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Counsellor Advice Please

  • 16-08-2010 9:23pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I need to go see a counsellor and I am absolutely petrified. I've had issues with my childhood that i've never dealt with and if i don't do something about it soon i'm going to ruin my life.. I thought I could deal with them but I can't - I just can't cope...I've known i need to see one for years but I just kept thinking I would be able to work it out because I really don't want to go. But I know now that if i don't go then I'll end up wrecking all my relationships.

    I just want to hear from people who have been to a counsellor - like I feel like an idiot walking in to the room, how do I start talking about stuff? I NEVER talk about anything I just can't-its too hard, how am I going to talk to a complete stranger about it? Also are they really expensive? I'm not on a great wage so I couldnt afford one if its really expensive.


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  • #2
    MysticalSoul
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,266 ✭✭✭MysticalSoul


    I've been to therapy, and when I first started it did take some time before I could trust her with the really nitty gritty stuff, but it was so worth it. As well as the reason I first entered therapy, I gained so much more - more self respect, self confidence etc.

    It would be unusual to tell everything in one session - it does take time to learn to trust the therapist, even though when I first started I knew rationally she could be trusted, but yet, there was another level of trust, which to me is what I refer to as the emotional trust.

    Yes, therapy can be expensive, but some therapists do offer a sliding-scale system, so don't let the price put you off. Also, I would encourage you to ensure that you seek a reputable counsellor. IACP and IAHIP should be able to give you names and numbers of therapists in your area.


  • #3
    Elessar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,267 ✭✭✭Elessar


    Hi OP,

    http://www.counsellingdirectory.ie/ is a great website to find counsellors in Ireland that specialise in what you want. I found one on there and she is brilliant - she offered a reduced rate because I was unemployed too! Don't worry about not knowing what to say - he/she will most likely be the one talking most for the first few sessions. It will take a good few sessions to really get to the root of your difficulties, and a good counsellor will spot them a mile off and mention them to you and work from there, but it will take a few sessions to really get to know you.


  • #4
    aquarius lady
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭aquarius lady


    No need to be petrified, all accredited counsellors have been to counselling themselves and know exactly how scary and COURAGEOUS it is for you to take that first step. It will change your life completely. I believe it should be compulsery that everyone looks at their baggage at least once in their lives, it certainly lightens the load. Good Luck on your journey because that is exactly what it is a wonderful journey of self discovery. Take that first step nothing to loose only the baggage......


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