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How to get over someone....

  • 16-08-2010 05:20PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm gonna go anon for this one and I really hope you guys can gives me some tips! Basically, I've liked this guy since the start of the year and I know it'll never go anywhere. He is really nice and friendly when he sees me but anytime I leave him a comment on fb I never get a reply. I'm guessing that since he couldn't be bothered to reply he doesn't like me.

    Anyway, how am I meant to get over this? Anyone have any suggestions?


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  • #2
    Jennifurball
    Closed Accounts Posts: 133 ✭✭Jennifurball


    As hard as it is/will be, I have been advised to cut off everything. Including his FB. At best, he will wonder why you have deleted him. If it was to happen, it would have done by now. Don't hang onto false hope because it is killing me. Be strong and accept it won't happen.


  • #3
    tangerinepuppet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 163 ✭✭tangerinepuppet


    Why do you know it'll never go anywhere? Are you sure he's single?


  • #4
    Kastielz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15 ✭Kastielz


    Seriously, take FB with a pinch of salt. Just because he doesn't reply to a few comments does not mean he isn't interested.

    Try asking him out in person.


  • #5
    Denimgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 392 ✭✭Denimgirl


    Does that actually work? asking a guy out like? I always used to think if a guy is interested he would ask!


  • #6
    Cullen82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 438 ✭✭Cullen82


    Denimgirl wrote: »
    Does that actually work? asking a guy out like? I always used to think if a guy is interested he would ask!


    Is that a serious question? Of course it works:rolleyes:

    I was asked out by a girl 2 weeks ago - It was the first time a girl had asked me out rather than the other way around....Wish it happened everyday tbh:D


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  • #7
    Cian92
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 827 ✭✭✭Cian92


    Denimgirl wrote: »
    Does that actually work? asking a guy out like? I always used to think if a guy is interested he would ask!

    Oh try asking him out before trying to get over him! Us guys find it difficult to pick up the most blatant of hints :p Also some guys lack the courage etc

    So give it a shot, ask him out. The worst that could happen is he will say no.


  • #8
    ApeXaviour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,523 ✭✭✭ApeXaviour


    Oh come on, do you kids live in the real world? Yes girls can ask guys out, but why on earth would they go up and give a bumbling awkward "hey so you wanna go out on a date with me" they have much much better tools at their disposal... it's only when the chap is shy and she's fairly sure she'll get a yes that she'll resort to that.

    So OP before you get all filled up with naive courage, get up on the school bloody intercom and make a t1t of yourself... there are ways to ask people out while maintaining a smidgen of dignity if it doesn't go the way you hope. Which let's be realistic, it quite likely won't (statistically speaking). First if you are in frequent physical social contact with him (share classes, work together, friend groups mingle) try to maneuver for some alone time. This is not difficult and doesn't need to be planned, actually it's much better if you don't. If he seems game and the conversation is flowing then you'll get more of an idea and you can flirt a little. Keep doing this and something may happen.

    If this isn't the case, and you only see him now and then, then I suppose you can ask him out. How you do it is paramount. You say "hey you wanna go out some time" what's he supposed to say to that? You've just told him you have no life and you're eternally free waiting on his beck and call? No you want him to at least suspect he's chasing you. You say "hey I'm heading out with so and so after work/class/whatever for a beer, wanna join us?". So and so can be a friend or preferably a couple who will split after 30 mins. House parties are the best btw, you can keep your dignity entirely intact when asking if he'd like to go to a house party (you don't even have to say "with me", and it doesn't even have to be your house party). Also the familiarity breeds a social comfort in people at such occasions, leading to more connections being made than the impersonal keep-to-your-own-friends atmosphere in a bar

    If (god forbid, I don't envy you) you're a teenager and too young to be doing all the alcohol related activities above (unfortunately it's the culture of this country that alcohol is ever pervasive) then you just have a crush. We all had them, they seem like the most important thing at the time. But they're not, if you actually got into a relationship with that person you'd either be a) so star-struck you wouldn't know what to do or b) so disappointed he didn't live up to all the ridiculous expectations you made. Focus your sights elsewhere at all the hot guys who aren't this fb ignoring dweeb.


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