Help me please I am really stressed out about this now.

LegacyUser

I need help please peoples.

I have known this girl for a few weeks now and I know she really likes me she told her friends she likes me, she told me by text she loves me and i told her the same, We joked about a possible wedding together and she text me everyday and she spoke to me on msn every night for hours. We were the perfect couple that wasnt actually going out with each other lol

Anway she has a friend that I was joking about with her and well she got really upset about the jokes I made so I apologized straight away and she said me and her were ok and she told me she loved me ( friday 2 weeks ago lol)

Now though, she aint texting me, I have to start chats on msn and even at that she has me waiting ages for replies I waited 10 mins for a simple reply yesterday ffs.



She had a b day party a few days ago and she has put pics of her and the friend that I slagged up on facebook, bebo and even msn and underneath it says ''me and my friend john I love you'' Now she was aware that I was a bit jelious of this bloke and her and yet she puts pics of them together everywhere I can see. She even told me last week that he was the other man in her life..

Do you think she has gone off me or just trying to wind me up?? and well what should I do Thanks people.. I am really stressed out about this

Taltos

OP I have no idea how old you are.

However - someone telling you that they love you - well if you are not actually a couple then you should not be taking this seriously.
You probably are in fact crazy about her - but without spending time together then it is unlikely (though possible) that both of you are in love with the other.

She might just be one of those very affectionate people who loves everyone, you know - the type with a very positive upbeat outlook on life - and that actually is a great type of person.

In terms of you stressing about this - a few things.
1. Learn from your past mistakes - slagging off mates is kind of what has caused a problem here - suggest you really look at why you do this and try to stop. Otherwise you will just get a reputation for being a d1ck.
2. Learn from her reaction - she is a bit slow in responding to you. I am guessing you are IM'ing furiously, you know "what's wrong?"..."I still love you"..."I'm sorry.." - time to stop all this now. Take a break totally from IM /text. It is just a bad cycle you are falling into.

What might happen here is she might think - oh he is going off me - and may instead initiate contact - this is what you want. I am not saying be all cold or play games - I am just saying give her some space - and let her know that you are.

Finally - don't throw the love word around. It means so much - instead just say - yea - I care about you too or something - but love???

In terms of being jealous about her being with someone else - I cannot see that she is committed to you - so you might well have to deal with the reality that she has met someone she wants to be with - and that person might not be you... Try to mix more with other friends and just stay really really busy - it helps alot - trust me on this.

Whatever you do - do NOT bad mouth her - and try to stop slagging anyone else...

LegacyUser

Hey taltos, I think the reason I have put so much thought into this girl is because she was the first girl that has come along in a really long time and well if i'm honest I think I wanted her just to say I have a g/friend, I mean I am litrally the only single one left out of my group of friends and even my da is annoying me about it at his stage. I really do think everyone thinks i'm either weird or gay at this stage.

The other thing that annoyed me is that when I slagged her friend it wasnt anything really bad it was one or two jokes and I was actually annoyed that she is acting childish like this.

As far as staying away and not texting her, I did think of doing that and I actually plan on doing so. Thing is I told her i'd be around to her house today so I think I will go around there for a while then just not contact her for a while and see what happens. what ya think of that?

Taltos

Look - whatever happened when you went around..
But - stop letting what others think of you get to you - otherwise they control what you do - and you will never be happy.

So what if they think you are weird or gay or whatever - you might want to think about that though - as there is nothing wrong with either of these. Key thing is that whatever you are - you are happy. If that means you are alone for a while - so be it - there is alot to be said for being alone. You answer to no-one. You set your own timetable. You can do what you want with who you want...

Being with someone just because it is expected is a recipe for disaster. Are you with the person cause you care for them or cause you are expected to be with them...

Take some time - enjoy your own company and just try to be happy.