Am I being petty?

LegacyUser

This might seem a bit trivial compared to some other posts on here but this has been bugging me for a few days now.

Last week I changed my hair colour..a drastic change from blonde to dark brown..obviously with such a dramatic change people mention it etc.

The day I did it I went to see my boyfriend. He knew I had been to the hairdressers and texted me saying he couldn't wait to see it. I went to his house that day and he said nothing-in fact he never even mentioned it. His mum came in and complimented it. After she left I said to him, "you don't like it do you?" he immediately went on the offence and said "I thought you don't like it" I have no idea what gave him that idea. He then went on and said "it's nice" and that was it.

To tell the truth I'm pretty miffed about this situation, if he doesn't like it he could say it to me nicely..or am I reading to deeply into this?

By the way he has seen me as a brunette before so it's not like it's something completely new for him and also he was all for it when I told him I was changing my hair.

LegacyUser

The same thing happened me OP. I am a natural brunette but for years I had been a blonde. I decided to go back to my natural colour and when I did hardly any of my friends commented on it despite it being as obvious as day and night. I couldnt get over it and was really pissed off TBH. Were they telling me they didnt like it? I said it to people but they said, it wasn't that different. A good few people have told me they liked it, namely my family and acquaintances. I don't care now though. It's my natural hair colour and I LIKE it and know it suits me.

But actually some people are very preoccupied with their own things that sometimes they don't notice stuff like this. In your boyfriends case he probably doesnt like it. But flip him. If you like it, that's all that matters

cats.life

op do you like it, dont be put of with him not liking it, its your hair dont be up tight over it, put some blond streaks in it to make it even nicer, ive done what you now have done, didnt like it at all so iwent to my pal who is a hairdresser and she put blond streaks in it , it turned out lovely. i,d say he had a colour in his head to what he thought it would be like .

tenchi-fan

Your hair colour might be a big deal to you.. chances are your boyfriend could not care less about it. I imagine he scored a few brownie points when you were excited about getting it done and he feigned an interest .. then it simply slipped his mind and he forgot all about it.

Sorry if that sounds harsh! If you give him enough grief he'll make sure to compliment you the next time you do something to your hair.

I know a guy who sets an alarm on his phone when his girlfriend books a hair appointment. Just before he arrives home the alarm beeps, reminding him to compliment her new hairstyle and avoid a week in the dog house.

krudler

Its a no win situation for a guy to be in tbh, if you lie and say you like it when you dont, you're a liar, if you say you dont like it and be honest about it, you're a bastard. Why do women ask questions to which theres no correct answer? easy option, dont ask. If you like it then thats all that matters.

MissHoneyBun

It sounds to me like he didn't like it but didn't know how to say so without upsetting you so he said nothing at all. Which is why I think it's important to be comfortable with your own decisions in life and only ask for people's opinions out of curiosity as opposed to seeking reassurance. That comes from within.

AnonoBoy

To be honest yes you are reading way too much into this.

It's a hair colour, he's a guy. These two things often live their whole lives without ever even learning of the other's existence.

Zen65

rightorwrongidk wrote: »

To tell the truth I'm pretty miffed about this situation, if he doesn't like it he could say it to me nicely..or am I reading to deeply into this?

Just a wild guess.... there's something on his mind that has nothing to do with hair.

See if he feels like talking.


Be at peace,


Z

Deise Musashi

Yes you are being petty, it's not even hair, it's hair colour.

Rosita

krudler wrote: »

Its a no win situation for a guy to be in tbh, if you lie and say you like it when you dont, you're a liar, if you say you dont like it and be honest about it, you're a bastard. Why do women ask questions to which theres no correct answer? easy option, dont ask. If you like it then thats all that matters.

This sums it up really. He's entitled not particularly like it but apparently not to express this. I wouldn't necessarily assume because of his reticence that he is harbouring some dark secret that's keeping his mind off your hair.

This is a non-issue in the greater scheme of things.

JonathanAnon

krudler wrote: »

Its a no win situation for a guy to be in tbh, if you lie and say you like it when you dont, you're a liar, if you say you dont like it and be honest about it, you're a bastard. Why do women ask questions to which theres no correct answer? easy option, dont ask. If you like it then thats all that matters.

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Before you ask him about this situation that you've put him in and expect him to come up with an answer you like, why dont tell him whether you will want him to be a) honest or b) tell you what you want to hear..... If your hair doesnt look as good, it's not his fault.. By his reaction, he seems to be a (reluctantly) honest sort of chap.... You never know, honesty may turn out to be a useful trait in the long run..

In short, give the guy a break.