Question for the women

LegacyUser

I asked my sisters friend out for a drink in an email a couple of weeks ago. I had only met her once very briefly before this at a Birthday party. She has asked for it to be kept between us (ie not tell my sis) but that she would meet me sometime. I got the impression for her it would just be for the laugh as her response was along the lines of: yeah I suppose we could do that sometime.

My question is do you think women in general would accept an offer like this from a guy if they were not necessarily interested romantically for lack of a better word and just accept it for something to do?

I'm very much interested but considering I will be seeing her around now that she moved/ lives close to us I do not wish to meet this lady if there's a chance she is just accepting the offer for the sake of it.

She seems like someone with morales which I suppose is good.

I think she is 28 and I am 27.

Thanks a million

LegacyUser

I am a woman in early 30s. I would accept an offer if I dont dislike that guy. That doesn't mean I like that guy a lot tho. But at least he would be someone I feel comfortable to spend some time with.

I think OP you can relax a little bit and just take it as a chance to know each other. No harm if she goes just out of 'politeness' or not. Maybe you can change her impression about you in the 1st date from someone who is "OK" to have a coffee with to someone who is "great fun" to spend time with.

Good LUCK.

jurgenscarl

I think you're reading way way to much into this.
Attractive women get hit on and asked out for dates all the time.
They get so much attention from men that a lot of the time they just tell men to f--- off with themselves.
She probably has lots of options but she has decided to go out with you 'sometime.'
A girl who agrees to date you likes you but it doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that - she might even sleep with you a few times - still doesn't mean its any more than liking.
She could possibly be dating other guys at the same time. You never know.
Don't go judging a girl on 'morals' - she can do what she likes.
If it doesn't work out, have other options available for yourself.
Instead of being focused on the 'one' try focusing on meeting as many women as possible so you don't have to eat yourself up over what one particular girl will or won't do with you.
You come across as quite needy and lacking in confidence.
A woman can pick up on that right away which is why she gave you an evasive answer.
Work on not caring too much either way.
Start thinking that if a woman says no - 'So what?' - and if she says yes - don't have any expectations on how a date turns out. Just relax more.

seamus

"Yeah I suppose we could do that sometime" seems to me to be somewhat playing coy; keeping it light and breezy without being committal. It's possible even a little bit flirty, but the tone and context is lost in text so you can't see it.
This gives the leeway that you want - you can both meet for a casual drink, see how you get on and if you don't set eachother's world on fire, then you can part ways without things being awkward in future.

She may not be crazy into you, but that doesn't mean she's not interested. If she wasn't interested then she would have said it straight out. Don't read too much into it. Take her cue and meet her for something casual. A pub may be difficult unless you go during the day as it can be very noisy and there are ears everywhere. I would always recommend a cafe first and if you're getting on, then you can suggest bringing it over to the pub for a drink to continue the conversation.

I would however suggest that when it comes to actually asking her to meet you at X place and Y time, that you ring her on the phone. Makes a much better impression (and it's harder to say no!).