Ex and I back working together- What to do??!

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Myself and my ex since May had a short relationship aof about 6 months but have worked tother for about 1 year. We broke up due to other work commitments on both sides. I was in the middle of doing a Masters and he was being promoted.
What made the breakup more difficult was the fact that we work together so have to see each other. We did try to juggle both the workloads at the time but it became evident from him that he couldnt keep up and would miss dates or turn up late etc etc.
After we broke up, rumours surfaced that he had cheated with another work collegue on a night out while we were going out. I asked him and he denied it flat out. Those rumours came from people we work with so at the time I didnt know what to believe so I asked him.

Shortly after we split, I felt really bad about the whole thing and sent him an email just wishing him well with his job and just said how I hoped it wouldnt be awkward at work as hes back working with me in Sept. He replied just saying how he was so sorry he couldn;t commit more to the relationship in the end, that he really liked me and enjoyed spending time with me but that the timing was all off. In reply, I just said sure maybe we can see were we are in Sept or Oct when thiings calm down. He replied saying he didnt know what he wanted right now?? I said thats fine, not asking for an answer now, we'll just play it by ear.

So heres the dilemma, he'l be back in a matter of weeks, what should I do? Mention it again OR just try and work together as collegues ?? Bear in mind, we havent been in any sort of contact for 2 months!I never felt chemistry with anyone else the way I did with him and like he said we had an amazing time when we were together.

I have tried to get over it but I think the fact that the whole thing hasnt been put to bed for good is maybe giving me false hope so I cant let it go!

Thanks for reading, all advice appreciated!

MsHolloway

hi op, maybe you should take your own advice and play it by ear.

I dont think you should contact him again. I know you really like him, op, but he hasn't made any contact in two months. You said your bit, you told him how you felt and he had two whole months to think about it, and he hasn't made any attempt at contact. I think you should leave him be.

I think you should get out there and meet new people, move on. You certainly shouldn't be waiting around for an answer from him - Get out there and live your life. If he comes back to you and wants to get back together, well personally I would have a long think about whether getting back together would be a good idea, would things be different etc.

In short - When he comes back just work together and be professional. Don't be moping around waiting for his answer, you're worth more than that op!

spinandscribble

You've already hinted you might be up for a reunion, if I was you I'd play it by ear and see how he is. I bet you'll be able to tell easily where his heads at when you both do see each other again.

I wouldn't really listen too much to the work mates, some people just like stirring, its happened to me on occasion.

moco

I'd leave it. From what I can make out from your post he wasn't committed enough to the relationship to keep dates and try and make it work and he may have cheated on you. You've hinted at getting back together but he evaded the issue and he hasn't contacted you so to me that all adds up to he's not really that interested.