Porn/masturbation addiction

LegacyUser

hi im wondering is there any where that some one with a porn addiction can go to get this problem sorted out every time i log on the internet i cant helf my self.

at least 4 times a day id bell one out

im a 24 yr old male and i know my self this cant be normal,its getting to the point its stressing me out i know i shouldn't do it but i cant stop it im unemployed so that dont help at all it makes it worse, are there counselling services for this type of thing? (in dublin)

i also have a GF but she aint into sex much at all which also doesn't help, is there any problems that can arise from this as at this stage its beginning to freak me out and have read contradicting story's online

cheers for any helpful input given

Darlughda

Well I am sure the men on this site can give you better advice than I can.

But, at your age, if your gf is not into sex whats the story? Do you need to breakup or is the problem within your relationship?

Are you wanting sexual stuff that you see on porn and finding that lacking in your sexual relationship?

What do you want? There is no shame in wanting more than what the person you are in a relationship can give you (honesty is neccessary!), however if you are masturbating too excess, maybe you need to look at your own neediness and desire for security.

If you are persisting in a relationship at such a young age that is not meeting your sexual desires, then maybe, you are the needy one.

LegacyUser

it aint so much the lack of it with a GF even getting it id still feel the urge to go online.

i dont know what is drawing me to do it,it does be morning noon and then night 4 a day being the maximum and thats even with having a GF

the last GF i had was very sexually active but still couldn't keep up with my over active sex drive. for me to cure this id need some one who is a nympho maniac but that would only cure the masturbation side of things and then sex would become my problem.

i just wanna cut it out it worries me about side effects in the long run,surely it cant be good and my doctor aint one to talk to about anything got to do with man problems he refers you off to everyone else but him and then its year long waiting lists which again doesn't help me

iv sat back too long worrying and i want to finally get things done about it as its stressing me out

Zen65

guest1986 wrote: »

cheers for any helpful input given

What kind of websites do you use? Are you registered / have accounts with them? Do you have to pay subscriptions?

If yes, then take a strong cup of coffee and delete all your accounts, even if your account(s) is(are) in credit.

Then set up filter on your browser, and ask your gf to input the password so you cant bypass the filter. Alternatively use parental control software, somebody else chooses the password.

Then take up a hobby,...... one which requires a lot of physical activity.

Keep busy. The urges will pass as you find better ways to fill your time.


Be at peace,

Z

calex71

The old saying "devil makes work for idle hands" fits only too well here, you need to distract your self and keep yourself busy. Do you exercise / go to gym / sports?

Also move the computer to a common open area where you would not risk looking at porn. You need to get a handle on it as if this spills over in to watching porn at work it could have disastrous consequences for you :eek:

Edit: if it's a laptop buy a kensington lock and give the key to someone to mind if you can , that way you cant move the laptop and if the girlfriend asks it's for security.

We all in general (men) enjoy porn but if you feel it's becoming more than a casual interest and having a negative effect on you then time for action!!!!

Dr.Sanchez

calex71 wrote: »

Do you exercise / go to gym / sports?

Zen65 wrote: »

Then take up a hobby,...... one which requires a lot of physical activity.

Exercise increases testosterone, which leads to a higher sex drive...

Kauto

Its totally normal. I have about 5 **** a day. I might have 3-4 in work in the jacks. Nothing better for relieving the stress than blowing ure load. Anyone who says they dont **** a few times a day are liars.

Zen65

00Blaine00 wrote: »

Exercise increases testosterone, which leads to a higher sex drive...

This is partly true, but exercise also assists in providing better sleeping patterns, which helps to reduce the temptation to masterbate. Exercise improves overall health, including mental health, and stimulates an interest in things non-sexual.

Incidentally, I'm fairly sure that there is no known medical adverse side-effect to masterbation; in fact studies conducted (in Australia, I think??) links frequent masterbation with reduced incidence of prostate cancer! If OP could pace himself he might be thankful in his later years.

I think the issue for the OP is that his lifestyle has reached a point where he masterbates through boredom, as much as for "sexual" excitement. Once a day might clean the pipes, but four times a day is not going to leave you with enough energy to get aerobic exercise, or anything else done.

Be at peace,

Z

darad

You sound like a normal fella to me its just that you have a lot of time on your hands and a girlfriend who doesnt need much sex. Dont worry about it, when things change in your life you will find you are busier/happier etc etc and you wont need to satisfy yourself in this way as often.