Time with girlfriend

LegacyUser

I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. We'd generally see each other every day. Now and then there might be a day we don't get to see each other.

I never thought there was a problem with this until a couple of people pointed out we're always together. Is it bad for people in a relationship to see each other this month if they're both happy?

Friends and family are not being neglected or anything like that so I fail to see the problem.

LighterGuy

You answered your own question op :P

Being in each others pockets can be too much... BUT thats only if it becomes a problem. But you say you are happy So its fine.


Spending too much time can create issues... fights, not having enough space (alone time) etc... But you are happy So enjoy it. As long as she likes it too. No problem

Chinafoot

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I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. We'd generally see each other every day. Now and then there might be a day we don't get to see each other.

I never thought there was a problem with this until a couple of people pointed out we're always together. Is it bad for people in a relationship to see each other this month if they're both happy?

Friends and family are not being neglected or anything like that so I fail to see the problem.

Is it bad if you're happy? No. Is it entirely healthy? No.

You say your friends and family aren't being neglected. Do yourself and your girlfriend have all of the same friends or did you both have separate friends before you got together?

If you had separate friends then chances are your mates (and hers) probably won't be entirely happy if they only ever get to see when you have your other half with you. I appreciate that you're still in the honeymoon, can't get enough of each other, period, but its important to maintain your external friendships as you never know what might happen down the line. If you become the friend that doesn't hang out with "the lads" without his missus you could very easily become the friend that "the lads" don't bother asking out anymore. It can be very easy to only focus on your girlfriend but if things go pear shaped you could find yourself with very few people to fall back on.

Now there will be people here who might tell you that not spending 24/7 with your other half means you don't love them as much or as committed to them as someone who does. That might be something you want to hear and it might be what you decide to go with, but chances are the majority here will tell you that outside relationships are very important, both for you as a couple and as individuals.

Make some time for your mates without your girlfriend. Go for a drink/cinema with your friends and urge your girlfriend to do the same. It'll be better for you both in the long term.

muboop1

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Friends and family are not being neglected or anything like that so I fail to see the problem.

Then there is no problem!

Once you see your mates and family and get your work or whatever done shouldn't be an issue.

Unless your that lad who always brings his gf on nights out with him, acts different when shes around (never realises it, even when pointed out, but happens anyway) and goes home early etc... But that guy is still grand and cool.

Moomoo1

Time spent wrote: »

I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. We'd generally see each other every day. Now and then there might be a day we don't get to see each other.

I never thought there was a problem with this until a couple of people pointed out we're always together. Is it bad for people in a relationship to see each other this month if they're both happy?

Friends and family are not being neglected or anything like that so I fail to see the problem.

(1) if you ever move in together with her then you'll be seeing her every day anyway. So you might as well get used to it now .

(2) You are in the honeymoon phase and so there is no reason to not enjoy it to the full, because it won't last for ever. If people have a problem with it, tough: you cannot let people outside your relationship decide how your relationship should be happening.

angelxx

I think it sounds positive that you and your girlfriend make the effort to see each other
every day and that neither of you have an issue with it, Personally my boyfriend lives
quite far from me and It's really taking a toll not being able to see each other as often as
we would like. If you both enjoy it and maintain your own friends/lives then there shouldn't be a problem.

Spending every day with each other is fine, once you don't NEED to spend every day with each other. I see my boyfriend almost every day, but if we're out with our mates down the pub or whatever we don't feel the need to sit beside each other constantly or be all over each other. To be honest, and this is just me personally, it really annoys me when I'm trying to talk to someone and they have their other half draped over them. There are some couples that you can sit beside and have a chat with, and then there are the ones who are looking at you like they're listening but you can tell they're actually thinking about the fact that they're rubbing each others legs under the table. The latter kind of couple is never aware of how they're acting. Your mates will probably start getting pissed off/uncomfortable around you if you do this so try to make time to talk to them when you guys are out and about. As for the actual amount of hours you two are spending together, I wouldn't worry about it. If you like each other that much that you guys want to spend every day together then it would be a waste not to