a bit trivial I know, but is he interested?

LegacyUser

I started a club sport well over a month ago, mixed game. The first night I showed up, I spotted a guy I thought was cute. Luckily that night after we all ended up in the pub. I didn't really get ample time to chat to him, but anytime I looked at him he was looking right back. I lost count of the number of times. I got the feeling he wanted to edge over to me on one or two occasions but the pub was packed and there were lots of distractions, people butting in etc.
Anyway, it was early days, I hoped another opportunity would come up.

unfortunately there weren't really many other opportunities. there wasn't always drinks after the matches. on one occasion there were a few of us left after a game. I was sick so wasn't up for heading to the pub in town. he seemed totally up for drinks on this occasion. My gut said he was hoping we'd all go and again, he caught him glancing in my direction once or twice. In the end the pub didn't happen, but 5/6 of us hung around chatting. He and one other were drinking, I wasn't. So one by one each person left. I'm normally very shy and would run off scared at the thought of sitting it out to chat to as guy. But I sat it out. We were left alone. We spoke in small talk, I asked how often he went home etc, how long it took, things like that. it wasn't awkward from my point of view. Then suddenly out of nowhere, he said 'oh we're the only 2 left', knocked back some of his drink and stood up. I took this as the cue for both of us to leave. It was awkward. We walked back to our respective cars, on the way he spoke again and asked me about how often I go home. I answered, then said goodbye. I felt so crappy. couldnt' really figure it out . I took it as a bit of a rejection that evening.

I was telling some of my friends the story. one of them suggested that the guy got all nervous and that was the problem. Not sure.

Since then, I have kinda kept my distance, I suppose I sort of felt like I'd done enough. maybe I was wrong. there was only one final opportunity since that evening, and most of the team were hitting the clubhouse. two of his male friends showed up just before the game ended. they were dressed up. so in the end he headed off with them and I lost out on one final and probably the best opportunity.

There is a chance we'll see each other again, when the season starts up in a couple of months.

I know I've little to be doing dwelling on this, but what do ye reckon, am I barking up the wrong tree???

ManOfMystery

I guess it boils down to one thing, was there chemistry? You may have a mutual physical attraction to one another and catch each other's eye a lot, but if there's no chemistry between your personalities (when chatting) then there may not be much point in pursuing it. Only you can answer this one really. Was there a complete lack of chemistry hence the stilted conversation, or do you think there was chemistry there but it was blighted by nerves on both sides?

niceoneted

Did he drive home after a few pints. That would be a no no in my book and would not impress me as boyfriend material.

LegacyUser

no, 2 bottles, and not even a full second one. I know what you mean though niceoneted.

think I forgot to say in first post, that I bumped into him at the bank near the start of this tournament. We spoke for a minute or so. I was nervous, but I felt he was just as bad if not worse. potential for chemistry, but kinda felt like the only way we'd find out would be if we had a few drinks in us...
thanks.

LegacyUser

completely off topic here, but what sport was it interested to know what mixed sport attracts cute guys

in answer to your question there will be other opportunities so I reckon you need to bide your time and when you inevitably end up in the pub again together see how it goes ,
also is he single? do you know?
is he a player?
he might do that to all incoming new girls..

Colonel_McCoy

Why dont you just ask him out on a date