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Ex-Fiance and facebook

  • 12-08-2010 8:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My fiance and me have broken up due to trust issues mainly. He kissed someone while drunk over a year ago while having a depressive episode. I forgave him...I thought but deep down never really did. He hasn't always treated me well and I began to have seriously bad reactions to simple fights, mainly by phone. I would drive him nuts calling him when he wanted space. Although I uderstand my actions were bad, I never felt I was being heard in the relationship.

    For the past two weeks he has broken up with me, siad he loves me again, broken up with me again, said he wants to work it out, then finally dumped me again. We met Sunday night to discuss our issues, thinking that we were going to have a fresh start. In his words "i certainly didn't meet you with the intention of breaking up with you". The next morning (Monday) he was still in foul mood. So we talked and it transpires that he couldn't gain the enthusiasm required to be with me again, as he felt he was no longer in love with me, and was sure that he would never get that feeling back. Although I love him, I took this news reasonably well (much better than the past two weeks of c**p). We agreed no contact, for my sake. I thought it would be too hard. This extended to defriending me on facebook, as I thought seeing what he was upto, or feeling would simply upset me.

    This morning I sign into facebook, and notice that he has changed his profile picture to a picture of us together. He did this last night. Its a picture of us, arms around each other at my birthday, which I printed and gave to him as a present.

    I'm confused by it. Why would you post a picture of you and your ex-fiancee days after breaking up with her? I'm not sure whats going on? Any insights please?


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  • #2
    Jayden Wonderful Table
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    tbh he sounds like a head wrecker and seems to get a kick out of playing with you . I think you deserve better .

    what do you think do you think you deserve to be treated this way ???:(


  • #3
    Distorted
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    I think your reacting badly to small fights in the past is your instinct warning you that things are out of balance. He is incredibly inconsistent, no wonder you react to small things. He doesn't know what he wants and he isn't sure about breaking up, so he doesn't want to quite break up properly. He wants you to think you might get back together again, while in the meantime he doesn't have to face life fully single without the option of getting back together with you. In other words he wants to keep you on hold in case he can't meet anyone better. He also sounds terribly moody.

    I think you would feel a lot better if you completely cut off contact, deleted his phone number, defriend him on Facebook and avoid him. He sounds a very erratic person to be around.


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