Church wedding. This time with a poll!

robindch

Following on from the "Church wedding" thread, what are people's opinions on this?

To set the scene for A+A people, you've been invited to a wedding of some good friends or family and they're having a religious service. Nothing too heavy, just a bit of god stuff and nothing specifically impugning the integrity of atheists or agnostics, gays, lesbians etc.

For any religious folks, same wedding, but a non-religious service and no discussion about god at all, no quoting Dawkins, no impugning the integrity of religious people.

krudler

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Wouldnt even be an issue for me, its not my wedding so all I have to do it sit there, mutter along with all the other people who dont know the words to the prayers and ogle the bridesmaids.

Malari

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

krudler wrote: »

Wouldnt even be an issue for me, its not my wedding so all I have to do it sit there, mutter along with all the other people who dont know the words to the prayers and ogle the bridesmaids.

No muttering for me. Or any other stand-up/kneel down stuff. But yeah, I've gone to several religious weddings, and they are quite funny. The only drawback is that churches tend to be FREEZING in the winter!

Shenshen

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

robindch wrote: »

Following on from the "Church wedding" thread, what are people's opinions on this?

To set the scene for A+A people, you've been invited to a wedding of some good friends or family and they're having a religious service. Nothing too heavy, just a bit of god stuff and nothing specifically impugning the integrity of atheists or agnostics, gays, lesbians etc.

For any religious folks, same wedding, but a non-religious service and no discussion about god at all, no quoting Dawkins, no impugning the integrity of religious people.

I have to ask : How long, and how cold will it be?
As I said in the other thread, I've been in the past been made to sit through 2 hours in below 0 temperatures, so I've become a bit careful.

Other than that, I don't have a problem.

Pushtrak

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

If I felt it was important, I'd be there. I wouldn't just think "Ooh! Wedding. I'm there."

Bottle_of_Smoke

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Catholic weddings are so boring. No wonder there's always kids running around and screaming

amacachi

Not been to a full wedding here since I was about 5. Went to one in England when I was about 14, was only the length of a regular mass which was nice.
Any time I do have to go to mass for funerals or whatever I'll stand but usually not kneel and just keep my mouth shut.

Dades

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I was at a church wedding last week.
One of the priests from my old school did the service.

To be fair he could have been dissing atheists and gay people for an hour as nobody was really listening where I was sitting.

Funglegunk

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I was at my sister's wedding in Spain which among other things involved drinking beer beside the pool in the sun. Don't think anybody would let their atheism get in the way of that...

bringitdown

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Have attended a couple of friends weddings and it doesn't bother me, some are 'genuinely' religious, others are doing it for their parents sake more than anything ... thankfully they have all had more original receptions than the ones with fanta filled feckers ... only cringe worthy part is when the priest / celebrant inevitably rattles on about the love between the couple ... it seems a bit hypocritical.

Am getting married myself this year and there shall be no trace of religion at our ceremony ... thankfully my parents (who are religious) have had no objections ...

Zamboni

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

It's not even a remote issue for me.
I wouldn't be participating in any of the kneeling or general flexion malarkey though.

I go to my mates religious weddings and they came to my non religious wedding.
No issues, just booze.

PDN

I’m religious and wouldn’t go to family/friend’s non-religious wedding because of lack of religion

I think your poll options for the religious are based on a false premise.

In my experience some religious people would refuse to attend a wedding because of the wrong kind of religion, not the lack of religion.

amacachi

Do the Catholic Church still require the pre-marriage training or whatever they call it? Ya know, 10 hours of a celibate priest giving two people tips on a successful marriage? :pac:

storm2811

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I hate weddings anyway,so long and boring but I would of course go to a friends wedding,whether it was a church ceremony or not.

Funglegunk

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

amacachi wrote: »

Do the Catholic Church still require the pre-marriage training or whatever they call it? Ya know, 10 hours of a celibate priest giving two people tips on a successful marriage? :pac:

They sure do. And it's apparently just as much fun as you'd think.

krudler

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

amacachi wrote: »

Do the Catholic Church still require the pre-marriage training or whatever they call it? Ya know, 10 hours of a celibate priest giving two people tips on a successful marriage? :pac:

The church, for all its faults, does have a fantastic sense of irony it would seem.

krudler

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Malari wrote: »

No muttering for me. Or any other stand-up/kneel down stuff. But yeah, I've gone to several religious weddings, and they are quite funny. The only drawback is that churches tend to be FREEZING in the winter!

Have a laugh with the standing/kneeling (not at a wedding,the bride will kill you but just go to mass for the giggles) and just start standing at random times, and watch the entire congregation follow, sheeple that they are.

Ickle Magoo

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I've never turned down an invite to a friend or family members wedding for any other reason than a prior commitment preventing me attending...any other reason is a bit

Malari

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

krudler wrote: »

Have a laugh with the standing/kneeling (not at a wedding,the bride will kill you but just go to mass for the giggles) and just start standing at random times, and watch the entire congregation follow, sheeple that they are.

Brides tend to have their back turned to the audience for church services so it's ok. I'm not going to do anything to offend the couple! :cool:

Sheeple...I like it

MagicMarker

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

If it were someone I wasn't very close to (friend of a friend/work colleague), then I probably wouldn't go.

Close friends or family? I would go. Although if the ceremony is going to take an hour or two I'd seriously consider asking them if I could skip it.

Dades

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Funglegunk wrote: »

They sure do. And it's apparently just as much fun as you'd think.

It's not always "enforced". We were encouraged to go, but never did.

Besides, I suspect most of the people running the course are lay-people. There's a priest shortage, dontcha know.

Max Power1

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

It wouldnt stop me from going (a religious wedding). However I would normally ditch the church part and just go to the afters, unless the person was close to me.

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I didn't mind my uncle's wedding, the priest was the bride's brother and we had a nice chat. He studied physics!
The mass was a bit of a yawn but sure it's their day.
They insisted everyone get up for communion but you could signal to the priest that you weren't having it and he'd just bless you instead. It was all grand.

I wouldn't go to a wedding in general unless it was close family/friend I think, I didn't go to a distant cousin's wedding as I didn't know them...

magicbastarder

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

bluewolf wrote: »

the priest was the bride's brother and we had a nice chat. He studied physics!

my science teacher in first year in school was a priest who has a PhD in astrophysics.

magicbastarder

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

magicbastarder wrote: »

my science teacher in first year in school was a priest who has a PhD in astrophysics.

Cool

my ex and I thought it was great as we were both doing physics at the time also.
We asked what made him become a priest but he got a vague faraway look and said it was a story for another time or something

krudler

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

bluewolf wrote: »

Cool

my ex and I thought it was great as we were both doing physics at the time also.
We asked what made him become a priest but he got a vague faraway look and said it was a story for another time or something

he had 2 brothers, one a guard, one a doctor?

Shenshen

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

bluewolf wrote: »

I didn't mind my uncle's wedding, the priest was the bride's brother and we had a nice chat. He studied physics!
The mass was a bit of a yawn but sure it's their day.
They insisted everyone get up for communion but you could signal to the priest that you weren't having it and he'd just bless you instead. It was all grand.

I wouldn't go to a wedding in general unless it was close family/friend I think, I didn't go to a distant cousin's wedding as I didn't know them...

Just out of curiosity... why would they insist everybody get up for communion?

krudler

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Shenshen wrote: »

Just out of curiosity... why would they insist everybody get up for communion?

Saving on the money spent feeding people at the afters?

Kooli

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Shenshen wrote: »

Just out of curiosity... why would they insist everybody get up for communion?

I guess that they don't like the look of all the people staying in their seats. I quite like when you go up for the blessing, cos the signal you give is like the 'X-factor' signal, which is quite fun.

Tim Robbins

Kooli wrote: »

I guess that they don't like the look of all the people staying in their seats. I quite like when you go up for the blessing, cos the signal you give is like the 'X-factor' signal, which is quite fun.

We had a church wedding with a Bertrand Russell reading. Music was also secular.

ChocolateSauce

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I'd go, and just so long as I wasn't expected to participate in any religious hooha, I'd have nothing to complain about. It's their day, not mine!

Shenshen

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Shenshen wrote: »

Just out of curiosity... why would they insist everybody get up for communion?

To get everyone included I guess, and maybe to save anyone going up tripping over other people remaining seated?

krudler wrote:

he had 2 brothers, one a guard, one a doctor?

Wha?

Canis Lupus

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

I've gone to a few of my girlfriends friends weddings, it's a bit on the boring side but I consider it payment for the food and drink that comes later Oddly, to the best of my knowledge none of them believe in god but a wedding isn't a wedding without a church.....

Furthermore my GF is an atheist but gives out to me for not singing along with the hymns during the service.....

MagicMarker

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

They sing hymns!?

Fúck that, how do I change my vote?

Mackman

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Why would someone not go? Would you not go to funeral's either?
I hate this moral superiority attitude that some athiests have, get off your high horse.
Believe it or not, a wedding is about the couple, not the curch :rolleyes:

Zulu

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Poll confirms: people aren't as much of a dick as they let on!

MagicMarker

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

Mackman wrote: »

Why would someone not go? Would you not go to funeral's either?
I hate this moral superiority attitude that some athiests have, get off your high horse.
Believe it or not, a wedding is about the couple, not the curch :rolleyes:

Look at the muthafúckin' poll!

Mackman

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

MagicMarker wrote: »

Look at the muthafúckin' poll!

haha yeah, my comment wasnt aimed at anyone, just in general.:)

Dont be at yourself

I’m religious and would go to family/friend’s irreligious wedding, despite the lack of religion

I, uhh, clicked on the wrong option.

MagicMarker

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

NekkidBibleMan wrote: »

I, uhh, clicked on the wrong option.

You ruined it!

robindch

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

MagicMarker wrote: »

You ruined it!

There's always one!

Dont be at yourself

I’m religious and would go to family/friend’s irreligious wedding, despite the lack of religion

I feel so alone! I'm never going to get invited to a wedding now!

Dades

I’m atheist/agnostic and wouldn’t go to a family/friend’s wedding because of the religion

NekkidBibleMan wrote: »

I feel so alone! I'm never going to get invited to a wedding now!

You probably wouldn't go anyway! :pac: