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Protection for lesbian sex

  • 06-08-2010 12:40pm
    #1
    jane188
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi all, i feel silly asking but here goes..

    I am 18 and just accepted i'm a lesbian, i've met a lovely older women who i would love to go all the way with, my problem is protection? do I need to use it in lesbian sex and will i look like a fool if i bring it up???:o


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  • #2
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,316 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    You won't look like a fool.

    You can use dental dams for oral.
    To be honest though, I've never come across anyone who used dental dams.

    For anal on the other hand (so to speak, boom, boom) I know many women use latex gloves or finger cots. That's more a general hygiene thing though than particularly STI related.

    Obviously be fairly scrupulous hygiene-wise if sharing toys. Use condoms on them.

    Talk to your lady about your worries. If she's older, she'll have come across it before. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable and safe doing. Enjoy.


  • #3
    jane188
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭jane188


    spurious wrote: »
    You won't look like a fool.

    You can use dental dams for oral.
    To be honest though, I've never come across anyone who used dental dams.

    For anal on the other hand (so to speak, boom, boom) I know many women use latex gloves or finger cots. That's more a general hygiene thing though than particularly STI related.

    Obviously be fairly scrupulous hygiene-wise if sharing toys. Use condoms on them.

    Talk to your lady about your worries. If she's older, she'll have come across it before. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable and safe doing. Enjoy.

    Thanks for the info, never heard of dental dams! I know condoms for toys it's stuff like oral and tribadism i'm confused about what to use, do people even use stuff and is there a high risk of STIs if I don't??


  • #4
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,316 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    There's as much a risk of STIs as with men (particularly if the woman you're with has been with men), apart from HIV which is a lower risk.
    Some vaginal infections are higher.

    Have a look at these:
    http://www.avert.org/lesbians-safe-sex.htm
    http://www.qahc.org.au/files/shared/docs/fs_lesbiansexualhealth.pdf (.pdf file)

    Really though, talk to your lady. Find out what you like, what she likes, you may not end up doing all (or any) of the activities mentioned.


  • #5
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Avakinder gave some good info that may be relevant

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=66633584&postcount=53

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=66987314&postcount=55

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=67006579&postcount=56

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    Terry Pratchet



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