Work Colleague who won't learn to drive!

gent9662

We have a chap in our work place who is too mean to buy a car or learn how to drive. He get's all the other lads to pick him up and drop him home in the morning. We are all giving out about his lack of appreciation and meaness. The same individual spends hundreds on hobbies and will not even come out for lunch with the rest of us.

Should we stop giving the person lifts until they become a little more appreciative?

Yep

Sykk

Just because he's not stupid enough to pay for Tax/Insurance/NCT/Petrol/Maintenance.. Don't be such a hateful person.

ciagr297

and make sure you tell him why you are not giving him lifts anymore

i doubt he'll figure it out on his own by the sounds of it

easyeason3

€10 a lift in future.
He won't be long figuring out the joy of walking.

genericguy

i've never learned to drive, cos i don't want to spend ten grand on being stuck in traffic in dublin. i prefer to have the money to spend hundreds on my hobbies too, but i'd never ask anyone for a lift, ever, and rarely take it out of politeness unless someone is definitely going my way.

could you not talk to him and say you'd pick him up/drop him off for a nominal fee per week? might aswell get your petrol paid for.

geeky

dclane wrote: »

We have a chap in our work place who is too mean to buy a car or learn how to drive. He get's all the other lads to pick him up and drop him home in the morning. We are all giving out about his lack of appreciation and meaness. The same individual spends hundreds on hobbies and will not even come out for lunch with the rest of us.

Should we stop giving the person lifts until they become a little more appreciative?

Does he ask for lifts or is he offered?

If it bothers you so much, don't give him lifts if it's putting you out. And cars are a lot more expensive than most hobbies.

royston_vasey

Sykk wrote: »

Just because he's not stupid enough to pay for Tax/Insurance/NCT/Petrol/Maintenance.. Don't be such a hateful person.

So you think it's ok for him to take advantage of people's generosity?

Does he make a contribution to you or your colleagues who chauffeur him around? If not make him do so or else just stop with the lifts it may then make him more appreciative.

In the immortal words of Andy Partridge "People will always be tempted to wipe their feet on anything wth welcome written on it".

Biggins

dclane wrote: »

We have a chap in our work place who is too mean to buy a car or learn how to drive. He get's all the other lads to pick him up and drop him home in the morning. We are all giving out about his lack of appreciation and meaness. The same individual spends hundreds on hobbies and will not even come out for lunch with the rest of us.

Should we stop giving the person lifts until they become a little more appreciative?

You neglect to say if he do/don't contribute to the cost of the lifts!
If he helps with the petrol money, I don't see a problem to be honest.
Not everyone has to be a social person all the time or even half the time by others standards.

Did it ever occur to you that he might not like eating out in public? Some people are like that.
I know a few and one or two have small throat problems when swallowing so don't want to stand out if they start choking.

ejmaztec

dclane wrote: »

We have a chap in our work place who is too mean to buy a car or learn how to drive. He get's all the other lads to pick him up and drop him home in the morning. We are all giving out about his lack of appreciation and meaness. The same individual spends hundreds on hobbies and will not even come out for lunch with the rest of us.

Should we stop giving the person lifts until they become a little more appreciative?

Perhaps one of his hobbies is being a tight-arsed sponging bastard, who hates his work and the people he works with.

gent9662

Biggins wrote: »

You neglect to say if he do/don't contribute to the cost of the lifts!
If he helps with the petrol money, I don't see a problem to be honest.
Not everyone has to be a social person all the time or even half the time by others standards.

Nope he contributes nothing and never has. It's got to the stage now that he asks for lifts during the day to go and do errands etc. We have all started to refuse him on occasions. On nights out he never shouts a round and when in the taxi he gets out first so as he doesnt have to pay!

gent9662

ejmaztec wrote: »

Perhaps one of his hobbies is being a tight-arsed sponging bastard, who hates his work and the people he works with.

He has a couple of grand saved and wont buy a car but spends literally hundreds on ebay supporting his collection

easyeason3

dclane wrote: »

Nope he contributes nothing and never has. It's got to the stage now that he asks for lifts during the day to go and do errands etc. We have all started to refuse him on occasions. On nights out he never shouts a round and when in the taxi he gets out first so as he doesnt have to pay!

Well OP it sounds to me like you want him to ride you if that's the case.

Biggins

dclane wrote: »

He has a couple of grand saved and wont buy a car but spends literally hundreds on ebay supporting his collection

"He's too mean to buy a car?"

So he helps cut down instead carbon emissions by partaking in a shared vehicle, and saves a taking up parking space too so that others can further avail of ...the shameless hussey!

If he is not helping with the costs, I would have a gripe or two but going out with others, that could be a different ball game altogether.

geeky

dclane wrote: »

Nope he contributes nothing and never has. It's got to the stage now that he asks for lifts during the day to go and do errands etc. We have all started to refuse him on occasions. On nights out he never shouts a round and when in the taxi he gets out first so as he doesnt have to pay!

Then just say no to lifts and don't invite him out. Simples!

hidinginthebush

dclane wrote: »

He has a couple of grand saved and wont buy a car but spends literally hundreds on ebay supporting his collection

Wouldn't it be ironic if he collected model cars?

DOC09UNAM

If it would stop you whinging, I would say stop giving him lifts.

easyeason3

hidinginthebush wrote: »

Wouldn't it be ironic if he collected model cars?

Or just bought petrol because he liked the smell of it?

Mr Benevolent

We need to revive the 'Stingiest thing...' thread.

Eircom_Sucks

he's not my cousin by any chance

you have him to a t

also hasnt got laid in all his 20's go figure

Connavar

If he isn't out of your way when going to work I don't really see a problem with the lifts in/out.
Otherwise get some petrol money off him at least.
With regards to the errands, its fine if around once or twice a year
Taxis:make sure he sits in the middle so he can't get out first

easyeason3

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

he's not my cousin by any chance

you have him to a t

also hasnt got laid in all his 20's go figure

Too mean to part with the body fluid?

gent9662

Biggins wrote: »

So he helps cut down instead carbon emissions by partaking in a shared vehicle, and saves a taking up parking space too so that others can further avail of ...the shameless hussey!

If he is not helping with the costs, I would have a gripe or two but going out with others, that could be a different ball game altogether.

Tbh I don't really care that he doesn't have a car and I agree that if I'm going past his door it makes sense to give him a lift, i think it's just got to stage now where he assumes he is getting a lift and although he thanks everybody, it might nice for him to take the lads out for lunch or buy a round of drink (and yes he drinks) everything just seems to be about him. One of the lads refused him lift the other day as he wanted to get a lift to the post office to run an errand for somebody else.

Eircom_Sucks

easyeason3 wrote: »

Too mean to part with the body fluid?

probably

still at home at 31 , hasnt got laid in over 12 years , hasnt kissed a girl in over 7 years , too mean to spend a penny , one of these people if you borrowed 50cent he'd make sure he gets it back

Minstrel27

Is he too mean or are his work colleagues too stupid?

He is too mean yet people accommodate him with lifts. It is yourself that you should be having a moan about.

easyeason3

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

probably

still at home at 31 , hasnt got laid in over 12 years , hasnt kissed a girl in over 7 years , too mean to spend a penny , one of these people if you borrowed 50cent he'd make sure he gets it back

Your cousin lends 50cent to people?

How the fcuk did he manage to get a black American rapper to loan himself out?

DOC09UNAM

dclane wrote:

We have a chap in our work place who is too mean to buy a car or learn how to drive. He get's all the other lads to pick him up and drop him home in the morning. We are all giving out about his lack of appreciation and meaness. The same individual spends hundreds on hobbies and will not even come out for lunch with the rest of us.

dclane wrote:

Tbh I don't really care that he doesn't have a car

dclane wrote:

although he thanks everybody

WUT WUT

Eircom_Sucks

in regards to op

doesnt matter if you drive by his door , your not his keeper , if he wont pay anything and continues to be tight , id ignore them altogether

dont need people like that in your life , tell him how u feel and tell him u wont ever be giving him a lift and garauntee you , he wouldnt care so why should u

gent9662

Minstrel27 wrote: »

Is he too mean or are his work colleagues too stupid?

He is too mean yet people accommodate him with lifts. It is yourself that you should be having a moan about.

Yeah true!

ejmaztec

dclane wrote: »

Tbh I don't really care that he doesn't have a car and I agree that if I'm going past his door it makes sense to give him a lift, i think it's just got to stage now where he assumes he is getting a lift and although he thanks everybody, it might nice for him to take the lads out for lunch or buy a round of drink (and yes he drinks) everything just seems to be about him. One of the lads refused him lift the other day as he wanted to get a lift to the post office to run an errand for somebody else.

Take the seats out of your car and just leave the driver's seat. Fill the space with bin-bags full of shreaded paper.

Sykk

royston_vasey wrote: »

So you think it's ok for him to take advantage of people's generosity?

On 1 hand you have a free lift to work, probably 2 mins out of the persons way to pick you up..

On the other hand you buy a car, insurance, tax, NCT, petrol and maintenance costing you anything to €5,000+....

You're mistaking taking advantage with common sense.

Tell him to chip in for the petrol costs. But just because he doesn't want to spend a couple of thousand on a car and probably a couple thousand more over a period of time on maintenance/petrol/tolls/tax etc. doesn't make him a mean person.

If he refuses to pay, just refuse him a lift.

Biggins

dclane wrote: »

Tbh I don't really care that he doesn't have a car and I agree that if I'm going past his door it makes sense to give him a lift, i think it's just got to stage now where he assumes he is getting a lift and although he thanks everybody, it might nice for him to take the lads out for lunch or buy a round of drink (and yes he drinks) everything just seems to be about him. One of the lads refused him lift the other day as he wanted to get a lift to the post office to run an errand for somebody else.

Can understand if folk are feeling being taken advantage of.
The only solution is to start opening the mouths, having some courage and saying it to him straight "start contributing or get the bus" or words to that effect.

Anything else and the status quo will continue. The only thing getting bigger will be the resentment.
...And when that builds up in a work environment, things can get very nasty very quickly for all.

Monotype

Sounds like he's taking you for a ride.

One or twice is ok, but you have to contribute or return a favour if someone helps you out like that - and the taxi thing is preposterous. Next time that happens and there's -say- four of you. Three get into one taxi and tell him to get a taxi by himself.

Nothing wrong with not going out for lunch, I don't go out for lunch because I don't want to pay god only knows how much for a sandwich that isn't worth it, particularly when you could get a loaf of bread for half the price.

Stop giving him lifts or get him to chip in, end of problem

Quiet_thought

I can't believe he asks for lifts for his own personal errands!!
Tell him to get a bicycle or a decent pair of walking shoes :P

ejmaztec

Biggins wrote: »

Can understand if folk are feeling being taken advantage of.
The only solution is to start opening the mouths, having some courage and saying it to him straight "start contributing or get the bus" or words to that effect.

Anything else and the status quo will continue. The only thing getting bigger will be the resentment.
...And when that builds up in a work environment, things can get very nasty very quickly for all.

..or they could tell him that they're not insured to transport weirdos.

DOC09UNAM

Monotype wrote: »

Sounds like he's taking you for a ride.

One or twice is ok, but you have to contribute or return a favour if someone helps you out like that - and the taxi thing is preposterous. Next time that happens and there's -say- four of you. Three get into one taxi and tell him to get a taxi by himself.

Dont think you read the thread properly.

DOC09UNAM

DOC09UNAM wrote: »

Dont think you read the thread properly.

Don't think you read their post properly.

DOC09UNAM

Deleted User wrote: »

Don't think you read their post properly.

It's called sarcasm.

Monotype

Sykk wrote: »

On 1 hand you have a free lift to work, probably 2 mins out of the persons way to pick you up..

On the other hand you buy a car, insurance, tax, NCT, petrol and maintenance costing you anything to €5,000+....

You're mistaking taking advantage with common sense.

Having a car is extremely expensive and getting the odd lift from someone is fair. However, if people are driving you around, you should show appreciation, e.g., a round of drinks like the OP said. Round of drinks = €30 depending on size of crowd. Do this 6 times a year for less than €200. €200 < €5000 and keeps people happy.
There's no excuse for not contributing to taxi fare.

massdebater

DOC09UNAM wrote: »

WUT WUT

wut wut in the butt

theg81der

Eh....you can`t have your cake and eat it. If you decide not to drive you forfeit the drivng benefits - your lifes a bit harder, can`t get certain places, places take longer to get to etc. Wheres his forfeit?

Do you guys just enjoy the bitchin or what? Surely you slag him about his stingeyness? Sound to me like he`s got some mental health issues....why did you say you are friends with him again?

Monotype

DOC09UNAM wrote: »

Dont think you read the thread properly.

Deleted User wrote: »

Don't think you read their post properly.

DOC09UNAM wrote: »

It's called sarcasm.

It was an intentional pun. Yeah, it was bad.:rolleyes:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=taken+for+a+ride

DOC09UNAM

Monotype wrote: »

It was an intentional pun. Yeah, it was bad.:rolleyes:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=taken+for+a+ride

Lol, i know what it means, I was making a joke too(based on your pun), only one that didn't seem to get it was the dude who jumped in.

Biggins

ejmaztec wrote: »

..or they could tell him that they're not insured to transport weirdos.

That too! :pac:

DOC09UNAM

DOC09UNAM wrote: »

Lol, i know what it means, I was making a joke too(based on your pun), only one that didn't seem to get it was the dude who jumped in.

Nope. Was more just highlighting your lame ass attempt at a joke. Why do so many AH'ers seem to think that every thread must contain puns?

DOC09UNAM

Deleted User wrote: »

Nope. Was more just highlighting your lame ass attempt at a joke. Why do so many AH'ers seem to think that every thread must contain puns?

We both made puns, i'm sure we both laughed to ourselves.

Why do you think you are above everyone else??

If you don't like AH, don't read it.