Always worried..

LegacyUser

I am just wondered if a lot of people worry a lot about the future? I feel like I am constantly worrying about careers and relationships and whether anything will work out for me. Sometimes I just feel sick over everything and find it hard to make decisions as I always imagine negative outcomes.
I can't seem to live in the moment and I definitely know this attitude is holding me back big time but yet I find it impossible to think positively and not freak out over the future.

LegacyUser

You remind me a lot of myself! I used to feel really, really stressed out about similar things. Sometimes I still do - that's part of life now and then.

You may find that you have so many things to worry about - so many possible negative outcomes. If you are constantly going over these issues, it's possible you may have an anxiety disorder and should perhaps talk to someone about it.

Just try and remember that not every possible negative outcome becomes reality. Take a deep breath, take a step back - remember the little victories like "that the thing that kept you awake with worry for weeks...but didn't actually happen in the end". Speak to someone if you feel things are getting out of control. But then again, you can't control everything - nobody can.

You're not alone, we all have "the fear" sometimes. But if you feel it's effecting your health (mental/physical/both), speak to a professional.

Zen65

Everybody worries, to some extent.

The best wisdom I've encountered on this matter comes not from the teachings of Taoism, but from a song once released by Baz Luhrman ("The Sunscreen Song"):

Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

The best cure for worry?

Well, meditation etc can help a lot, but again Baz Luhrman offers this advice:

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Taoism teaches that humans ought to accept life and death as complementary aspects of the Tao. Death should be neither feared nor desired. By extension, if death is not to be feared, then life should not be feared.

But I prefer the Sunscreen Song explanation.

Be at peace,

Z

LegacyUser

I feel the same OP. I've always been a bit of a worrier growing up but lately it seems to have got worse. Any little twinge I get I feel like it's some terrible disease or condition. Sometimes stupid things seem to just build up in my head and I feel like I can't continue. I was supposed to head away on a trip a few months ago, it was all paid for and the night before I just made a snap decision not to go. I was feeling a bit down or something and just wasn't that interested and then felt like an idiot for not going.

Last night for some reason I started to feel nervous and sick about something. I can't even remember what it was, probably something very stupid. I started using that Rescue Remedy spray and after a while I calmed down. Then I could hear what sounded like a house alarm ringing. I thought it was my aunts who lives across the road and I sorted of started to worry. I didn't know if it was their's and I was wondering what I should do. I then started to imagine all sorts of horrible scenario's like if their place got burgled, it would be my fault for not calling the police when I hear the alarm.

Anyway eventually just before 3am I finally fell asleep but this kind of thing is starting to happen a bit too much. I'm supposed to head away next week for a few days and fly on my own and meet up with a few people at the destination. However last night as I was having this freak out in my head I was thinking there's no way I could go do that.

At Christmas I went to see my doctor as I thought I was suffering from depression and he said I wasn't clinically depressed but it could become that. I'm now wondering if it's some sort of anxiety disorder or something. At the same time, I can't really afford to spend tons of money on doctors and potential prescriptions. I'm from the north and could go to my doctor up there for free but seeing I work and live in the south, it's not really practical for me to do so.

The annoying thing is that then some days I'm sitting here wondering what the hell I was worrying about.

Anyway, I just wanted to get this out there and see if any others are the same way.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the advice! I guess my biggest thing lately is the realisation that a lot of things I have worried about have happened.. getting laid off, not being accepted into postgrad courses(even though all my academic results are good!!!!) and not being able to secure a reasonably good job.. so frustrating! I don't know how to cope with all the disappointments and progress in life.
I like Baz Luhrmans take on things.... but isn't chewing gum supposed to help with concentration lol!!

jennebean

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I am just wondered if a lot of people worry a lot about the future? I feel like I am constantly worrying about careers and relationships and whether anything will work out for me. Sometimes I just feel sick over everything and find it hard to make decisions as I always imagine negative outcomes.
I can't seem to live in the moment and I definitely know this attitude is holding me back big time but yet I find it impossible to think positively and not freak out over the future.

My god ! I actually could have typed that myself - I'm the exact same and it drives me nuts I was actually givin anti anxiety pills from my gp called seroxat
feel better weight off my chest - but still stress n all that n now I feel like I'm always pissed off - need a balance just don't know what!