When were you certain you knew what your sexuality was

Pete29

I'm a twenty year old male and I'm still not sure. I feel like I'm being pulled different ways for different reasons. I really don't like the idea of being bi as my aunt is really against the idea of bisexual people for some reason (even though she has no problem with gay people - go figure). I just wish I was one or they other.

baby and crumble

I was certain I was a hardcore super lesbian (tm) for a while when I was about 22, 23, but I've come to realise nothing is set in stone.

Also, a lot of people are weird about bisexuality. My gfs Mum gets REALLY weirded out by her affirmation that no, although she's in a same sex relationship she is still attracted to men, she just doesn't act on it. It boggles her mind.

Don't pressure yourself so much. I know that's easy for me to say, but still...

Heebie

I remember the moment I "became" sure. I woke up one morning when I was 17, looked in the mirror, and said, "Todd. You're gay and you have to learn to deal with that."
I'd known for some time.. probably since 13 or so.. but always had feelings for other boys when I was one.

LGiamani

I was seventeen and I had a mad crush on my older brother very hot friend. He was a open minded guy and I think he knew I liked him. He used to hang out at my home with my brother and I could'nt take my eyes off him. He was tall and fit and big blue eyes. When I moved from home I met him in Dublin one day with his gf and I was jealous as hell. He still looked great. We went to a bar for some lunch and he asked how I was getting on and I told him. He was happy for me. As we parted company he gave me a hug I almost melted with emotion and he made his goodbyes. I found it hard not to cry as I left. I went home and was happy as larry for a long time after. When I think of it now the amount of respect he gave me made it alot easier to come out to friends. I seen him last week at home and he a dad now and still hot hot.

azezil

I'm not sure I'm completely certain even now at 30, but I've been saying I'm gay since I was 22. Seems to be working for me so far

spurious

Knew for sure very early on - maybe 13.

AssaultedPeanut

I knew I was attracted to women from about 12 or 13. I've identified myself as a gay woman since I was 17 but have always said that sexuality is something that takes many shapes and trying to force it into a few small categories is pointless.......yet here I am, fancying women. And only women! I guess i'm just a boring old lesbian :-P

Donnaghm

I used to vary from being attracted to guys to nothing at all for as long as I remember. When I was attracted to no gender, I thought it's because I'm actually straight. After a while I realised that it was because I wasn't feeling horny at that particular time and that I was, in fact, a complete outright gaybosexual.

Chuchoter

It didn't really dawn on me properly until December of this year, when I was 16. I had had crushes on girls that I didn't recognize as crushes since I was 12. I was in so much denial I just ignored everything (those dreams about kissing girls DID mean something!). I thought I was bisexual for a while, then I thought I was asexual and doomed to be alone the rest of my life for a long time because I wouldn't accept any of my feelings towards girls and still didn't like any boys. I just woke up one morning and everything kind of clicked. Very much an OMG moment.

Chorcai

azezil wrote: »

I'm not sure I'm completely certain even now at 30, but I've been saying I'm gay since I was 22. Seems to be working for me so far

snap but I've been saying I'm gay since I was 18

bodice ripper

I knew I wasn't straight since I was about 9. I was always just aware that something was amiss...

I knew I wasn't gay the first time I saw this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXVzR6C7K94

its from Velvet Goldmine

keepkeyyellow

Looked at an issue of playboy at 11 and nothing happened down there so decided from then on.

rainbow kirby

Knew in the back of my mind that I liked girls from the time I was about 16, was certain that I wasn't into guys when I was about 22. Late bloomer!

Eroticplants

I was 8 years old, in an all boys school.
Had to get changed for P.E in the class and I saw all the other boys getting changed and was just like KABOOM! :P

plein de force

it was last summer, i was 16 just about to go 17, i thought i was bi for ages, then i just realised through a serious of events and deep personal thinking and reflection that i was gay

if you're bi, you are what you are, don't feel like you have to lie to yourself and others by saying you're other than what you are

Aard

OP: Don't let your aunt's view on bisexuality dictate your own view. If you're bisexual, you're bisexual. If not, well, then I guess your aunt will be happy. But it's not about her.

LegacyUser

Still figuring it out... and I'm 34! Pretty sure now that I'm gay, but still haven't had a same-sex experience

Kanoe

Unregistered wrote: »

Still figuring it out... and I'm 34! Pretty sure now that I'm gay, but still haven't had a same-sex experience

hope you have an easier time of it than me

dory

I'm pretty sure now at 25. First knew I likes girls at 4 but only came out at 19 and even then was slow about it because I occasionally thought guys were mildly attractive.

deirdre_dub

I'm 41, and I'm still not sure. Of course, having realised I'm trans only 2 years ago probably has something to do with it. I reckon I'm bi, though I might be straight (i.e. into men only).

Eebs

Why do you have to decide? People will probably label you regardless, just enjoy your life and do what feels right as it comes up. There's no shame if you're having sane and consensual experiences with another person. Try to let go of all the baggage and just enjoy the experience.

I've heard of people coming out as bi after being lesbian for years. Or teetering back and forth between the labels. Or maybe liking the label gay and still accepting that they can have deep attraction and even romantic relationships with women.

Be whatever you want, with whomever you want and call yourself what you bloody like. It's just a word after all, it's not set in stone once you 'decide'.

CSaber

Always knew. Never really understood boys or got on with them, but did find them attractive. Waited for the day hormones would kick in and girls would become attractive but it never happened. And after a few experiences realised I liked this gay thing.

Rick_

When I was watching late night TV in bed when I was 12 and finding the weatherman I was watching to be quite attractive. I was too young/stupid to know that I was "supposed" :rolleyes: to fancy females so I never really questioned it or had a period of denial. I just knew then and accepted it.

I was idly 'fondling' down below (as you do as a child!) and unwittingly discovered masturbation on the same night. It was confirmed to me then and there and I've never looked back!