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girlz

Hi, dont really know why im writing this, think I just need to rant.
My dh started up his own business recently and is very busy tg but also very stressed. He is uasually very easygoing and not a bit argumentative. Lately hes been in quite bad mood with me, which I`v tried to ignore as I know he,s under presure.
Anyhow last weekend my mam took dds overnight and we went out for a meal and a couple of drinks, had really good night untill we were leaving,
On way out of pub we bumped into a few of our friends from years ago(before dds) and got talking. They bought us a drink and we were having a good laugh and catchup. Since we`v seen them last I`v lost quite a bit of weight, which im thrilled about. The guys in the group were very complementory towards me on how I looked, as were the girls.
Anyway on the way home in the taxi my dh said the guys were only talking to me to get to him because of his business. He seems to think one of the guys wants to get in with him, iukwim.
Talk about a kick in the stomach,,,I have felt very hurt and feel my confidence has taken a big knock. All week have not really spoken to dh, also have to say dh hasnt spoken to me either.
Dont know how to handle this, we are off on holiday next week, will have to pretend alls well for the sake of dds.
Sorry for such long post(prob all over the place).
Any advice be very welcome.

lulu90

First off, congrats on the weight loss, it's not easy

I don't blame you for being annoyed at him, I would have been too. It takes so much to lose weight and you were entitled to those compliments. If you have lost a noticeable amount of weight then that group were clearly being genuine with their compliments and it had nothing to do with 'getting in with him'.

It sounds to me like he is jealous of the attention and compliments they showered you with. Like he believes that the lime light and the attention should be on him due to starting up his new business. But that can be quite natural when, like him, you put so much effort into something and are under pressure from it. It can be difficult to see past your own struggle and recognise other people's successes.

Another reason might be that if he didn't know you when you had the weight on, maybe he simply isn't aware of how much you lost. Photos can often not reflect it and people tend to hid the really bad pics!! He mightn't be aware of why they were complimenting you so much.

The final thing I can think of is that he could have been insecure at so many people, including males, praising you and telling you how hot you looked. Maybe he thinks that you might get it into your head that you can do better than him.

Hope ye sort it before the holiday anyway! You don't want to come back with good memories of the place overshadowed by bad ones! Communication seems to be the key as neither of you seems to know what is the matter with the other. Good luck and enjoy your holiday!

Any key?

Tbh OP he seems quite caught up in himself.... to not even notice u might be noticed for something more then him..thats so self centred.

Beruthiel

girlz wrote: »

Talk about a kick in the stomach,,,I have felt very hurt and feel my confidence has taken a big knock. All week have not really spoken to dh, also have to say dh hasnt spoken to me either.
Dont know how to handle this.

You need to talk to him and tell him exactly how you are feeling about everything that's going on right now.
Be calm don't rise to an arguement.