am i right to be annoyed??

LegacyUser

was just talkin to my mum on the phone and she was chatting away, then goes oh are you comin to the christeneing tomoro? i asked her what she was on a bout. apparantly my bro and missuss are christening their baby tomoro and nobody thought to let me know. i moved away to a different town a few months back and am not as in touch with everyone as i was before but surely it wouldnt kill them to let me know. in fairness i lost my fone during the week so maybe the tried ringing. i doubt it tho cause when i found it no missed calls voice mails or texts. but surely they had this planned for a bit.. also they have my bf's number and im on facebook and so are they. there baby is nearly 8 mths and they left it so late cause she was a difficult baby but i just assumed that when they decided to do it id be informed. i'll bet im the only eejit who didnt know aswell tho i cant get in touch with anyone at the min.... im very upset over this and bf is annoyed. he has to go to help a friend with stuff tomoro and cant cancel that, i dont drive and our puppy is a little under the weather at the mo so it looks like i wont be able to go now. im so upset and annoyed. am i being unreasonable do ye think??

Chinafoot

If there are no problems between you, your brother and his partner then I'd assume it was a case of miscommunication. They might have assumed your mam was going to let you know the details if they dont see you regularly. Your brother's missus might have left it up to him to let his side of the family know and maybe (if he's anything like my other half) he didn't do quite a thorough job. I wouldn't be too hurt until you actually know what happened. Have you contacted your brother? Give him a ring and explain that you had no idea it was tomorrow. Ask him why he didn't tell you.

What did your mam say when you told her you knew nothing about it?

LegacyUser

my mum was surprised. she said that she assumed that they had called as everyone is goin. i started to give out and she said dont blame me. of course i dont blame her im just appaled that they never contacted me, that nobody has. i get on okay with my brother. she can be a bit odd but theres no bad blood that i know of. we wouldnt be very close. id imagine they are having a low key thing and thats fine, im not looking for a party, just to be included. despite this i know low key would still involve inviting siblings. they can be a bit scatty but i think this is a very big oversight. i probably cant go now and im upset.

LegacyUser

If your family is anything like mine OP I wouldn't take it personally. Whenever there is any sort of celebration our parents are told and then it usually trickles out to the rest of us. Nobody really feels the need to invite everyone individually it's kind of just a given that everyone knows and will turn up.

I'd say it probably just didn't get to you as you're out of the loop a bit at the moment.

whatsamsn

Like most things in life op this is where your gut instinct and senses come into play.

In situations like these you can get all the excuses. Tried ringing you etc etc. And very rarely will things just be said the way they are.

So use your gut. If you think you were left out of this by intention. Then theres your answer.

dammitjanet

I moved out recently too and this kind of stuff always happens to me with my family! There's never anything behind it, for the most part my sisters just forget that I don't live at home anymore and so don't get messages via my parents.
I wouldn't take it personally but I do think you should give your brother a call, don't go mad at him, but just give him the chance to appologise