Really confused (inexperienced)

LegacyUser

Hi guys, I am really confused and I need your help. I have been talkin to this girl for months now and we have gotten so close that she automatically chats to me on msn every night for hours and she has even came on a walk with me a few weeks ago. She has even told me that she loves me and calls me hubby lol.

I have been told by her friends that she think i'm a ''Babe'' and the first time I met her she told me I was georgeous.

Thing is she talks to me about other men that she fancys and in the last couple of weeks I find she has gotten a bit more dismissive with me or somthing. She has also turned down coming out with me which is somthing she never has done before.

I am really inexperienced with girls and well I would like to ask her out but there is a few things in the way..

1. There is a little age difference 16 - 18
2. she is much more experienced than me which is somthing I am embaressed about.
3. I am afraid she thinks of me as a friend at this stage
4. I am extremely bad in social settings and I have turned down a few invites from her.

Do you think it's possible she is annoyed at me cause I aint asked her out? and do you think I can get over these issues?

HavingCrack

help me please....... wrote: »

Hi guys, I am really confused and I need your help. I have been talkin to this girl for months now and we have gotten so close that she automatically chats to me on msn every night for hours and she has even came on a walk with me a few weeks ago. She has even told me that she loves me and calls me hubby lol.

I have been told by her friends that she think i'm a ''Babe'' and the first time I met her she told me I was georgeous.

Thing is she talks to me about other men that she fancys and in the last couple of weeks I find she has gotten a bit more dismissive with me or somthing. She has also turned down coming out with me which is somthing she never has done before.

I am really inexperienced with girls and well I would like to ask her out but there is a few things in the way..

1. There is a little age difference 16 - 18
2. she is much more experienced than me which is somthing I am embaressed about.
3. I am afraid she thinks of me as a friend at this stage
4. I am extremely bad in social settings and I have turned down a few invites from her.

Do you think it's possible she is annoyed at me cause I aint asked her out? and do you think I can get over these issues?

You took too long to make a move on her-end of. You even went on a walk with her and didn't try for a kiss Girls will only wait around for a guy to move in for a kiss or ask them on a date for so long before they start to think 'hmmm maybe he isn't interested in me' and she'll move onto someone else. You could just ask her out but I wouldn't get my hopes up on her saying yes. I reckon you just chalk this down to experience and the next time a girl shows such signals just go for it, the worst that'll happen is she'll say no .

LegacyUser

Make a move quick or the chance will be gone. Of course shes dismissive of you, shes been giving you glaringly obvious signals and youve done nothing!

Beruthiel

help me please....... wrote: »

I have been talkin to this girl for months now and we have gotten so close that she automatically chats to me on msn every night for hours and she has even came on a walk with me a few weeks ago. She has even told me that she loves me and calls me hubby

All of the above are clear indicators that she liked you.

Thing is she talks to me about other men that she fancys and in the last couple of weeks I find she has gotten a bit more dismissive with me or somthing. She has also turned down coming out with me which is somthing she never has done before.

She dropped loads of (all be it subtle) hints that she liked you. You ignored them. So she now reckons you're not interested and she's starting to move on.

If you like her, move fast and tell her before she's gone for good!

LegacyUser

HavingCrack wrote: »

You took too long to make a move on her-end of. You even went on a walk with her and didn't try for a kiss

Well this was when I was only getting to know her. At that stage I wasnt sure if she liked me or not. I didn't want to go near her unless I was 100% sure. I do actually regret it now f**k

HavingCrack

help me please............... wrote: »

Well this was when I was only getting to know her. At that stage I wasnt sure if she liked me or not. I didn't want to go near her unless I was 100% sure. I do actually regret it now f**k

Why The worst that'll happen is she pushes you away and says no and you'll know one way or the other. I never bought the 'getting to know them' idea either. You've plenty of time to get to know the girl once you've kissed and you know she's interested.

muboop1

I suppose the most important thing you've learnt is that nothing is certain but the past. In future you may have to just take your chances, waiting until you are certain is just silly, if you like her, go for it.

Do not over think it. Worst that happens is you get rejected. I'd take rejection any day over regretting a chance that could of been...

Zen65

help me please....... wrote: »

Do you think it's possible she is annoyed at me cause I aint asked her out? and do you think I can get over these issues?

Yes, you can. The clock is ticking though, act fast.


Be at peace,

Z

Sephiroth_dude

Having read your post,sounds to me like your in the friend zone.

katie99

Ask her out this weekend. Tell her you really like her.
Don't be shy about it. Be up front. What's the worst thing can happen?
She says no. At least it will put you out of your misery once and for all.
But you do really like her and so you need to let her know. Then it is up to her.
And remember if she rejects you, it is her loss.
Go for it and best of luck.