Is he on Drugs?

LegacyUser

My ex boyfriend has a history with drugs. I'm not entirely sure which ones, the only ones I'm aware of are hash & weed. However, I think he's injecting himself as he has a massive lump on his face and he just seems in bits these days! He honestly looks like one of those junkies you'd see hanging around tara st station.

Anyways he's been sending me the WEIRDEST texts of late. Answering questions which I haven't asked .. :S

Like for instance he sent me one last night at 4 in the morning saying "2 answr ur question i am lukin in2 movin ou n havin me own lil luv shack xx" - I never sent him a text asking was he moving out, i didn't even send ANY text in order to receive that response! And it wasn't for someone else as he mentioned my name in the text..a few days ago he sent me one going "pull out :P Ha pull out, u durty bold girl u craic me up yano that ha :P" - I never sent him any text! It's like he's texting an imaginary person because I don't text him or respond to his texts, the odd one I do and it's always like "what are you on about u nut".

It really is beginning to freak me out. I care so so much for him because I know he's going down a worrying path and I pray to God he doesn't end up in the gutter because his two brothers died from drugs.

Anything I can do? Or does anyone know what could be causing him to send such texts?

seamus

If he's strung out, then he could easily be imagining that he's having or has had a conversation with you. He could also be remembering conversations long passed and in his state doesn't realise that and is continuing them on or answering a question.

He's your ex. His drug problem is his problem. Whether or not you get involved is up to you, but ultimately unless he wants to get off the drugs then he's not going to, and you could spend years fighting for him and dealing with the pain. Or you could just wash your hands of him now, ignore his texts and let him live his life whatever way he wants to.

LegacyUser

never go back to him, he would ruin your life. and both of you would end up in misery.

give him some information you know and tell him to get rid of the drugs.

and leave him there. you've done your things. never reply strange messages of him. i think he was imaging talking with you while he was on drug.

if you want to get involved, be in a proper distanced that he would not lean on you. he should get professional help himself.

LegacyUser

seamus wrote: »

If he's strung out, then he could easily be imagining that he's having or has had a conversation with you. He could also be remembering conversations long passed and in his state doesn't realise that and is continuing them on or answering a question.

He's your ex. His drug problem is his problem. Whether or not you get involved is up to you, but ultimately unless he wants to get off the drugs then he's not going to, and you could spend years fighting for him and dealing with the pain. Or you could just wash your hands of him now, ignore his texts and let him live his life whatever way he wants to.

I can see where you are coming from but at the same time what is he was your son/brother? You would try and help wouldn't you? That's how I feel.

I forgot to mention he texted me last week cutting contact saying that he's with someone now and that it wouldn't be fair to keep me in the loop so I wb nicely wishing him good luck with her etc. And only a week later he's sending me these? I just don't get it. It is playing on my mind because I do care an awful lot for him.

Can hash have that effect on you or do you think he's on something a lot more serious?

Thanks for your response btw

Ickle Magoo

If it was a family member then I would help because they are my family and I have a vested interest in their welfare and would feel responsible for doing all I can for them.

I wouldn't feel that for an ex, especially one who cut me out the loop because they were moving on and only gets back in contact to garble some incoherent drug-addled imagined conversation. Presumably he has his own best mates and family, I don't know why you'd want to invest the time and energy in something you have little control or responsibility for - especially if it involves him being off his face on drugs....unless you still want a relationship of sorts and see this as a way to stay in his life?

I don't think it's possible to know what kind of drugs he's on but it's more than the odd puff on a spliff if he's imagining conversations.

Best of luck

seamus

worriedOP wrote: »

I can see where you are coming from but at the same time what is he was your son/brother? You would try and help wouldn't you? That's how I feel.

He's not your family though. He's an ex boyfriend who has now cut you out of his life, so you should reciprocate. By all means tell him to cop onto himself, but once you've done it, then that's all you can do; live your own life and don't let this waster drag you down with him.

Can hash have that effect on you or do you think he's on something a lot more serious?

Yes, he could easily be way off his head on weed. But it's hard to say. Weed can be addictive in the same way that alcohol is addictive but most weed addicts are still functional - they eat, sleep, work and interact with people normally. Unless you know someone personally, it's difficult to spot an habitual weed user. People addicted to heavier stuff like crack or heroin tend to forgoe everything else in favour of getting off their heads. They stop working, they stop interacting with people normally, they stop eating. This is what causes the usual gaunt and pale look of a junkie.

pappyodaniel

Sounds to me like he may have some symptoms of schizophrenia.

Eircom_Sucks

why not change your number and start a fresh !!!!!!!!

forget him

Ickle Magoo

pappyodaniel, as per the forum rules, please do not attempt to make an internet diagnosis.

Many thanks

Ickle

Bottle_of_Smoke

Its definitely not just hash.

I'd say he's either gotten too into mephedrone(the drug that was recently made illegal not the heroin substitute) but honestly I'd be more inclined to think he has a delusion related mental illness. Both would explain the strung out look and dodgy texts.

Talk to people who still see him regularly and how long this has been going on. Give him a ring. He said no contact but I think you have genuine cause to break that rule based on his behaviour

LegacyUser

Is it possible the texts were sent to make you jealous? Maybe to make you think they were meant for the new lady in his life, that he mentioned the previous week, but got sent to you by accident ie: look what a dirty little time they seem to be having without you...is he the type to play mind games?

I'd honestly doubt weed alone would make someone go that crazy unless there was already some underlying mental issues there (you mentioned he is not new to it like) so unless he's on something new now as well, you probably would have noticed signs of this "madness" before if weed was all it was. Although it shouldn't ever have that kind of effect on an otherwise sane person...I don't even know what to make of the lump on his face...it may be an abcess? my dad had one before, easily sorted by the doc, also good excuse to get him in the door of the practice...

A lad I knew in college went a bit mad on mephadrone from the headshops like another poster mentioned, sounded a bit like that though, a lot of his world went on in his head like, but it's hard to tell without knowing the lad though. I wouldn't rule out mind games he's playing with you though, and if that's what it is, it seems to be working, no offence intended, but he now has you thinking about him and worrying about him enough to go seeking the advice of strangers on an internet forum instead of moving on with your life and forgetting about him...just a thought

Hamiltonion

If you suspect he's EVER been into IV drug use you should sort out an STD test, better safe than sorry