Getting over someone

LegacyUser

Im going unreg for this but want peoples views and help or advice.

I like this girl for ages now and we were at a party. At the end of the night i gave her my number. Its not something i normally do cause im shy, but i thought i should take a chance while drunk. She gave me hers. Then kissed me. But she has a boyfriend which i didn't know about and she wasnt drunk while kissing me and giving me her number. So she knew what she was at. I texted her the day after and its been two weeks and no reply. I deleted her number but i dont understand how she could kiss me on the lips. Its not as if she was drunk so she has no excuse. I think she always knew i liked her but why lead me on by kissing me. I would much prefer if she didnt do anything which im more used to.

beks101

She liked the attention from you and the fact that you are clearly interested, and the ego boost that followed on from that.

Maybe she liked you too, who knows, but I'd say the kiss was a spur-of-the-moment thing and in the clear light of day she's realised that it's an impossible situation - she has a boyfriend.

Onwards and upwards OP. You seem like a nice genuine guy and I know it's hard when you don't meet many people that you really like, to move on and forget about this certain someone. But the truth is you deserve better. Draw a line under it, get back out there and keep at it. There's loads of lovely ladies out there who will definitely text you back!:)

Sanjuro

Unfortunately, it sounds like this girl likes to give people the run-around. Some people just like playing games. They like the attention, the thought of being desired, and the ego boost that comes with these things. And they'll chase that feeling in spite of other peoples' feelings. Don't take it too personally, OP. It smarts, but it speaks volumes about her personality. She doesn't sound like a nice person. You'll find somebody definitely worth your time!

LegacyUser

Yup op unfortunately had this happen to me twice, except i'm a girl, one guy i liked for ages, one night out he spent the whole night flirting with me, so i kissed him, he kissed me back, and 5 mins later he told me he had a gf, his excuse was: his girlfriend was his best friend, but i was really good looking..wtf? anyway op some people just love the attention and need the validation that they can still 'pull someone' even though they're in a relationship, it really shows you their true colours, count it as a lucky escape, if she can cheat on her boyfriend she'd do it to you too, if she can kiss another man while sober, who knows what she'd be willing to do when drunk...

look at it as an ego boost, you're so attractive she couldn't keep her hands off you even though she has a boyfriend shes not worth your energy op, you deserve someone a lot lot better

LegacyUser

I didn't think it would feel so horrible. I haven't slept or eaten properly since it happened. It always happens to me. The people im interested in never feel the same. Would have prefered if she walked away but im left wondering now, did she ever like me. Obviously not enough.

LegacyUser

Yeah it feels pretty crap op, that nice butterfly in the stomach feeling you get when you kiss someone you're mad about, and then 2 seconds later they take it all away, and you realise they're not the person you thought they were..they'e actually not a nice person at all

Would have prefered if she walked away but im left wondering now, did she ever like me. Obviously not enough.

OP she obviously liked you, she gave you her number SHE kissed YOU remember, however clearly she has very low morals and to be honest you're better off single than with a head***k like her.

It always happens to me. The people im interested in never feel the same.

This has no reflection on you, it has nothing to do with you, its because shes just not a nice person.

You sound young OP, life isn't fair i'm afraid, we all have to take knocks, its how you deal with them that counts . OP it just takes time, look at it this way, the next person you meet could be the person you spend the rest of your life with, so enjoy your freedom while you can You will find someone.

LegacyUser

Thanks guys. Suppose there's nothing i can do. At least i tried.

Sanjuro

whathappened wrote: »

Thanks guys. Suppose there's nothing i can do. At least i tried.

Believe me, in time, that'll stand to you. There's nothing worse than looking back and thinking 'if only I had done this...' You're a better person for this incident, even though it wasn't a particularly pleasant one.