Infatuated with Girl

LegacyUser

Hi,

I am in a long term relationship with a girl I love very much.

However, there is a girl at work who I "feel something for" and I really like her. I get a bit nervous when talking to her and keep thinking about her. She has shown no signs of interest in me.

Anyway how do I overcome this infatuation?

Thanks.

katie99

I think we all become infatuated at some stage whether we are in relationships or not. I think when you are in a relationship you can be lead to believe the person you really like has a great time, great lifestyle etc, yet they are probably leading as mundane a life as you are.
So, my advice is this.

Are you happy in your relatonship? If the answer is 'yes' then forget this other girl. Ignore her, whenever you think of her, put her out of you rmind.

If you are unhappy in your relatonship and you think it is coming to an inevitable ending then you could ask this girl out, but only if you have broken off with your gf.

LegacyUser

I think you should ask her out. Maybe she likes you too but doesn't show any signs cause she knows you are in a relationship and it is very hard in some places to show an interest in someone when there are office gossips watching.

CiaranMT

askher wrote: »

I think you should ask her out. Maybe she likes you too but doesn't show any signs cause she knows you are in a relationship and it is very hard in some places to show an interest in someone when there are office gossips watching.

Why? Daft advice.

You have a long term loving relationship. Why blow that for temporary feelings?

angelxx

This is a crush.........nothing more. It will fade. The important thing to focus on is your relationship with your girlfriend, you said you love her I imagine she would be hurt if she knew this. Give it some time and it will pass.

Odaise Gaelach

askher wrote: »

I think you should ask her out. Maybe she likes you too but doesn't show any signs cause she knows you are in a relationship and it is very hard in some places to show an interest in someone when there are office gossips watching.

God, no! Why on earth would he ask her out?

userhalp1, you should do something romantic with your girlfriend. Go out to dinner some evening, or take a trip together somewhere for the day. Something like that.

MonkeyBone

The old saying of "never mix business with pleasure" or "don't fish off the company pier" are there for a reason. Work romance usual end in tears so my advice is to save yourself the bother. One way to get over this is to remind yourself that you are in a loving relationship.... put your girlfriend's picture as a screensaver on you phone and look at it when you feel this infatuation... now think or how hurt she would be if she knew about this crush.

I don't mean that you should be making yourself feel guilty about this as it is human nature but a reminder of how good you have it with your girlfriend is always a good thing.

Us guys tend to forget that sometimes and our significant others aren't always there to give us a kick up the bum and tell us to cop on.

I hope everything works out OP.

piotro2

You have probably built up a fantasy in your head about this woman at work. Keep in mind the infatuation is fueled by the fantasy and the fantasy fuels the infatuation. Kill the fantasy and the feelings will go away.

If you need to think of her, only think in negative terms until your brain learns not to think about her anymore because it is always negative when you do.

Whatever you do, do not act on these feelings. Not only will you hurt your girlfriend, but you will hurt yourself as well.