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Is it the end of relationship??

  • 10-08-2010 6:21pm
    #1
    serena81
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭


    Can somebody please give me their view on this situation?!
    I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. The first couple of years were great together until he became unemployed. I know its a lot harder for men to deal with having to be at home all day every day doing nothing ,whereas women will always find something to do at home. He has looked eveywhere for work but to no avail. I have tried to support him as best as i can but i don't know what to do now. He is from a different county and blames me because he hates living where we live (where im from). I have told him i would move and give up college for him if thats what would help us get back to the way we were. He is so hard to live with lately, he won't speak to me properly, he is moody,snappy and extremely grumpy! I cannot say a word to him without him biting my head off for no apparent reason! His temper is quite bad also and he breaks stuff in the house. This has been going on for a while now and yesterday i decided enough was enough and i left. I walked out the door and he didnt even try to stop me, so im guessing that that is probably what he has wanted all along. Am i right in leaving??


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  • #2
    Nody
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    Yes unless he's willing to deal with his attitude.


  • #3
    Justask
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,391 ✭✭✭Justask


    Yes you are right for leaving, you deserve better then to be treated in that way IMO.

    There are many many people out of work and finding it tough but dont take it out on the closest person to them.
    Throwing things around the house is a bad sign you have to ask yourself whats next!

    Has he phoned, texted or mad any contact with you?


  • #4
    Moomoo1
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    doesn't sound like he's interested in the relationship...


  • #5
    katie99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭katie99


    He's behaving like a spoilt brat. Ok he's unemployed, so are thousands more, but that doesn't justify him blaming you, where he is living and not being civil to you, nothwithstanding breaking things in your home.
    You are right to leave him. I wouldn't go as far as to say he doesn't want a relationship anymore with you, merely this will give him time and space to work on his attitude towards life in general and you in particular,
    Don't feel bad. He will probably contact you and ask you back.


  • #6
    Justask
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,391 ✭✭✭Justask


    katie99 wrote: »
    He's behaving like a spoilt brat. Ok he's unemployed, so are thousands more, but that doesn't justify him blaming you, where he is living and not being civil to you, nothwithstanding breaking things in your home.
    You are right to leave him. I wouldn't go as far as to say he doesn't want a relationship anymore with you, merely this will give him time and space to work on his attitude towards life in general and you in particular,
    Don't feel bad. He will probably contact you and ask you back.


    Spoilt brat.... Thats the words i was looking for :D


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  • #7
    serena81
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭serena81


    I have given him time and space before, and he came running back. Im not gonna keep doing that. He cant have it all his way. Im not his doormat. He hasnt contacted me and i have no intention of contacting him. I understand there are a lot of people unemployed and i know how stressful that can be, which makes me think its not just job worries, i think he doesnt want to be with me but was just waiting for me to f~~k off! Even though he told me he loves me! whats that all about?? Is he trying to mess with my head?? I dont know whether or not i expect too much out of a relationship, but i thought when things go wrong that you deal with things together and not go against the other completely! I appreciate all the advice i get!!! its a big help!thanx;)


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