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RuehlTheWorld

Not trying to be mischievous, it's a (relatively, though some may disagree) important question. I've been seeing a guy for a little while, and we've gotten close enough to the point of sex being a serious consideration. I'm completely unexperienced but also know that I'm ready, and we're ready as a couple.

So, as a bottom, are there any preparatory measures to consider in terms of hygiene, shall I say? I hope you can catch my drift here. It's just I've not much of an idea what to expect, and what's required.


If this in anyway inappropriate (I don't think so, though) just delete away.

LGiamani

If you go ahead with it make sure you use plenty of lube and a condom.
The guy on top will need to be very gentle with you and the first sex will not be as exicting as you wanted to be but with a little care it will be enjoyable as you anus will be used to your partners business. Remember if too much pain do'nt continue with the sex.

Annasopra

You need Pantis Guide to bottoming

SO YOU’VE DECIDED TO TAKE IT UP THE ASS…

Well, Granny is here to help.



First of all, you need to relax. And I don’t mean your ass (we’ll get to that shortly). I mean your head. At this stage you’ve built it up into this huge thing (you should be so lucky!) and that’s not going to help. Remember, millions of people take it up the ass everyday (lucky bastards!) and although you’re special in very many ways Chicken, there is nothing special about your ass, and you too can get ****ed and love it. So stop worrying about it. The more you build it up the harder it’ll be to relax and enjoy it. And you will enjoy it. Getting ****ed can be an incredible experience, physically and mentally.



Physically, you feel a kind of intense pleasure that is unique and can’t be replicated any other way. It’s a kind of pleasure that you don’t even know your body can give you yet. In the same way that your dick gives you pleasure in a way that no other part of your body can, so can your ass, and it’s not something you should be afraid of. You should be excited and looking forward to it.



Mentally, getting ****ed can also be an intense and glorious feeling. Sometimes, when someone’s dick is inside you, when another person is actually inside you, it can feel like the two of you have in a way, become one person. Rather than being just you, with all your weaknesses and insecurities, you are now part of a bigger, more powerful organism. Of course when you’re ****ing with someone you love, that feeling is most intense. You’re actually joined to the other person. Literally ‘joined at the hip’. But even with a random trick, (especially if you’re high!) you can get that feeling. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard the expression “the beast with two backs” to describe sex, but sometimes when you’re getting ****ed, that expression makes total sense.



I know you’re worried about it being painful, but if you take your time and don’t get scared, it shouldn’t be painful at all. However, it will be uncomfortable. And it should be! But it’s the kind of discomfort that comes with feeling anything intensely. You know when you’re stiff and tired and you have a big s-t-r-e-t-c-h. It’s a little uncomfortable, your muscles might even hurt for a second, but it’s a pleasurable kind of discomfort that goes hand-in-hand with the pleasure. Feeling anything at all is a kind of discomfort and getting ****ed is the same. But it shouldn’t be painful, and if it is painful, it means you should stop for a moment, relax, and the slowly continue. Of course with experience, you’ll get to know your ass and your body better, and then sometimes you’ll recognise the kind of pain it is and know whether you need to stop, or whether you can just push through it because you know it’ll be gone in a second. As with everything, practice makes perfect Chicken!



So, where do you begin?



First, you need to get to know your ass. Go to the loo so it’s clean. (If you have a detachable shower attachment you could douche gently with luke-warm water too). Then squat, or lie down on your side if you prefer. Lube your ring and your middle finger, and then slowly and gently ‘soften’ your ring with gentle circular motions, and gently add pressure till your finger slips into your bum. Concentrate on relaxing your hole.



Your bum has two ‘rings’ or sphincters. These are two doughnut shapes muscles. The outside one is the ring you’re familiar with and it’s fairly easy to relax. Test it on your finger. Squeeze and relax. Concentrate on what your doing with the muscle and how you’re doing it. Breath deeply and let your ring go loose. Your body isn’t used to letting your ring relax when you’re not pushing crap out so you need to concentrate on it. You know when you really need to crap and you rush to the toilet and you sit down and you need to go so badly that you don’t need to push at all? You just relax your hole and your **** just rushes out on its own? That kind of relaxing is what you’re aiming for. Move your finger in and out and around in circles slowly, all the time letting your ass be relaxed and loose. Gently push out to the sides as you’re making circular motions and you’ll feel it getting looser. Take your finger out and use your index finger instead. Make sure it’s well lubed too! Then when you feel ready, use both. (Using your thumb can be good too because it gently gets wider at the base.)



And always concentrating on relaxing remember!



Once you’re comfortable in there, if you push in a few inches, you’ll (probably) find a block. This is your other sphincter. It’s basically the same as your outside ring. This one is harder to relax consciously, because we’re not used to it. Finger it gently and similarly try to push through it. Here’s where you really need to be as relaxed as possible because we don’t usually even think about this muscle, let alone try to use it consciously. You’re probably thinking this all sounds like a lot of trouble, but it’ll be much easier if you know exactly what you’re asking your body to do. And you may feel silly when you’re doing it but so what? And remember, the rewards are worth it!

Of course this is where poppers help too!



You might feel some soreness as you stretch your hole, but go slowly and be confident that it passes very quickly as your ring loosens. With plenty of lube, slowly **** yourself with your fingers, in and out, twisting… always relaxing.

You should try to enjoy this ass play, but sometimes it helps to be kind of clinical about it. Like you’re a medical student exploring and learning about the ass and how it works.

And remember to concentrate on relaxing your ass! Breath. Slow deep breaths. As you breath out, really relax inside.



Now, when it comes to the deed itself.



It may be a bit un-sexy, but to be practical, a trip to the toilet is a good idea first. Having to stop because it’s getting messy can be a real passion killer.



First off, don’t be shy, and tell the guy you’ve never been ****ed but want to be. This will not put him off. It’ll be exciting for him. Cherries always are Chicken! Tell him you need to go slowly and gently and that you need to be warmed up.

And you need to trust him to go slowly. When it hurts, say so, and he’ll go gently. If you’re afraid or anxious you won’t be able to relax. And remember that it will be a little sore at times as he works it, but the soreness is always temporary if you relax. It passes quickly as your hole stretches, and you need to be confident of that. But if there’s a sharp pain, stop for a second, relax, and try again gently.



Get him to open you up slowly. Plenty of lube. Using his fingers. Playing with your ass. And don’t be shy about using your own fingers to get you started if you want. You can do it while you’re kissing him or sucking him. Use poppers if you want, but don’t go crazy. You don’t want to go too fast.



When you’re ready to try taking his dick, you might want to sit on him at first so you have the control. However this position can be harder to relax your ass in because you have you use your leg muscles when astride him. If you trust him, ass in the air might be easier. But often, to start with, it’s good to be on top and be able to control everything.



When his knob first goes through your outside sphincter, it’ll probably hurt a little, but if you’re relaxed, warmed up, and lubed up, it won’t hurt bad and will be very fleeting. Your ring accommodates very quickly. The same with your inner sphincter. Get him to go slowly. You need to let his cock slowly inside you through the inner ring. This is where a big deep breath will help while concentrating on letting him in. I find that pushing out like you’re having a crap can help because that tells your body to open up. You know sometimes if you’re having a really big, firm crap and as it starts to come out of you, it can kind of hurt for a second, and you take a breath in and almost kind of quiver as it stretches you as it’s coming out? Well a cock going in can feel the same. It hurts a little for a second, you stretch out to accommodate it, and then it slips in smoothly with a big groan of relief.



Remember, go slowly, as slow a s you want, plenty of lube, relax, and enjoy it! It’s not a trial, it’s a joy. It feels amazing Chicken. You’ll love it! And have confidence that if you go slowly and gently, any soreness will pass in a couple of seconds if you relax through it. With practice it gets much easier, and some of that is getting used to controlling your sphincter, but it’s also getting to know with confidence that the soreness of stretching out passes in seconds, and even getting to enjoy the discomfort as part of the pleasure. Sometimes, your body will feel some pain and will automatically contract/clench. When that happens, don’t freak out. Breath and relax into it. Relax the muscles. Picture your ring in your head and relax it. Porn stars make it all look so easy, but they’ve had plenty of practice, and more importantly, they’ve been well stretched and douched before we see them.



So remember,

Go slowly

Lube

Finger play

Relax

Really concentrate on relaxing your ass muscles

Be confident that any soreness will pass in seconds if you go gently

Love it

It’s a whole new world of pleasure Chicken that keeps on giving as you keep on taking. Remember, there’s nothing special about you when it comes to getting ****ed Chicken. There are millions of people taking it up the ass right this second Lover, and they’re loving it! So will you.

Aard

Anyone else feel like puking after reading that?!

Nevyn

Nope the only think I think which is left out is trim your nails

Stark

Aard wrote: »

Anyone else feel like puking after reading that?!

No, not really into the whole emetophilia thing myself, but each to his own. The anal play sounds fun though.

St._Andalou

Just douche to make sure you're clean, otherwise it's a real passion killer.

oisindoyle

RuehlTheWorld wrote: »

Not trying to be mischievous, it's a (relatively, though some may disagree) important question. I've been seeing a guy for a little while, and we've gotten close enough to the point of sex being a serious consideration. I'm completely unexperienced but also know that I'm ready, and we're ready as a couple.

So, as a bottom, are there any preparatory measures to consider in terms of hygiene, shall I say? I hope you can catch my drift here. It's just I've not much of an idea what to expect, and what's required.


If this in anyway inappropriate (I don't think so, though) just delete away.

So youre gay and you met someone ,good for you ,thats nice .BUT can i ask you this ,,why do you think or feel that you need to have anal sex??You dont you know ,Lots of gay men dont engage in anal sex,,and still have lots of fun.
Just food for thought!

IrishTonyO

RuehlTheWorld wrote: »

Not trying to be mischievous, it's a (relatively, though some may disagree) important question. I've been seeing a guy for a little while, and we've gotten close enough to the point of sex being a serious consideration. I'm completely unexperienced but also know that I'm ready, and we're ready as a couple.

So, as a bottom, are there any preparatory measures to consider in terms of hygiene, shall I say? I hope you can catch my drift here. It's just I've not much of an idea what to expect, and what's required.


If this in anyway inappropriate (I don't think so, though) just delete away.

Make sure you douche beforehand and use condom and lube. Still curious though if you are totally inexperienced how do you know you are a bottom??

RuehlTheWorld

oisindoyle wrote: »

So youre gay and you met someone ,good for you ,thats nice .BUT can i ask you this ,,why do you think or feel that you need to have anal sex??You dont you know ,Lots of gay men dont engage in anal sex,,and still have lots of fun.
Just food for thought!

Because we really like each other and like to express it physically as well as emotionally (and yes I know there are other ways). This seems like the next logical step in terms of expressing what we feel.

RuehlTheWorld

IrishTonyO wrote: »

Make sure you douche beforehand and use condom and lube. Still curious though if you are totally inexperienced how do you know you are a bottom??

Well I guess I don't know entirely, but he's a top. So I might as well see!

Sir Ophiuchus

Aard wrote: »

Anyone else feel like puking after reading that?!

Em, no. What exactly disgusted you about a fun yet medically complete discussion of anal sex between two men?

oisindoyle

RuehlTheWorld wrote: »

Because we really like each other and like to express it physically as well as emotionally (and yes I know there are other ways). This seems like the next logical step in terms of expressing what we feel.

Logical ? It doesn't come across that way at all .With no disrespect ,you say you are inexperienced ,you go on a forum and ask for advice on anal sex ,then say it's the next logical step !
Seems strange to me seems like you feel YOU HAVE to do it ,when in reality you dont .

LGiamani

I hope whoever "tops" you has been paying into the bank of love for sometime and is deserving of your gift to him. I had anal sex preformed on me once and it was pretty sore and definetly not fun. I will give head till the cows come home but not anal. I have a special who I visit now and then a real dish and for fun we dress up as anything from guards to doctors and get our rocks off. A guy has to be pretty special and I hope your guy is be safe

Aard

Sir Ophiuchus wrote: »

Em, no. What exactly disgusted you about a fun yet medically complete discussion of anal sex between two men?

Its graphicness. I'm not a prude, yet reading a walkthrough about internal sphincters and such triggers a gag-reflex of sorts in me. At any rate, my comment was light-hearted and non-judgemental.

hare05

Aard wrote: »

Its graphicness. I'm not a prude, yet reading a walkthrough about internal sphincters and such triggers a gag-reflex of sorts in me. At any rate, my comment was light-hearted and non-judgemental.

I gotta agree here. As much pleasure as there is to be had, I still consider the anus to be... an exit only.

(if I was on any other forum, I'd expect a flurry of responses saying "how the hell are you gay?" XD )

kisaragi

Woah... people seem to be pretty negative about the whole anal sex thing in here! If you want to have it then great It CAN be painful but only if you don't take the time to warm-up/stretch a bit first Infact... it might help if you stretch yourself everyday for a few days before you do it... I find that if you're doing it frequently then it takes less time to "prepare" but if you don't do it for a long time then you'll be quite tight... Whatever uncomfortableness you might feel should pass after a minute or two, and then it feels amazing!

It's not as big a deal as you might have built it up to be... just relax, be safe and enjoy it!

Aard

hare05 wrote: »

I gotta agree here. As much pleasure as there is to be had, I still consider the anus to be... an exit only.

You may have misunderstood; my opinion was on the text, not the act.

Nevyn

I think it straddled nicely the gap between being too coy and being too graphic and not being overly clinical.

baby and crumble

I think it straddled nicely the gap

Giggidy.

Sorry. I think I know what people are thinking, it's a bit weird to read those words in such a context, even if anal is awesome, it still seems a bit... clinical is totally the wrong word, i don't know... like, matter-of-fact... which I know it should be... I dunno. I guess I have a personal belief that sex should be a bit spontaneous, and the detail this goes into with the whole preparation thing... I dunno.

God, none of that made sense... :rolleyes:

Annasopra

I know this was posted on the other thread but the OP of this thread should get this advice too

No-one should feel pressurised into having Anal or Oral sex


A 2006 study by the Dept of Health showed that 70% of gay men reported never having anal sex and 27% of gay men reported never having oral sex.

zinx

Aard wrote: »

Anyone else feel like puking after reading that?!

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Hurling Mad

I have had the pleasure of giving anal sex twice to 2 different ladies, may I add who were married and husbands just wouldnt go there and my wife wouldnt let me either. It was the most erotic experience of my life and the pleasure given and receiven was magical. So dont knock it cos when Masturbating I often I often stimulate my ass, which is a brilliant experience.

zinx

Did anyone here ever do "The hamster and condom" act? or is it an urban myth?

azezil

zinx wrote: »

Did anyone here ever do "The hamster and condom" act? or is it an urban myth?

Urban myth -_-

baby and crumble

Please don't dig up year old threads just to boast, thanks!