First date down, what now...

LegacyUser

Hello Everybody.

I met a lovely girl at a party about a month ago (mutual friend’s party). We were fairly drunk and ended up kissing. Can’t really remember how it came about but I knew I fancied her like mad (met her once before). I got her number.

So we texted etc.. on and off for a week and met a week later with mutual friends on a night out. Spent a good few hours kissing, went home our separate ways.

I wanted to meet her one-to-one without the others so I organised a few hours out with her last Thursday. Nothing major, just a couple of hours stroll around the park. We chatted away no bother, I was pretty nervous (no dutch courage) and maybe she was too. There weren’t too many awkward silences and I got to know a bit more about her and she got to know a bit more about me. There was no kiss this time or any huge amount of flirting. Her friends say she’s quite shy without drink so who knows.

Anyway, she text me that night saying thanks, she had a good time. I said I did too and she replied that’s good. I said I’d like to meet her again (on our own) if she was interested. She said “I am sure that can be arranged”. So I told her she could do the organising next time and it better be something exciting (a bit of banter). She said “gimme time. It’ll come up with something good”.

Anyway since then we have been texting every day and messaging on Facebook and/or skype. But so far no sign of her asking about meeting up again. I don’t want to be the one suggesting it again because I want to know if she’s interested etc…

What do you guys think… Does it look like a good thing so far or the fact that she hasn’t arranged something since seem bad?

Colonel_McCoy

Stop waiting around for her. Ring her tonight and organise something. She will say yes!

Kiera

Well you've spoken everyday since so thats a great sign. Her friends have told you that she's shy so maybe that's why its taken her so long to ask you out. Why not ask her to the cinema during the week? Its not too formal and at least its a simple date....

LegacyUser

Hi, thanks for the replies so far.

I don't have any difficulties doing the chasing etc...but I just don't want to come on too heavy, too soon either and scare her off. :-) It seems to be going well, maybe she is just shy... Do you tink cinema would be a good idea? In some ways I do want to stay away from alcohol related dates for now, but I wonder if it helps her be a bit more relaxed would a drink and chat be a better suited idea...

Kiera

I think the cinema is good as she's shy so there's not much talking. Only on the way there and back. You'll be able to see if she's into you that way too. Give it a few days and ask her....

LegacyUser

Kiera wrote: »

I think the cinema is good as she's shy so there's not much talking. Only on the way there and back. You'll be able to see if she's into you that way too. Give it a few days and ask her....

Thanks Kiera. I might suggest to her tomorrow about a Wednesday night flick or something.

petethebrick

ZenMan wrote: »

Thanks Kiera. I might suggest to her tomorrow about a Wednesday night flick or something.

Yeah I think the cinema is a good idea also. She can arrange the date another time - doesn't really matter anyhow!
I think you should arrange to meet her an hour or so before the film and have a drink or something. It can be a bit awkward sometimes just going straight into the cinema with someone you're just getting to know and sitting there for two hours. having a drink first will enable you both to loosen up. Give her a kiss before going into the film, don't leave it until during/after the film.

LegacyUser

petethebrick wrote: »

Yeah I think the cinema is a good idea also. She can arrange the date another time - doesn't really matter anyhow!
I think you should arrange to meet her an hour or so before the film and have a drink or something. It can be a bit awkward sometimes just going straight into the cinema with someone you're just getting to know and sitting there for two hours. having a drink first will enable you both to loosen up. Give her a kiss before going into the film, don't leave it until during/after the film.

Oh that sounds like a great idea alright... Definitely will suggest that. Not sure about the kiss thing, see where your coming from in it but not sure how can execute that outta the blue ha ha walking to the cinema or something...

petethebrick

ZenMan wrote: »

Oh that sounds like a great idea alright... Definitely will suggest that. Not sure about the kiss thing, see where your coming from in it but not sure how can execute that outta the blue ha ha walking to the cinema or something...

Kiss her in the pub when you're having a drink, don't dive in for it, wait for a moment when you're talking up close to her and lean in then. You'll feel awkward for a second but then the air of tension about when the kiss will happen will be gone completely. By kiss I mean a gentle yet firm one on the lips. Follow it up with a more drawn out kiss as you leave the pub. She'll be attracted by your confidence I reckon.
You've kissed her before so that's even more reason why you should have no problems doing this. Trust me, it's the best approach

LegacyUser

petethebrick wrote: »

Kiss her in the pub when you're having a drink, don't dive in for it, wait for a moment when you're talking up close to her and lean in then. You'll feel awkward for a second but then the air of tension about when the kiss will happen will be gone completely. By kiss I mean a gentle yet firm one on the lips. Follow it up with a more drawn out kiss as you leave the pub. She'll be attracted by your confidence I reckon.
You've kissed her before so that's even more reason why you should have no problems doing this. Trust me, it's the best approach

Cheers again Pete.

Sounds like a good plan alrite. Just have to get her to say yes to the second date so... eek!

Beruthiel

ZenMan wrote: »

What do you guys think… Does it look like a good thing so far or the fact that she hasn’t arranged something since seem bad?

You said she is shy. Therefore, you need to take more control in this.
Ask her out again and if she says yes, then she is interested in you.
Take charge and show a little more confidence on you next date.

FortyPlusHubby

ZenMan wrote: »

What do you guys think… Does it look like a good thing so far or the fact that she hasn’t arranged something since seem bad?

Have you reminded her during your texting/chats that you're waiting for her to arrange something? She may have just forgotten that it's her turn.

Maybe (just maybe) finances are an issue for her, and she does not want to arrange something special until she can afford it? Be clear that you would be happy just to meet up for a stroll somewhere.

Good luck,

40pH