In my early 40's....gay feelings??

LegacyUser

Is it possible to realise your gay late in life????Find myself attracted to guys and to be honest a little afraid of taking the next step???Have been in relationships with ladies over the years but from time to time have found men attractive.......Anyway have been single a few years now and unsure what to do!
Told a casual lady friend a while back about my feelings confidentially and she reckoned I should try a gay relationship??
Any thoughts or advice appreciated!

Aard

Only you can tell if you're gay. Perhaps the simplest way to find out would be to try dating a guy. I'd avoid any kind of counselling, and just jump into the deep end. Better to do it and find out you're not into it, than to keep wondering.

And yes, it's possible to realise you're gay later in life.

dory

Yes, definitely possible. Why not try out a gay social event of some sort. There are lots; mountain climbing, rugby, soccer etc. There are a few gay websites that have regular nights out. Just hang out with them for a while and see how you get on. It's very possible that you may be attracted to both men and women.

Dwn Wth Vwls

I was going to say everything dory said, basically. Just remember that sexuality isn't black and white. It can change back and forth, and you can like both genders at the same time. It isn't a one-way street, and exploring it won't change anything that isn't already changed.

Heebie

It is possible to realise that you're gay late in life.. it's also possible that your body chemistry changes when you reach mid-life, or that you just start seeing things you'd never noticed before.
Most men have a "mid life crisis".. and for some of them it's realising that they're not whom they always assumed they were.

If you're currently single.. then there's nobody to be "hurt" by you experimenting.. so how's about.. you just try & get to know some gay guys. Go to a gay club instead of your local & chat some people up.

If things happen.. they happen. Let it be as "organic" as possible.. don't try to push yourself specifically into "trying a gay relationship".. just see how you get on. You might find it all comes naturally.. or that it doesn't.

Most of all.. enjoy yourself.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice.....think I will act on my feelings and see how things go!

Annasopra

struggling wrote: »

Thanks for the advice.....think I will act on my feelings and see how things go!

perhaps see what sort of social groups are available