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Can't seem to find a balance

  • 24-08-2010 3:17pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, been single for nearly 3 years after a LTR.

    The LTR ended badly, self esteem and self confidence was smashed to smithereens.
    After a few months I pulled myself together and my self confidence soared.
    I thought nothing of making the move on a man and I was very busy dating and scoring. But these flings never amounted to anything.

    On the advice of my peers I cooled it, let the guys do the chasing. But obviously the attention dwindled to the point where I haven't been approached in months and now my self confidence is in pieces again and it's having an impact on other areas of my life.

    I feel myself reverting to old form, being paranoid and down in myself. I don't like how I look, I worry that my friends are getting annoyed by me and as a result I'm keeping away from them. I feel excluded and unwanted.

    I know it shouldn't have this much of an affect on me but it does, it always has. I need vindication in order to feel attractive and I need to feel attractive in order to feel confident in myself.

    I just don't know what to do. Do I go back to my zany, hectic single life? Which in truth isn't what I want. I want something more meaningful. Or do i plough through this melancholy in the hope that there will be a turning point?

    PS Mods, if this is more a PI than a relationship issue, feel free to move it. Thanks


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    If you know that's not wt you want, then don't go there.

    Enjoy the moments with yourself. You dont need other people's opinions about you to build yourself up.

    Do something you like, build up an interest. Do have social life but yea, maybe switch off your radar for a while.

    Again, enjoy.


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