Fee for priest and altar boys - quick answer req'd

aldeniro

Hi,
Appreciate a quick answer to this query if possible. What is the norm fee for giving a priest and altar boy for saying wedding mass?

ninnyhammer

I'll be watching this feed closely, in same prediciment.

I was told 100-150 for priest. not sure about the servers, i'd be thinking 10/20 unless i hear otherwise

aldeniro

Thats what i would have reckoned, 150 priest, 20 each alter boy, maybe 50-75 for church person? That sound ok?

yutta

You wouldn't get an organist for €100, what makes people think they can put two fifties in an envelope and feel good about themselves?

€1,000 for the parish in an envelope is respectable for a medium to large sized wedding. Anything below that is free-loading.

RentDayBlues

Seriously, €1000 the priest? What world do you live in!

Da GOAT

yutta wrote: »

You wouldn't get an organist for €100, what makes people think they can put two fifties in an envelope and feel good about themselves?

€1,000 for the parish in an envelope is respectable for a medium to large sized wedding. Anything below that is free-loading.

ridiculious statement.

aviendha

yutta wrote: »

You wouldn't get an organist for €100, what makes people think they can put two fifties in an envelope and feel good about themselves?

€1,000 for the parish in an envelope is respectable for a medium to large sized wedding. Anything below that is free-loading.

:rolleyes:
very helpful...
you don't pay weekly/quarterly/havest dues to an organist either, dues that were originally brought in to cover all sacraments and church ceremonies, but funny, both are accepted..

anyway to the point:
servers= 10-20 depending on how many
sacristan=50
priest - depends on whether you are from the parish, or whether there is a donation expected. ask the priest or the sacristan in advance but will range from 150-500 depending on the priest, church and your relationship with both I'd say!

best of luck

LBD

yutta wrote: »

€1,000 for the parish in an envelope is respectable for a medium to large sized wedding. Anything below that is free-loading.

Why is this exactly????!!!! You are joking?!

Agree with previous posters. 100-150 for priest. 20ish for altar boys.

whatnext

Just been through it all.

Gave the priest 300 and the alterboys a 50 to share.

All seemed pleased enough, and trust me the priest is not shy about sticking his hand out.

A-Trak

yutta wrote: »

You wouldn't get an organist for €100, what makes people think they can put two fifties in an envelope and feel good about themselves?

€1,000 for the parish in an envelope is respectable for a medium to large sized wedding. Anything below that is free-loading.

No problem Fr.:rolleyes:

smelltheglove

Wow, 1k??? I gave the priest an envelope with 300 but I assumed he would give the altar boys a few euro from it:o

I covered a wedding once where the woman who worked in the church came out and asked the bride for her envelope, that she hadnt received any. The bride had organised the flowers and music herself so she wasnt expecting to have to pay the lady also and it was never mentioned to her, we were actually in the middle of taking photos when the lady interrupted with ehr request, I was quite shocked to say the least, as far as I was aware these people get paid to do their jobs anyway!

aviendha

smelltheglove wrote: »

I covered a wedding once where the woman who worked in the church came out and asked the bride for her envelope, that she hadnt received any. The bride had organised the flowers and music herself so she wasnt expecting to have to pay the lady also and it was never mentioned to her, we were actually in the middle of taking photos when the lady interrupted with ehr request, I was quite shocked to say the least, as far as I was aware these people get paid to do their jobs anyway!

mortifying for the bride, and very rude to interrupt during the photographs - she should've brought the BM aside perhaps to enquire.
The sacristan is usually given a donation (c.50) as hers is a voluntary role and she is the person who comes in, opens the church, makes sure it's clean and tidy, puts on the lights, the heating etc etc, so it's only fair to give her a contribution for her sorting all this out for the marriage ceremony.... if she also organises music and flowers, then her donation would be far larger...

TonyD79

Considering it costs 300+ to use the church are you still expected to give these donations? I dont mind giving 20 euro to the alter boy but since your supposed to invite the Priest to the wedding what is the realistic cost of fees + donations for those on a reasonable budget.

Ireland isnt really a big tipping society so I guess this is where the confusion comes in. I experienced a "Tipping ceremony" after an Inca Trek in Peru and it was really uncomfortable and cringeworthy.