Don't know how to approach her.

LegacyUser

So basically there's a girl that I like.I would like to start something with this girl but I'm too nervous and clueless about what to say.When I say "start something" I don't mean going straight into a relationship,I mean taking it slow and seeing what happens.

I'm thinking of approaching this girl soon and saying something to her but I don't know what to say.We're already on a talking basis because I would meet her out some nights.I know she will be out this weekend because her sister told me she would be,(her sister knows that I like her and said that she would help me anyway she could),so I'm thinking of doing it this weekend.Can someone please give me an idea of what to say to her?

If anyone wants me to elaborate on something just ask.Thanks.

Abi

HowToGoAboutIt wrote: »

So basically there's a girl that I like.I would like to start something with this girl but I'm too nervous and clueless about what to say.When I say "start something" I don't mean going straight into a relationship,I mean taking it slow and seeing what happens.

Nobody does that

I'm thinking of approaching this girl soon and saying something to her but I don't know what to say.We're already on a talking basis because I would meet her out some nights.I know she will be out this weekend because her sister told me she would be,(her sister knows that I like her and said that she would help me anyway she could),so I'm thinking of doing it this weekend.Can someone please give me an idea of what to say to her?

If anyone wants me to elaborate on something just ask.Thanks.

Start a conversation with her. I've no idea what you know about her already, but ask her about what you do know about - her job etc. find some common ground and work with it. with a bit of back and forth in conversation, you'd be surprised how long you get talking to someone for. The most important thing is be genuine, yourself, and take things easy. If you're enjoying each others company, just ask her if she'd like to come out for a few drinks, just you and her



best of luck.

gossipgal08

What age is she. Watch the repeats of X factor and ask her what she thinks of this years contestents

LegacyUser

gossipgal08 wrote: »

What age is she. Watch the repeats of X factor and ask her what she thinks of this years contestents

She's 18.As far as I know she doesn't watch it.

I_AmThe_Walrus

HowToGoAboutIt wrote: »

So basically there's a girl that I like.I would like to start something with this girl but I'm too nervous and clueless about what to say.When I say "start something" I don't mean going straight into a relationship,I mean taking it slow and seeing what happens.

I'm thinking of approaching this girl soon and saying something to her but I don't know what to say.We're already on a talking basis because I would meet her out some nights.I know she will be out this weekend because her sister told me she would be,(her sister knows that I like her and said that she would help me anyway she could),so I'm thinking of doing it this weekend.Can someone please give me an idea of what to say to her?

If anyone wants me to elaborate on something just ask.Thanks.

Come on, man.

You're not American - things don't have to be this hard.

LegacyUser

I_AmThe_Walrus wrote: »

things don't have to be this hard.

They do when you're very shy with these situations.

I_AmThe_Walrus

HowToGoAboutIt wrote: »

They do when you're very shy with these situations.

If her sister knows you like her, then she knows you like her - first and foremost. Sisters tell each other everything. Have you seen her looking at you? If you don't get obvious signs of attraction from her, she may not be interested I'm afraid.

Exclamation Marc

If ya wanna start something and are very shy I don't personally recommend trying anything big on a night out if you're both drunk as I always find nightclubs are awful places to start anything, but thats a personal reflection. Dutch Courage works both very well and very badly!

Maybe when you see her on the weekend when you're out, just keep the chat completely on a level of chat you'd have with a platonic friend, about something you know she's interested in (find out off the sis). Have a great night and just ensure you get on but don't look to get a follow-up on the night out, just keep it fun so when she goes home she remembers you were good fun and ye get on really well.

The next day maybe give her a text or a facebook message saying "enjoy last night? had a great one myself, any plans for the week?" or something simple along those lines. From that ask her if she wants to hang out sometime, or go out for a drink, or go to the cinema or something.

At the end of the day, you're in a win-win situation. You have nothing to lose, because if you try and she doesn't like you, you'll at least know how she feels and save yourself time, but if she does you'll be happy out

Good luck!

LegacyUser

I_AmThe_Walrus wrote: »

If her sister knows you like her, then she knows you like her - first and foremost. Sisters tell each other everything. Have you seen her looking at you? If you don't get obvious signs of attraction from her, she may not be interested I'm afraid.

She is very close with her sister so if what you said is anything to go on then she definetly knows that I like her.I have caught her looking at me on numerous occasions before and have been told by friends that she keeps looking at me.I'm happy out now.

LegacyUser

FireballPitcher wrote: »

If ya wanna start something and are very shy I don't personally recommend trying anything big on a night out if you're both drunk as I always find nightclubs are awful places to start anything, but thats a personal reflection. Dutch Courage works both very well and very badly!

Maybe when you see her on the weekend when you're out, just keep the chat completely on a level of chat you'd have with a platonic friend, about something you know she's interested in (find out off the sis). Have a great night and just ensure you get on but don't look to get a follow-up on the night out, just keep it fun so when she goes home she remembers you were good fun and ye get on really well.

The next day maybe give her a text or a facebook message saying "enjoy last night? had a great one myself, any plans for the week?" or something simple along those lines. From that ask her if she wants to hang out sometime, or go out for a drink, or go to the cinema or something.

At the end of the day, you're in a win-win situation. You have nothing to lose, because if you try and she doesn't like you, you'll at least know how she feels and save yourself time, but if she does you'll be happy out

Good luck!

I'm not a big drinker to begin with anyway and neither is she,so theres no fear of either party being drunk.

Well I know she has a big interest in music,as do I....so thats a good thing.I'm not expecting much more than a mobile number this weekend anyway.As I said I want to take it slow.I might send her the text asking how her night went and seeing when she's going out again or if she wants to do something sometime.

I'm feeling myself getting more confident about this so thats good.

Thanks for the advice.