Confused!?

LegacyUser

Basically my boss recently told me that her husband is jealous of me working with her.
He claimed to have recently seen us flirting in the office(beside the street) we work in after closing hours. The lad is a big guy, and she's told me stories about him on nights out being aggressive.
First of all im 6 years younger, she's 27, i'm 21. I'd absolutely love to get with her as she very attractive but thats obviously just a work fantasy kind of thing. We get on quite well but in my dreams would anything come of it, making the husbands suspicions all the more bizarre.
I just find it really strange that she brought it up and told me, and also quite offputting that her husband see's me as a threat to his marriage. I laughed it off at the time but have thought about it quite alot since.
I want to say something to her, confront her about it in some way but I'm just not sure what to say??

BKtje

Firstly i'd ask her why she told you in the first place. Could she have been joking around? exaggerating? Is she playing you to see your reaction? Is she worried for your safety? Why exactly?

The next thing is whether you two have indeed been flirting with eachother. If not could she have been using you to maker her husband jealous, I guess that's possible if you too have been as well?

I'm guessing this woman has the power to fire you if you become inconvenient to her/ her marriage. Is there an HR department you could go to and explain the situation to so that if that situation ever comes around then you have at least already told your side of the story.

Good luck!

NUIG_FiannaFail

Your boss is married. Therefore stay well clear from tempting her. You're a young lad and have no need to be worrying about older women. If you're finding temptation too much remember there are friends, family members and your local priest who you can talk to and they will help you steer clear.

Cheap Thrills!

She sounds attention seeking. No self respecting woman would disclose something so private and personal that her husband supposedly said to a colleague in the office. It shows extreme disloyalty to her husband.

I'll speculate that she is getting a narcissistic thrill at the thoughts of a young lad in the office desiring her and also her husband acting the caveman over her (IF he indeed did, I would by no means assume that part is true -could well be a narcissistic fabrication on her part)

Stay WELL away from this dangerous cow. The only person she is erotically attracted to is HERSELF. She will in all liklihoods use you and spit you out and then turn it back on you as the infatuated stalker which will do your position at work no good.

Please beware. Offices are full of these types.

LegacyUser

To be clearer, she was having a chat with a colleague, also a woman, and the office being quite small, doesnt suit itself to private convos, so I she mentioned to the woman about her husband being jealous, and I, naturally being curious, asked about what.
She said I'm sorry, and then told me the story.. in a lighthearted manner.
So all this was said in front of 3 people.
She isn't Irish and her english could be better so wether its a communication thing i'm not sure. She is generally quite bubbly and playful and i get on pretty well with her but i would definitely not call it flirting. I've even spoken to her husband before and he seems grand.
Theres no HR department as such, she's a manager of the particular office, with the Owner the ultimate boss, so has no real power to fire me without good reason, so maybe she was trying to get a reaction that could allow her to get me fired?