contacting the ex... need men opinion plz

LegacyUser

There it is..

hi all,

My ex and I finish 14 months ago, his decision (first love for each although we are not early 20s)

Now my ex has a girlfriend now, I don't know since when, but he has started to make contact with me and yes, before anyone says it, it is for sex I am not naive.

my question is, I believe his girlfriend is away, ense why I am sure he is now missing "it" and decided to contact me take his chances as we had an amazing sex life when together, it's clear I wasn't born yesterday, but why an EX? why not someone new with who you don't have history?? I have talked to my girlfriends and all said, as me, that contacting ex for sex would be a very bad idea as it would digg in the old feelings, and that is why I wouldn't go there but is it easier for men than to go back to a familiar good old time sex for the sake of it without fear it would digg the past mentaly??

that is very confusing to me, I think I am in shock still he is not seeing it that way, he has tried for the past 3 weekends now, I don't know how I feel about him on this, like I said I am still feeling blurred about his action.

Is it really that easy for men?? an ex is just back to be a piece of meat then, forgetting the feelings you had and back to cave times?

Of course I know its not 100% of the time acting like this, I am well aware woman do this too, I feel personaly, if I was horny or in need of action or whatever I would no visit EXtown thats all.
Its known that woman needs some sort of feelings to get invloved where men can just do it easier without, again, don't shoot me on this I am generalising nothing personal.

Anyone who could share some lights on this it would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for reading

LegacyUser

It takes a lot of effort to get sex from a woman you've not had sex with before. An ex girlfriend is generally an easy target, they're usually weak and give in quickly. For me and men I know, there is no feelings involved, it's just a piece of meat as you put it yourself. It gets the job done when other supplies of sex are unavailable. I don't think he still has feelings for you or anything like that. you're just a lot less effort to get sex out of than someone fresh and new.

Cian92

Please don't go back to him. You are an easy target for sex. I don't know your ex, but I'd say alot of men would be afraid it would drag up past feelings...

Gator

Simple answer...dont do it...if you have to ask for advice then you know yourself its wrong