etc etc....were very close.

Up until the last month or two i was not attracted to her in the slightest and i know for an fact she dosnt fancy me like that either.

But she was a grower, i started fancing her a bit more within the last monts or two.

anyway that was all grand, the embarassing problem is i tend to get, ya know, turned on 'down below' fairly easily around people i like. very easily in fact. even being around a person is enought ta get the blood flowing to some degree....

now this is a problem beacuse we do have a lot of horseplay (you might call it) sorta fighting each other, giving digs, wrestiling and stuff and a commen tactic is for someon to try give me a jab to the nuts in the process.

im afraid for me life that someone is going to try hit me a jab and feel of see or notice whats going on. and if that happens, i duno, i could die of embaressment

ideas what to do?

d.anthony

turned on wrote: »

I am really close friends with this girl for about a year now since we started college

We text everyday, hang out alot, talk alot, go out with our bigger group on a sat night etc etc....were very close.

Up until the last month or two i was not attracted to her in the slightest and i know for an fact she dosnt fancy me like that either.

But she was a grower, i started fancing her a bit more within the last monts or two.

anyway that was all grand, the embarassing problem is i tend to get, ya know, turned on 'down below' fairly easily around people i like. very easily in fact. even being around a person is enought ta get the blood flowing to some degree....

now this is a problem beacuse we do have a lot of horseplay (you might call it) sorta fighting each other, giving digs, wrestiling and stuff and a commen tactic is for someon to try give me a jab to the nuts in the process.

im afraid for me life that someone is going to try hit me a jab and feel of see or notice whats going on. and if that happens, i duno, i could die of embaressment

ideas what to do?

From my experience, play fighting is a good sign that she might like you too?

Why don't you tell her how you feel, you never know, could be the start of something great!

Darlughda

Yep, playfighting in a mates type friendship like you described is usually a sure indicator that she is turned on by you but does not know what to do or say about it.

If you can't face the serious chat thing why not try kissing her unexpectedly next time you are play fighting, that way you can laugh it off and pretend you were caught up in the antics of the moment if she does not respond

LegacyUser

Darlughda wrote: »

Yep, playfighting in a mates type friendship like you described is usually a sure indicator that she is turned on by you but does not know what to do or say about it.

If you can't face the serious chat thing why not try kissing her unexpectedly next time you are play fighting, that way you can laugh it off and pretend you were caught up in the antics of the moment if she does not respond

no no ye'r missing the problem!

just, first of all i wouldnt go for her because 1) she is intrested in someone else and 2) i overheard one of her chats on facebook about how much she actually didnt like the way i look, even though were friends

but the relationship is irrelevent!

the problem is me being turned on by her and someone noticing the irrigular shaped trousers that has me worried.. i had a few near misses already with people noticing

karaokeman

How do you know she doesn't like you that way.

Maybe the whole chat thing on facebook was because she's in denial.

You will never know unless you give it a shot and see how it goes.

Also if she criticized the way you dress, maybe you should look at it as constructive criticism. She might just want you to dress better because she would prefer that.

See how it goes anyway and try to talk with her about this. If not make a movie date or whatever and get to know her one on one.

Good luck.

princeofparma

Next time you two are wrestling or whatever and the blood starts flowing just let her bump off you and when she discovers you have an erection just look her in the eyes smile and kiss her. One thing should lead to another after that. You wouldn't die of embarrasment if you are getting hot and heavy with a gorgeous girl?

minidazzler

OP, it's a boner, lads get them all the time, for no good reason, you will get slagged if caught with one, but other than that noone will think anyhting of it.

GTE

In those situations, not that it happens a lot to me, just say it should be a complement to her in a joking way which when you think about it is whats happening in a way.

I think you can worry over that happening a lot but at the end of the day you could sneeze all over her face for absolutely no reason at all.

The sneeze may not be forgiven as easily but Im sure if you have a friendship that has the bedrock it has she should understand if she finds out there is an event happening down there.

Our male events dont have a clear black and white reason for their happening, they happen and if they happen while she is wrestling with you, well, she better understand

Dont worry too much about it, happy wrestling and dont be afraid to move a little closer if you fall onto the ground.

Kidchameleon

Men get bones every day, if your embarrassed or your friends slag you over something natural then you guys need to grow up