The facts of life.

Otis Driftwood

With the advent of the internet people can look up anything they can possibly think about relating to sex but for those that hit puberty when the Commadore 64 was the height of technological awesomeness or before,how did you find out about sex?Did you have the birds and the bees talk with a parent,sibling or friend or none of the above?

When I was 12 or so and I was sitting in the kitchen with my mother and out of the blue she asked me did I want to know anything about sex.Obviously as a 12 year old boy I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me whole so in my embarrassment I asked her what wet dreams were to which she went onto explain in pretty medical terms this occurance.When she was finished I mumbled something about tidying my room and bid a hasty retreat and that was the last time I sought advice from her re sex.Dont get me wrong,looking back on it now I think it was wonderful that she was so approachable and open but at the time I was staggeringly embarrassed.

I reckon it would have been worse if it had been my Dad though,he is the strong silent type that used to change the channel if boobs appeared so God knows what he would have said to me.

So what about the rest of you guys and gals?Did you get "the talk"?

amacachi

Never got "the talk" because my parents knew I wasn't a retard and could work it out for myself.

sam34

amacachi, thats ott. tone it down.

the_monkey

I think my parents told me about it when i was pretty young actually,

like 5 or 6 . Best way to find out , better then be told bs by school friends.

Otis Driftwood

Maybe Im old fashioned but 5 or 6 does seem very young to me,I mean how could a child possibly process the information?

con1982

My mam sat me down when i was 10 or 11. I think it may have been the summer before I started secondary school. She had an Easons bag in her hand and she gave it to me and said i should read whats inside, I don't think she offered any advice. I opened the bag and there was a book about the facts of life. All cartoon characters. It include hygiene stuff too, not just making babies and the changes in my body. There was a section about 'heavy petting' which i remember because the guy and girl in the picture looked terrified of each other. They had one hand on the other persons knee and were seriously stretching forward to kiss. You could fit a bus between them. I still have the book somewhere around.

Probably explains my lack of success with the ladies. . . . .

mardybumbum

My parents bought me a human physiology text when I was around nine or ten. I guess they expected me to figure it out from there.
Such laziness.

Fremen

nedtheshed wrote: »

Maybe Im old fashioned but 5 or 6 does seem very young to me,I mean how could a child possibly process the information?

What's there to process? I've known about the facts of life ever since I can remember. Not the gory details, but I've been aware of sex since I was about four or five. The details just kind of filled themselves in along the way.

Relatively speaking, I think I got quite a good sex education, but there are some things which it would have been nice to know- for instance that there's a line along everyone's willy called the raphe that looks like a scar, but isn't one, or that it's easy to hurt a girl when you're having sex if you're too rough.

I reckon if I ever have kids I'll give them the talk very early, then get them a copy of the kinsey report or something similar when they hit thirteen-ish.

Stheno

Back in the dark ages I got given a book (from a Catholic bookstore) all about the facts of life from a Catholic perspective, and then had to write an essay about my understanding of what was in the book which my parents then reviewed.

There was no discussion whatsoever :eek:

TanG411

Never once got a talk or anything from my parents. I haven't a clue when I learned about the 'facts of life' either, it's just something I never questioned really.

I remember knowing from a young age though, maybe 7 or 8.

Blushingblue

con1982 wrote: »

My mam sat me down when i was 10 or 11. I think it may have been the summer before I started secondary school. She had an Easons bag in her hand and she gave it to me and said i should read whats inside, I don't think she offered any advice. I opened the bag and there was a book about the facts of life. All cartoon characters. It include hygiene stuff too, not just making babies and the changes in my body. There was a section about 'heavy petting' which i remember because the guy and girl in the picture looked terrified of each other. They had one hand on the other persons knee and were seriously stretching forward to kiss. You could fit a bus between them. I still have the book somewhere around.

Probably explains my lack of success with the ladies. . . . .

OMG, same thing happened to me! My mom just came in one day and handed me the book, no explanation or discussion.

I was in school with a group of friends talking about how we got told, and the majority of them had an older sibling tell them, and they thought it was hilarious that I was given a book!

poppyvalley

amacachi wrote: »

Never got "the talk" because my parents knew I wasn't a retard and could work it out for myself.

That's not nice

Mackman

I wasnt even given a book, one just 'appeared' in my room on my bookshelf

I remember reading it and saying to myself, "you have to have sex to have a baby?? oh i dunno if i want to do that!"

I was about 8-9 i think, cause i still thought girls were disgusting

johnmcdnl

Dictionary cough cough cough

DazMarz

Got some semblance of a talk from my mother at around 9 or 10... but that was it. Any/all other information (at least 99% of what I now know!) came from books, internet etc.

By far the most important advice any fledgling Casanova can receive: "Don't be silly, wrap your willy" or "Don't be a fool, wrap your tool" etc.:)

Snowie

Interesting I remember mine if it were yesterday....

I had a friend he wasa complete douche bag... any way he told me that if you were a comdom when you have sex you can get aids :rolleyes:...

I didn't believe it because id seen a condom...

so I asked my dad, he more or less filled me in, probably in th most casual way.... He didn't other with masturbation or wet dreams just the basic knowledge...

At which point The game Larry the lounge lizard dissapeard from the computer :pac:

Faith

I've known the facts of life for as long as I can remember really. I'd say I was about 7 or so when my mum outlined the basics of it, and over time I got books out of the library and asked her whatever questions I had. I'm an intensely curious person, so I did more then my fair share of research . By 9 I probably knew more about sex than most teenagers!

Raze_them_all

Never really got the talk, just got handed a box of condoms at 14 or 15 and was told not to be retarded

Aidric

mardybumbum wrote: »

My parents bought me a human physiology text when I was around nine or ten. I guess they expected me to figure it out from there.
Such laziness.

Likewise. My mom handed me a couple of texts and suggested that I read them in my own time.

Skuxx

Raze_them_all wrote: »

Never really got the talk, just got handed a box of condoms at 14 or 15 and was told not to be retarded

Yeah I never got a talk either, was going for a weekend away with a few mates when i was 16 or so and got handed a box of condoms and my mum jus said "be careful, i've no interest in being a granny for another few years"

mikemac

Firstly, the Commodore 64 was indeed an awesome computer.

As for me, my Dad asked was their anything I wish to know.
He was driving, I was in the passenger seat, I'd say he planned it that way to avoid eye contact

Nah, we learn all that in school.
It's true, the lady in religion class went through everything.
This was a CBS too, maybe people were suprised at that. Not sure would any of the brothers in the school have done this.