How much to give as present?

kraggy

Hi folks,

Just wondering what is the usual amount of money given by people to the couple on the wedding day?

Thanks,

K.

gaz wac

€200..well thats what we give ! cover your dinner..(100) + prez ( 100 )

Thumpette

We usually give 150 between us as a couple.

Though some of my friends give 300! I think the consensus is just to give what you can afford. There are a million threads on this on here- most of which have ended up fairly heated!

Tinder

I think it also depends on who's wedding it is, for example if it is a brother or sister and you can afford it I would not go lower than €200, that would be insulting. I think always cover the couples costs of inviting you. €75 a head would not go close to that. You could always be creative and get them a really nice gift.

Thumpette

Tinder wrote: »

I think it also depends on who's wedding it is, for example if it is a brother or sister and you can afford it I would not go lower than €200, that would be insulting. I think always cover the couples costs of inviting you. €75 a head would not go close to that. You could always be creative and get them a really nice gift.

Ehhh, dont think it would be insulting- people shouldnt feel stretched to pay more than they can afford!

As for 75 a head not coming close to covering the cost of the meal- for my wedding around 60 per head would cover it- we are guests at a really fancy 5 star hotel wedding later in the year and will be giving the same ammount, even though then im sure it wont come near to covering it. There are hotels in this country where people can choose to go and can pay less than 50 per head, I dont see why those who choose to go 5 star and fancier should get any higher a pressie to subsidise them (not do I believe these friends would expect that)

Our pressie is based on what we can afford, if we get anything near 150 per couple or even per half our couples we would be over the moon!

kraggy

Ok, thanks guys.

Story is, I'm going to my girlfriend's brother's wedding.

I'm going out with my gf for 3 months and I met her brother for the first time on Sunday.

And she's a bridesmaid.

So do I give something as an individual or together with my gf?

MMmm. Maybe I should speak to her about this....

Bit stressed. On the dole and quite skint.

Fancy That

Any weddings im invited to i.e. by my partner of which wedding is one of their friends, then they shout the gift.

Any wedding i take them to of which its my friends i shout the gift.

When i was single and used to take my mate i'd always pay the gift..i didn't think it fair for him to have to cough up when he was going to some random person's wedding which he barely knew.

Think these are fair enough ways of doing things!

beamgirl

we do the same - my friend I pay gift and accomodation his friend he pays. Have a mutual friends wedding coming up so not sure how that will work, i think he met them first;)

In relation to first post as you're not working and dont know the groom I dont think much can be expected def a conversation to have with the gf

Fancy That

With mutual friends we just split the lot!

K, talk to your girlfriend, if she's fair she should definitely be thinking same as us.

kraggy

Thanks for all the input guys.

Spoke to my lovely girl and she said that her and her brother are buying the brother who's getting married a present between them.

And she also said that if the role was reversed would I expect her to get my brother/sister or something and I said no cause it'd be me inviting her to the wedding so I wouldn't expect her to get anything as it's not her fault that she has to go the wedding, if you know what I mean.

She agreed and said that, therefore, I don't need to give anything.

Does this make sense to ye?

billybunty

Ya, I was going to say give what ever you can afford and don't be one bit embarrassed about it.
We're getting married in 2 weeks and presents have started coming in and I'm mortified, not great at accepting them and definately not Expecting the generosity from people in these times.
At least it has worked out ok for you with no stress - enjoy the day.

macjohn

gaz wac wrote: »

€200..well thats what we give ! cover your dinner..(100) + prez ( 100 )

Presume that is as a couple? What is the convention if going to a wedding without a plus 1?

dory

macjohn wrote: »

Presume that is as a couple? What is the convention if going to a wedding without a plus 1?

If I was going alone I'd give €100. Also depends on how well you know them. For my best friends I'd go higher.
But make sure you tell them you're not bringing anyone so they won't have to pay for the extra meal.

DarkBlonde

We always give 150 - 200 as a couple depending on the person. Definitely talk to your gf about this.