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Dont wanna upset him

  • 28-08-2010 10:59pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey guys,
    Female, 19....

    Basically, i have a dilemma. dunno if it will make sense.......

    my guy friend is in love with me ....
    apparently, to everyone, hes been holding the torch for a while. and ive only just put 2 and 2 together after 6years. . .

    the problem: me.


    im a very confused, undecided, and flaky individual.
    i have no idea what i want.
    i love the idea of love ..but when it comes to the intimate/commitment stuff, i cant follow through.
    in the past, ive even found it hard to believe a guy geniunely liked me. of course, due to my indecisive behaviour, they walked away.
    when i get ideas into my head, its all great but following through isnt.
    thats my issue. im a hot/cold person. and the girls have mentioned "tease".

    and knowing this, im afraid ill hurt him. i should be with someone like him, compared to the asshóles ive been with.
    i cant even make up my mind if i like him that way or not.

    i can sense he's gonna tell me, and ill of course get goldfish syndrome and go run away
    i know that sounds really silly...

    sorry if i dont make sense. but all my thoughts are crazy right now!! sorry!!


    Thanks guys


Comments

  • #2
    anniehoo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭anniehoo


    Honest answer. Dont go there. Hate to use the age card here..but at 19 you're still figuring out what you do want,dont want and shouldnt want. Just because your friend loves you doesnt mean you have to reciprocate. It happens all the time...he'll either get over it and you'll stay friends or you wont.

    Dont settle petal ;)


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    **

    i find it very hard to get into the intimate physical side too, which worries me, cause when i dont have a guy, i want it badly. then when theres a guy standing there, who wants me, i back off....

    soooo confused! and cant express myself to make it all worse


  • #4
    Agent J
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,909 ✭✭✭Agent J


    Its a bad idea at any age.

    You either have feelings or you dont. They wont grow over time and if the thought hasnt happened over the last 6 years...

    Also if you take a chance and it doesnt work out. You will loose the friendship.

    If if he brings it up then shoot him down quickly and decisively. If you give him any hope he will latch on to it.


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