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In need of kick up the arse off someone in the form of text!

  • 10-08-2010 8:09pm
    #1
    westsideeast
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    I broke up with the love of my life two months ago after a year and a half. The reason I broke up with her is private but long story short, she had a terrible time of it for a few months, and I didn't really know how to handle it, and probably babied her a bit, letting her get herself down. But i can't handle being without her. I'm constantly thinking about her and can't get her out of my head. We were in contact a few weeks after we broke up and i thought we might be able to start things off again, and she sounded a lot better, but we couldn't kick things off again, due to her having plans to travel, and my workload. I'm absolutely gutted, and I don't really have any friends around me to talk to. I feel pretty down, and don't know how exactly to get back to track. I really don't know what I want from this thread, so any suggestions would be welcome. Or any nice girls who would like to meet me!ha


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Hope this kick is not too hard...
    westsideeast wrote: »
    I broke up with the love of my life two months ago after a year and a half.
    If she was the love of your life then why the hell break up... Rose tinted glasses and possible loneliness I think...
    westsideeast wrote: »
    she had a terrible time of it for a few months, and I didn't really know how to handle it, and probably babied her a bit, letting her get herself down.
    ... so when she needed you most - you bailed....
    westsideeast wrote: »
    IBut i can't handle being without her. I'm constantly thinking about her and can't get her out of my head.
    ... imagine she was feeling just as lost 2 years ago. Shame her partner at the time did not care enough for her then....

    westsideeast wrote: »
    ...were in contact a few weeks after we broke up and i thought we might be able to start things off again, and she sounded a lot better, but we couldn't kick things off again, due to her having plans to travel, and my workload.
    If the relationship was that important and you both were the love of the other - you would have found a foppin way...
    westsideeast wrote: »
    I really don't know what I want from this thread, so any suggestions would be welcome. Or any nice girls who would like to meet me!ha
    Do you want a kick up the proverbial or a date with one of the readers??? There are services / sites you should go to if you are really this lonely instead of dredging up old feelings and hurts with someone you let down when they needed you most.

    I am sorry OP - but I see nothing in your post convincing me that you will not just hurt her again. All I am getting is loneliness and to be honest I feel sorry for your ex.
    Suggest you finally put this behind you and move on with your life. We all have regrets of one form or another.


  • #3
    curlzy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    Hey,

    So you broke up with "the love of your life" when she need you most because you couldn't handle her being upset all the time? WOW!!!

    She's not the love of your life, if she was your post would have read, "Hello, I made a total mess being with the love of my life, I let her down when she needed me most, please help me think of ways that will show her how unbelievabely sorry I am and how much I've changed", instead of "whinge, whinge, whinge, any fit girls around?". She really is better off without you, leave her alone would be my advice. By the sounds of it you're going through a "sowing you wild oats" stage so maybe try being single until you have that out of your system, otherwise you may end up hurting your next girlfriend as well.

    Best of luck.


  • #4
    westsideeast
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭westsideeast


    Guys thanks for your input-seriously I mean that. I realise now that post did sound a bit whingy.
    In relation to leaving her when she needed me most, those tough few months were at the start of the relationship, after about four/five months, and I did my very best for her at the time. It was a long-distance thing, within Ireland, and I travelled up to her as often as I could and made her feel welcome at home whenever she came down. We got throught those hard times, but she still looked upon everything with a pessinistic view, something which I allowed, hence 'babying her', when I should have tried something else. I didn't know what to do and when she lashed out at me a few times for small things, I felt we needed to go our seperate ways. I always saw us getting back together, but Just felt I had to redeem myself a small bit there.
    I do take on board what you are saying completely-it's good to get fresh eyes upon things when you are on a one-track mind.
    And just to clarify, tongue-in-cheek was intended for that comment on meeting girls on here-I don't see myself going back out there for a while!
    I appreciate your comments-I do need to cop myself on, and I will be staying away from her for the foreseeable future


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