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Life-changing devestating news

  • 23-08-2010 12:01am
    #1
    lifeistooshort
    Closed Accounts Posts: 24 ✭


    Hi everyone

    I have recently received some news that I just cant deal with. Its about a very good friend, he might have a very serious illness. I just cant cope with the news, every breath I take is literally torture. Every minute since I heard of the news I have felt helplesss, I really dont know how to cope with bad news


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  • #2
    going un-reg
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 98 ✭✭going un-reg


    Hi OP,

    I can understand the situation you're in, I too have been in something similiar. Not to come off sounding harsh, this isnt about you, its about him/her. Feeling all down and depressed isnt helping their situation, you need to be strong for your friend, you need to be that shoulder they can turn to, as no doubt they will need that support.

    Yes the initial realisation as to what situation they're in is shocking, and can be hurtful, but its them that have this condition. Go and talk to your friend, offer to be there and to provide anything within your power you can give.

    I had someone say the same thing to me and it snapped me out of my self-depressed state fairly quickly.

    I hope things turn out ok and that it's treatable ;)

    Good luck.


  • #3
    dolphin city
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,210 ✭✭✭dolphin city


    of course it is shocking for you,but I agree with the other poster -its not about you- its about your friend. If you feel like this, imagine how your friend feels - they need you to support them and make them feel good.

    Im sure if your sick friend saw you,they probably would be more worried about you than for themself. so you need to think positive and help your friend. no negativity or self pity.


  • #4
    jessiejam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 778 ✭✭✭jessiejam


    You said they might have a very serious illness.

    When will they find out if they have or not? pointless stressing over something that may or may not be.

    When they do get the diagnosis, support your friend, but try not take their problems on board along with your own. This will become overwhelming for you and you'll be no good to anyone then.


  • #5
    Anna Molly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 502 ✭✭✭Anna Molly


    As your name suggests, life is too short. So stop looking glum on it. If your friend has a life threatening illness, however close they are, it's THEIR illness, not yours. You should cherish time you have with that person, and fully realize that life is too short.
    Dwelling on life is gonna make it seem like torture, you need to be more positive and strong, for both you and your friend.


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