contraception

LegacyUser

ok, my BF and I are getting it on without any contraception - we are using the pull out method..

reasons - I am too old to be on the pill anymore and he hates condoms..

we do not want to get pregnant - is this silly of us? Should I just insist that he use them?

Nevyn

What so you mean too old to be on the pill?
Did a dr tell you this?
If they did why didn't they talk to you about other methods, such as the coil, the digaphram ect?

Yes you can not rely on the withdrawl method if you want to make sure you do not want to get pregant.


If you are not using condoms have you both had an sti screening?

LegacyUser

I am a smoker and 31 so not suppose to be on the pill due to risk of blood clots..

we are both clear with regards to STD's..

as regards other forms of contraception - perhaps I should look into them.. but I am not up for the coil..

I am afraid to mess with my hormones in case I cannot get pregnant when I want to.. don't know why..

mercer

yeah there is an age limit for the pill - i think around the 40 year mark.
i dont mean to be rude - but it sounds like a teenager wrote this post - not a woman over 40. seriously? the pull out method?!

there are other forms of contraception that you can go on. you are seriously running the risk for pregnancy with the pull out method. no contraception is 100% whether its through human or design fallacy so using nothing at all is asking for trouble.

fungun

its only a matter of time before you are pregnant if you go on this way.

Nevyn

being silly wrote: »

I am a smoker and 31 so not suppose to be on the pill due to risk of blood clots..

Did a dr tell you this?
Did you as them about the newer pills which have come out in the last 2/3 years?

I know several women who are early to mid 30s who are on the pill, the patch, the nuvaring, the implannon and use the merina I.U.S.

If it was dr who told you I suggest you try another dr.

being silly wrote: »

we are both clear with regards to STD's..

Glad to hear it must of been great new to get.

being silly wrote: »

as regards other forms of contraception - perhaps I should look into them.. but I am not up for the coil..

Well it's a good method and can be easily reversed but I cam understand it not being for you.

There are still other barrier methods like the diaphragm used in conjunction with spermicide.

being silly wrote: »

I am afraid to mess with my hormones in case I cannot get pregnant when I want to.. don't know why..

Once a woman is in her 30s it's normal for it to take 6 months to a year to get pregnant once she stops using hormonal contraception.

elius

Thaedydal wrote: »

Once a woman is in her 30s it's normal for it to take 6 months to a year to get pregnant once she stops using hormonal contraception.

Or in my partners case its more than possible to get pregnant whilst on the pill...

LegacyUser

mercer wrote: »

yeah there is an age limit for the pill - i think around the 40 year mark.

This is not correct. You're supposed to use contraception until you have been without a period for at least 1 full year as you can still get pregnant. I'm 47 & the doc prescribed the mini pill for me & its fine.

OP - You need to use some form of contraception if the pill doesnt suit you so go to your doc & review your options.

jessiejam

You can stay on the pill until menopause once you don't smoke. Most GP's would recommend an alternative form of contreception after the age of 35 if you are smoker. The patch and the pill are the same thing. Your other options are coil and diaphram, although thats how i was conceived!.

3 options;

1. Ask your partner to use condoms/get the snip
2. Get the coil/diaphram fitted
3. Give up the fags:eek:

LegacyUser

That was my method, it doesn't work, I have a daughter to prove it )

Investigate other possibilities. The Well Woman clinics are great for this.

Distorted

I think its perfectly valid not to want to use the pill for health reasons - blood clots are a real risk, particularly if you have a family history, and a lot of women find it makes them lethargic, put on weight, moody, etc.. Ditto with implants. Although you could use the cap?

However I would have no truck with a man who refused to use a condom because he "doesn't like them". Theres no health risks with condoms and since you are both having sex, I see no reason why he should not take care of the contraception. I would dump him for this - he shows a lack of respect for you in taking care of contraception. Have you both been tested for STD's? How many women before you has he come out with this line to? No, I would dump him - just wouldn't want someone as idiotic as that.

Esoteric_

K so basically you don't want hormonal contraception because you don't want to risk your hormones messing up in the future when you come off a hormonal contraception with the intention of becoming pregnant?

So get the coil. The NON hormonal one. Takes about 2 minutes to put it in and you're done. Doesn't hurt.

I'm sorry if I sound condescending but have you never heard of pre-cum? Before the guy actually has an orgasm he ejaculates a small amount of semen, so you're pretty likely to get pregnant from the pull out method. It's not reliable in the slightest.

Just get the non hormonal coil or use condoms. If you're not willing to use the coil and he's not willing to use condoms, then neither of you should be having sex until you're ready to face the consequences.

angelfire9

I came off the pill on doctors advice as I'm 34 and smoked, had planned on getting an IUD was waiting for my next period to get it fitted and I'm now 5.5 months pregnant!!!

Either abstain or find an alternative because what you are doing is asking for trouble!

cinderella2010

Do you think its at all possible that maybe both of your subconsciously want to reproduce???

I was reading an article on it lately and its quite common

MsHolloway

op, you are seriously playing with fire!

But you already know this, otherwise you wouldn't have started this thread.

The "pull out method" its not a method at all, and I do think you are "being silly" to even think it will prevent you getting pregnant.

Now lets talk about condoms - your partner doesn't like condoms, so does he like unplanned children?

You seriously need to wise up and stop making these idiotic decisions with your body. I would expect a lot more from someone of your age, honestly you need to cop on.

You should book an appointment with your gp or a family planning clinic to discuss your choices.

Nevyn

please read all the thread before posting, the op has already stated they had an sti screening.