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think i am going to be single

  • 11-08-2010 1:33pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    hi don t really know why i am posted here whether it is for advice r just 2 hear what people think . I have recently realised that it is highly likely i am going to be single for the rest of my life, now i am not here lookin for advice on meetin someone ,the usual join new clubs etc because i am a member of several clubs ,know lots of people and get out alot. I am 34 and am told by female friends i have alot goin for me , my own house nearly m'gage free, good job, nice car, they say i am fairly good lookin, my main problem is even though i am very outgoing within my group of friends when i meet a girl i can be quiet shy and find it hard to meet someone. I recently met a really nice girl and we got on very well, txted a few times the next week and met up again .She then was away workin for a few weeks so i was delighed when she got in touch again as i did not want to seem too pushy however since then we have met up a few times and even though she is tellin me how nice i am i think it is now over as i seem to be doing all the txtin and she just replies which has me confused as i thought we were gettin on really well.Anyway this has led me to the conclusion i am never goin to meet anyone and even though i am a bit upset that nothin is goin to happen with this girl i think i am ok with that .My main problem is after next year nearly all my friends are goin to be married and i am worried it could be a lonely time as i will have fewer friends to go out with and think maybe in 10 years time it would be much worse with no family of my own and maybe i will regret not tryin harder to meet someone.Sorry for the long drawn out post


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  • #2
    sbsquarepants
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,812 ✭✭✭✭sbsquarepants


    benob wrote: »
    hi don t really know why i am posted here whether it is for advice r just 2 hear what people think . I have recently realised that it is highly likely i am going to be single for the rest of my life, now i am not here lookin for advice on meetin someone ,the usual join new clubs etc because i am a member of several clubs ,know lots of people and get out alot. I am 34 and am told by female friends i have alot goin for me , my own house nearly m'gage free, good job, nice car, they say i am fairly good lookin, my main problem is even though i am very outgoing within my group of friends when i meet a girl i can be quiet shy and find it hard to meet someone. I recently met a really nice girl and we got on very well, txted a few times the next week and met up again .She then was away workin for a few weeks so i was delighed when she got in touch again as i did not want to seem too pushy however since then we have met up a few times and even though she is tellin me how nice i am i think it is now over as i seem to be doing all the txtin and she just replies which has me confused as i thought we were gettin on really well.Anyway this has led me to the conclusion i am never goin to meet anyone and even though i am a bit upset that nothin is goin to happen with this girl i think i am ok with that .My main problem is after next year nearly all my friends are goin to be married and i am worried it could be a lonely time as i will have fewer friends to go out with and think maybe in 10 years time it would be much worse with no family of my own and maybe i will regret not tryin harder to meet someone.Sorry for the long drawn out post

    Eh, what?
    A: The first highlighted part is a contradiction in terms.

    B: The second is a bit of a conclusion to jump to, especially if solely based on part 1!

    C: Who knows what they'll be at in 10 years time!

    In short mate, you're over thinking it. Relax and go with the flow a bit more. Concentrate on having a laugh with this girl first, not asessing how suitable she is to look after you in your old age!:)


  • #3
    Sound Bite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 788 ✭✭✭Sound Bite


    Benob, I've read your post a few times and I'm still confused as to what has led you to thing you'll be alone forever?

    As for here not being interested you said she got in touch with you 7 you've meet up a few times.

    I think text messages cause so much confusion in early stages of relationships. If you like her and want to pursue things, pick up the phone, ask her out again.

    Alot of my friends have settled now as well but it hasn't made me think I never will. It'll happen when its meant to.


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