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trust issues

  • 07-08-2010 12:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I broke up with my ex a while ago, he had been in a serious relationship before me and in some ways I don't think he was ready for another relationship. I have trouble trusting people and for me he was the first serious boyfriend I had. We always said that we would be friends if we broke up. When we did we gave each other space. I have tried contacting him since to see if we can still be friends but he says we can't & no I don't think he has feelings for me anymore. I feel really messed up and logically I know I'm coming across as needy, wallowing in self pithy and childish but how do I move on? I know he has the right to choose who he does and doesn't want to be friends with. I just want to know how to stop being so naive, move on and trust somebody again.


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  • #2
    Zen65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,630 ✭✭✭Zen65


    trustingsomeoneagain wrote: »
    I feel really messed up and logically I know I'm coming across as needy, wallowing in self pithy and childish but how do I move on? I know he has the right to choose who he does and doesn't want to be friends with. I just want to know how to stop being so naive, move on and trust somebody again.

    It's hard to move on when you keep looking back.

    Get out, find other people. If you can't trust people because they might not want to be friends when the relationship is over, you're in for a long, lonely life.

    People are like instant coffee. You can buy all sorts of instant coffees, but eventually you settle on a brand you like. If that brand isn't in the shops anymore you don't stop drinking coffee altogether, do you? You just try other brands, and eventually there will be one that you like, just as much as your first.

    Ok, that's not a great explanation, so watch this instead.

    Now, move on, going forward.


    Be at peace,

    Z


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