Feel like a pervert

LegacyUser

I am a mid thirties female who hasn't had sex in a few years. Now and again I get a bit frustrated but generally I am OK.
But what worries me is although I am straight and I have no problems with gay sex I get really turned on by naked/topless women. I feel like such a pervert though. Sometimes if I'm very turned on I'll look up websites like Nuts or Hegre which is full of naked women.
I am trying to rationalise it - I think seeing these naked women makes me think of me naked? But in general even though I love guys the female form is much more attractive than the male form IMO.
I sometimes spend a few hours on these websites if I'm in the mood and the next day I feel so ashamed and guilty. It doesnt happen all the time though.
Before anyone says anything I do have a life, but my love life is pretty much dormant because I rarely go to pubs/clubs.
Am I weird?

LighterGuy

Op,
you are not a pervert
your first sentence is your answer:

I am a mid thirties female who hasn't had sex in a few years

Simple fact is that you havent had sex in a long time. Alot of people can have homosexual thoughts when they havent had sex in a very long time (of course when its not by choice)

It plays on the mind. A person can be feel less desireable. Its natural op


Dare I just be totally honest. The solution is have sex with a man. With todays dating sites and social network sites. It isnt that hard. ( :P )

You're not a pervert. Simple as.

It might not even have anything to do with getting homosexual thoughts because of a slight drought love-wise. It might just be that most people, men and women, are pretty much conditioned to link sex and pictures of naked women.

Dudess

A bit bizarre that you'd find this weird or perverted tbh.

And I'm hetero and also consider the female form more visually appealing than the male form, as in I think it just looks nicer.

Miss Fluff

Perfectly natural OP, you have absolutely nothing to worry about, am a bit shocked by the thread title though.

Your appreciation of the female form has absolutely nothing to do with your sexual preferences and the fact that you would equate being turned on by an image of someone of your own sex to being peverted is a little bit insulting to the bi & gay people of Boards so you might like to rethink your thread title:)

STOP giving yourself a hard time over this. Regardless of sexual preference I think most women find the image of other naked women a turn-on.

LegacyUser

Hi. OP here. Thanks for replying. I should have said that I've always found pictures of topless women attractive even when I was having sex with men.
I never wanted to sleep with a woman but if the situation were to arise it wouldn't bother me. But I woyld still consider myself straight.
But I still feel like some kind of a deviant poring over naked women.
Are there any other women who also look at other naked women?

LegacyUser

OP here again. No I don't mean to offend anybody at all. What I'm saying is spending hours looking at pictures is what's making me feel guilty. It just seems perverted.

I really don't mean to offend anyone and I apologise if I have. Just very confused by it all.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

Saw your post and had to reply because I totally relate to you. I am a female in my early 20's and have preferred boobs since I hit puberty. They turn me on far more than penis does. Like when I look at porn, I rarely get one with a man in it, I normally go for women with big boobs and when i see them touching each others boobs it's the best part for me. I could look at it for hours as well (the only reason I don't is because I normally make myself cum after a while).

There is nothing wrong or perverted about me. I have a healthy sex life with my boyfriend and he knows about my love for boobs and how much they turn me on. I def don't fancy other women. I care nothing for their faces or vagina's or any other body part, just boobs! Hope it helps to know you are not alone in finding them a turn on!

LegacyUser

Hi op

I can relate to you, I am a man who is straight but am attracted to erect male penis, nothing else about them no face and i could never go out with them but i enjoy playing with them and watching porn for them and other things not for here. I prefer women it is all normal, do not worry about it. Women turn me on more but penis does too.

Victor

I wonder if we are all attracted to breasts since we were babies? Sure it may not have been sexual then, but it still created an attraction.

Separately, popular culture has put breasts very much at the centre of sexuality - in most films where you see naked breasts, you rarely get to see the rest.

LegacyUser

HI OP, I'm not sure if this is the same, but I'm female and same age as you. I also haven't had sex in a while and get extremely turned on by male, gay sex. I look at it whenever I'm in the mood - I remember telling an old boyfriend this once, and he was completely appalled at the idea that two blokes having sex, would turn me on.

I used to think I was also weird, but do you know what? We all have our 'things' when it comes to sex. I don't think you're weird at all - I think most would agree that the female naked 'form' is much more attractive than the male...

op your not weird at all we are have little things that turn us on and there is nothing wrong with lookin at naked girls !! i dont think it means your gay at all just normal and even if you have those tendancies so what !

whatever floats your boat ! i agree though with some other posters get out more get yourself a lover and someone who will appreciate your hobby

LegacyUser

I had to reply to this thread. I have similar turn ons to the OP(though I don't go online looking for porn or read mags) though I am younger and also female. I also feel really guilty and like there is something dirty/perverterd about this. Also some "experimentation" I did when I was younger. This has actually caused me years of anguish stress worry depresssion, because someone close to me abused 2 young girls I started associating what i'd done to their behaviour and I couldn't live with being that type person, so much so that I tried to kill myself. This thread has actually being a bit of an eye opener.

kjl

Hi OP, well if you are perverted I don't know what the hell I am.

Looking as some artistic nude photos doesn't make you gay. I think you are more of an exhibitionist, or you would like to be photographed nude or something.

I am straight too, but I too get turned on by watching gay porn, I have often wondered weather I am bisexual or something, but I know I'm not because I have never met a guy in my life that I would actually do anything with. Its just the act that turns me on. And even if you did fancy women, it make you bisexual, not a pervert.

LegacyUser

Hi OP here. Thanks for the replies. It definitely makes me feel better. I suppose it is just a "thing" I have with sex. Everyone has something. I mean, posters are right, it would have to be something really bad, for me to be a pervert.

kjl wrote: »

I think you are more of an exhibitionist, or you would like to be photographed nude or something.

Em, not sure about this. I'm definitely not an exhibitionist. But I like the idea of outdoors sex where I could get caught. Not sure if it's just a fantasy though.

Taltos

Not perverted at all OP.

Only 2 concerns I see.

1st - you are not getting out there meeting either sex. I know easier said than done - but if you are out there having fun you will not be inside getting hooked on porn.

2nd - Guilt - this could be due to your upbringing - and while a little guilt can be ok - a lot of guilt I always feel is just self-perpetuating and for some folk an end to itself.

Just embrace the fact that you are a young woman with sexual needs. Nothing wrong there. Now go and have some fun. (safely)

LegacyUser

Taltos wrote: »

1st - you are not getting out there meeting either sex. I know easier said than done - but if you are out there having fun you will not be inside getting hooked on porn.
(safely)

OP here
Yes you are completely right. I am not out there at all. I've cut myself off from men for the last while and I know I cant do it any longer. Not if I want to meet someone and start a family.
Yes I will try and put myself out there again. (Hate the thoughts of it though)

McCrack

Youre looking at porn which happens to be female, if you are getting turned on by this so be it. It's not perverted. Sexuality in humans is very much fluid and people's tastes/perferences can and often change over time as years pass. Some act on it and some don't.

I really don't see what your issue is with this. I mean when you look at hetro porn I doubt you feel the same guilt but the fact it is same-sex porn you are questioning it.

LegacyUser

LighterGuy wrote: »

Simple fact is that you havent had sex in a long time. Alot of people can have homosexual thoughts when they havent had sex in a very long time (of course when its not by choice)

It plays on the mind. A person can be feel less desireable. Its natural op

I don't think that the fact that she is looking at images of women means that she has low self esteem. This is healthy fantasizing. There is a possibility the OP may be bi-sexual or she could simply be turned on by discovering a different perspective one that she has never imagined before and is not compelled to act upon. Either way it is not perverted.

irishh_bob

Am I a pervert? wrote: »

I am a mid thirties female who hasn't had sex in a few years. Now and again I get a bit frustrated but generally I am OK.
But what worries me is although I am straight and I have no problems with gay sex I get really turned on by naked/topless women. I feel like such a pervert though. Sometimes if I'm very turned on I'll look up websites like Nuts or Hegre which is full of naked women.
I am trying to rationalise it - I think seeing these naked women makes me think of me naked? But in general even though I love guys the female form is much more attractive than the male form IMO.
I sometimes spend a few hours on these websites if I'm in the mood and the next day I feel so ashamed and guilty. It doesnt happen all the time though.
Before anyone says anything I do have a life, but my love life is pretty much dormant because I rarely go to pubs/clubs.
Am I weird?

of course your not weird , the female form is indeed much more pleasant to look at and besides , women are much more inclined to have bisexual leanings than men so thier is nothing unsual about your habbits