Alone

Chuchoter

I am sick of having no friends. I have never had anyone I could really call anything beyond an acquaintance. I have friends from school but none of them really care I exist. They're always posting pictures of them going fun places on facebook that I never hear about, and then they're like you never come out anywhere, and its like well maybe if you told me something was going on I would. If I organize my own thing everyones always 'busy' or turn up stupidly late.

I'm going through a really hard time in my life at the moment and I literally have no-one to turn to that isn't the internet, which is beyond depressing. Whats worse is the one person I though I could trust has basically decided I'm not cool enough for them and takes ages to return my texts. I joined a sport to meet people and I have met two really nice girls but I know thats not going to be anything more than another acquaintance because thats the way it always is. I mean its not like people don't like me, its like if I don't come into school nobody notices. What am I doing so wrong?

sbsquarepants

You're obviously quite young. (school and that!)
There's an old saying "laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone". It means 2 things, a - try stay upbeat and positive and people will be more drawn to you as a result, and also b - when you feel down, it SEEMS more like nobody cares.
School years can be great, but they can also be hell as anyone who has gone through them will attest. Remember you're only finding your feet and are still growing into the person you have yet to become. In a few years you will hardly recognise yourself. I know that sounds like condescending bulls'hit, it certainly did to me at the time! But trust me it's not.
Very few people will stay constant in your life, you make new friends and loose touch with others all the time, don't fret when this happens, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, it's just the way it works!
There aren't any rules, so you aren't doing anything wrong. Just be yourself, try be nice to people when you can and you'll find your way.

LegacyUser

. you poor pet you sound very down at the moment i had a look at your profile here and your very young . First thing i suggest you do is talk to some one you can trust an older relative or maybe a teacher at school. If you don't feel you can do this The Samaritans are great to talk to in all types of situations and will give you someone that will listen to you and support you http://www.dublinsamaritans.ie/
I know you feel the need to fit in socially with your peers. And it sounds like it makes you anxious when you feel you are being left out and face book is making the whole thing seem worse. Why not give up face book for a while. Taking up a sport was a great idea and if these two girls don't turn out to be great friends in the future there are plenty of other people out there who i am sure would love to be your friend , take up more sports more activities look around your local area and see what's going on give up the social networking and get your self out there
Best of luck

Nevyn

I would say keep your head down, school is a means to an end and that goal is education and enough points to do what you want in college and college life is a lot different and a lot better then the petty playground which is secondary school.

Given that your parents didn't like the last youth group you got invovled with, you should still be looking at something which will be a social outlet, will teach you new skills and will look good on your cv. Be it volunterring or joining scouts or order of malta or the civil defense, most of them parents won't object to and you get a different socail scene and you will learn new skills.

Some people are just naturally more out going then others and over the 5 years of secondary school people get pigeon holed and it's hard to break free from that as people assume the already know you. So school is not the be all and end all and you have to be a friend to have a friend, you have to make the effort and the relationship grows, you dont' just become someone's best bud over night.

Beruthiel

Take Thaeds advice on board.
If I remember correctly, you're 16/17?
College is just round the corner, the world will be your oyster and will be what ever you make of it.
Put the head down, get a good LC.
Most of the people you know now, you'll never see again.