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  • 14-08-2010 4:10pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Last night I had a conversation with a friend about a male friend of mine. She said 'i think he likes you'. I told her I knew that and I liked him a lot and even snogged him a few times, but I wasnt feeling it.

    She got cross with me and told me that its not always about fireworks.

    I'm a bit upset now. I really liked that guy and really wanted to fancy him, but I just couldnt force it.

    Which is grand only this is not the only time thats happened. I met another lovely chap while I was away over a week ago. Again, I know he's interested and we clicked like old friends straight away. He's interesting, intelligent, has many interests. A really sound chap. But any time I felt he was putting the moves on I panicked and removed myself from the situation. But I cant stop thinking about him. We're still in contact but he'll be abroad for another couple of weeks, but we said we'd meet up when he got back.

    I've had lots of flings and dalliances and one long term boyfriend. All relationships which were doomed from the start, with people I had nothing in common with. Losers, commitment phobes, etc.

    But when genuine good prospects come along I panic and run.

    I had a conversation with another man a few weeks ago and he seemed genuinely puzzled that I was single and asked me 'whats wrong with you'

    what is wrong with me??

    I know boards cant answer that, but I'm just beginning to think about this.


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  • #2
    Zen65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,630 ✭✭✭Zen65


    Whatswrong wrote: »

    what is wrong with me??

    There is nothing wrong with you.

    You don't rush into relationships, fair enough. Some people don't go on amusement rides.

    Are you asking why have you been so cautious? Why do you not hear music & see fireworks? Nobody here can answer that.

    Would you like to take some risks and see what happens? Do you want to start a relationship with one of these men and see where it leads? Then decide that is what you will do, and don't expect fireworks & music. Don't make a drama out of your past, you have options that many women would be delighted to have. It's up to you to decide how to proceed.


    Be at peace,

    Z


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for your reply Mr Zen :)

    Various scenarios are going through my mind, from I just dont fancy them, to I dont want to hurt them, to being scared of losing my freedom and options and possibilities as a singleton. I'm way more confident and get so much more attention from men than I ever did and I dont want to give that up too quickly either ( i dont have much sex though, too complicated)

    To be honest the whole marriage and kids thing freaks me out too, but I would like to be in a relationship.

    I've kinda decided to meet him when he gets back and take it a day at a time from there if he's still interested. But I dont ever want to mess him around with uncertainty either. He's a really great guy.


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