What would you do?

Doc

I was chatting to a female friend of mine at a work meal on Friday about how she was going to a game on the weekend with her husband and some friends and I told her how envious I was that she was going. She told me that she had a friend who had tickets she had been given for free from the radio station she works with but that she didn’t have anyone to go with and would I like to go with her to which I said I’d love to.

The next day I rang the girl with the tickets to arrange where and when to meet with her. She said that she would be having a meal before the game with her flatmates if I would like to meet her there for that which I said yes to.

When I meet the girl I was amazed that she hadn’t had anyone to go to the game with because she was stunning! Her flatmates had changed their mind about the meal so it was just me and her. She was talkative and fun and we seamed to get on really well.

We made our way to the game and on the way I found out that we would be meeting another guy at the stadium. She explained that originally it was going to be him and her and her flatmate going but that she had had a huge fight with this guy and for a while didn’t think she would be going with him but as she had promised him the ticket she felt she should still let him have it.

Anyway we went and saw the game which was really good chatted a bit with the guy and found out he would soon be moving away, then after we went for a drink but the other guy went off somewhere else. We had good few drinks and something small to eat again and during that time I defiantly felt she was flirting with me and I was doing the same. At one point she had said to me that people where always crashing around at their place after nights out and as I had paid for the food she would pay for a taxi and If I wanted I could stay there.

We end up going to a club that her flatmates and friends where at the guy from the match was there too we danced and I thought things where going great. She disappeared for a bit and when I went to the toilet I noticed her talking to the guy again. When I came back out I saw them kissing.

I was disappointed and jealous if I’m hoist but I figured that she didn’t owe me anything I had had a fun day and a nice evening with her and not to let it get to me. She came back to where we had our coats and bags looking really upset. She asked me what I was doing and I said I would be getting a taxi home. On the way out she kept saying that she was really sorry and that she had ruined the night and I kept saying it was fine and not to worry. We got outside and she was pretty drunk and I lived in a different direction to her but there where very few cabs around and I didn’t want to leave her on her own so when I eventually flagged one down we both got in the same cab. On the way home she was repeatedly said how sorry she was and said that the guy treated her like **** but she kept going back.

We got to her place and she offered for me to come in (part of me really wanted to) but I said no that I would go back to mine in the cab. She asked me if I was sure and when I said I was we hugged asked me to text her when I got home and she went inside.
I sent her a text when I got in saying I was home and that I hoped we could hang out again soon.

The next day I got one back thanking me for everything and apologising and saying that she hoped to see me again soon.

I sent one back saying that it was fine that I enjoyed spending time with her and would like to meet her again and she replied that it sounded like a nice plan.

Today she texted me again saying she hoped I had a good week and that she was sorry again about Saturday.

So my question is this, people of Boards.ie, what would you do? I mean I like this girl and it’s not everyday I meet a smart funny attractive girl who I find it really easy to talk to. But then again what happened that night happened and although I know in my head I have no right to feel anything about that as I had only meet the girl I still kind of do and don’t know if that would be a sign of things to come or not.

whatsamsn

Interesting post Doc.
In situations like these its always tricky. First off, I too would feel the same as you in that situation. Feel like i'm clicking with a girl, enjoying her company, then i see her kiss another guy. Let alone a guy she claims to have issues with (she did reveal she "fighted" with him over some issue) .. but lets be honest. Its pretty obvious they've dated. And he is still buzzing around the scene. More importantly, she is still letting him.


You could date her and see how things go... However ....

The other guy. If you ever did end up seeing this girl. You have to be very cautious of her. She clearly has had something with this guy. She has dated him. You may very well be leading yourself just to be strung along.

And especially, last thing you want to do is date a girl, say on a Thursday night, while two days previously she slept with someone else (that guy). If you do decide to date her, thin ice my friend.


My two cents is I would be cautious as hell to date this girl. I wouldnt want to date a girl for a while, then all for a big let down. The whole issue above you posted - She had issues with him at the start of the night, by the end was kissing him.
I think its never a good thing when you first meet someone and shortly after (first night in your case) something happens to make you stop and think "hold on a sec, is this wise?" ... I'd rather trust my gut than beat myself up for not listening to it.

Meet up with her again and see how things go.

By reading your post, you were expecting something off of her that night when you clearly shouldn't have. You two had only met that day.

Jesus, swear she went and did the dirt on you and you were bf/gf.

Doc

Mak_United wrote: »

Meet up with her again and see how things go.

By reading your post, you were expecting something off of her that night when you clearly shouldn't have. You two had only met that day.

Jesus, swear she went and did the dirt on you and you were bf/gf.

I know I asked for advice but I think you being a bit harsh to be fair.

I didn’t expect anything like that but we where getting on well and I know I had no right to fell anything about what she did. I was disappointed because I liked the girl and she kissed someone else. I certainly didn’t do anything to make her feel bad about it like storm off and leave her drunk and on her own looking for a cab. The fact is I treated her like a friend after it happened and think your low opinion of me is unjustified.

Sorry, fair enough.

I myself would have been fairly gutted as well if i thought we had something going that night only to see her kissing another lad.

You said she text you back the day after? So she obviously meant that she was sorry for what she did and wasn't just her speaking with the beer goggles on.

Meet up again, go for a meal or to the cinema and see how it go's.

By reading your post, you's had a great day but she kissed him when she had a few drinks in her. At least she came out and left with you and text back to confirm that it wasn't just the drink speaking.

minidazzler

TBH, from reading it, it seems ye had great chemistry. It's not like it was an official date anyway, or you made it seem as such.

I'd say take her out for a drink. Everyone has their baggage, hers just happens to be in the open alot earlier than most. And he is leaving soon anyway.

Give it a shot, you may as well.

metrovelvet

It sounds like she was drunk and confused. She apologised. Let it go...this time and forget about it. If it happens again then you'll have a decision to make.