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Low self confidence

  • 07-08-2010 11:55am
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    LegacyUser
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    I'm a mid twenties male. I have a real problem approaching new girls and being myself around girls I like.

    Many girls have fallen in love with me over the years. But never girls I myself actually feel the same way about. I think there must be some connection. Its like with girls I'm interested in I don't take risks in being myself around, I just play it safe and stick to normal conversation.

    If I can tell a girl likes me but I'm not interested in her I'm amazingly confident and really funny, charming etc.

    I have lots of great friends so I'm not miserable or anything. I'm just concerned that in a few years I'm going to end up settling with someone I don't love because I don't want to be alone. Its really important to me that the person I end up with is someone I really love who thinks the way I do and is also my best friend as well as partner.

    Approaching girls on nights out I fancy - I just can't do it so I always end up with girls who approach me - doesn't happen too often and they're usually not very attractive. The ones I do find attractive usually get bored after a few minutes because I'm pathetically un-entertaining with them

    I did one of those legal high drugs a few months ago. I was able to approach anyone I wanted and actually got good responses. Though they're now illegal and I don't think this is the kind of thing I should be using stimulants to correct.

    Does anyone have any advice? Or a suggestion for a self help book?


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